David, you may have heard this advise before but I will say it just to be sure. If possible try to meet women in real life who you meet at work/school or through friends. In my experience, it is substantially easier to date them that way. I am not sure why. May be it's because I am brown and they need real life interaction to feel at ease with me. But I have noticed a WORLD of difference in the response that I get . I know in your work(just like mine), there aren't many women but then it may be a good idea to think of ways to expand your network if possible. I have pretty much zero chance to get the level of women through online dating that I have gotten through real life interaction in the past. Not even close.
It's really hard to meet women in "real life".
At work, most people around my age are in long-term relationships, though a few of the men are single.
I'm going to meetups, it's mostly old people though.
I did sign up for cooking classes. I don't expect to meet anybody there. I didn't in my prior cooking classes.
I have no bar game to speak of.
Honestly,y I've done lots of cooking and yoga classes in the past few years and didn't meet anybody. I suppose if I were very good looking I could flirt with them, but otherwise I'd be a "creeper". That's the term some women use for unattractive men who approach them. Women go to yoga class to do yoga, and go to cooking class to cook, that's all, they don't want anything to get in the way of that unless "oh, he's kind of cute !"
I'm trying to set up a life for myself, but honestly I have no expectations about meeting women there. I'm doing this stuff for fun.
I did make a great female friend at a movies meetup club in canberra, but she was ten years older than me and didn't want children. Some sexual tension there. But no possibility of effective romance. "Real life" isn't that efficient. We all went for hot chocolate after the meetup. She said what she liked about me is that I asked other people what they think about the movie (It was the excellent
Me Before You starring the delectable Emilia Clarke), rather than just talk about what I think. But either real life means a small number of people.