@IdealForehead ,
What I can asses of your non-looks is that you are strikingly intelligent, you communicate clearly, you're a giving person, you work hard, and both your income and wealth are noticeably above average. You're also not an emotional eunuch, you do actually feel things and you can feel disappointment and anger when appropriate, but you do so in a proportional level, without turning into a psycho. You can discuss and debate things on this forum with supporting arguments from both reason and experience, and you do so without being a condescending a**h** as is typical on the internet.
Those are strong, positive traits. You would certainly be doing fabulously with women if general blue pill ideology was a correct description of the world. You were dismissed as not having confidence, but you do show confidence in some contexts: you're willing to shift your financial investments, you trust in your ability to learn of fairly esoteric cosmetics procedures and obscure pharmaceuticals, these are meaningful indicators. There is also confidence in acknowledging one's failures and limitations: most men cannot do so.
As for not getting matches on PoF and Match, I used to get rare matches and dates on PoF and eHarmony. I don't see myself trying at those locations again as they're turning into ghost towns. These women aren't even logging in to reject us in the first place.