Taugenichts said:
neo1234 said:
my suggestion is , just ask someone in real life how you look. it takes some balls but its worth the effort in long term. maybe go to a club and ask any girl you approach. i know it takes many balls to do that.
but just do it. or you will never come away from that "i am ugly" perspective.
dont be like a girl. guys arent ugly or pretty. they are just men.
Well, this may sound like a good idea in theory, but I doubt it would work. Most women wouldn´t be honest since they don´t want to seem cruel and say some PC $#iT. It is like when they are telling their boyfriends "Size doesn´t matter" even though deep inside it does matter to them......
its not only good in theory. i know you dont have friends and probably you dont believe your family coz family always says nice things.
do you know some people at your university maybe to who you have good contact? if not then try to get such, if you do have, then ask them!
if its guys, they will tell you the truth if you ask them for their honest opinion. maybe the idea with a girl a club wasnt so good. maybe this with guys at university could work.
really, everyone in here says you look normal. why should they lie to you? you know how critical everyone in here is with looks? my opinion is the same, you look normal. okay. maybe do you believe me? its my honest opinion. i dont have any reason to "make you feel better" or any other bullshit. and so dont have the others. they just give you their honest opinion. you know, they even said that ccs' girl is ugly. but yet , they didnt say you are ugly.
why not believe us? well, at your standards, i dont know them, but they seem very high, maybe then you are "ugly". okay, compared to david beckham, you are "ugly". but what does that say? nearly every guy is "ugly" compared to david beckham.
i got a girl friend. once in school, another girl told her that her nose was very big. it wasnt even meant as an insult. but yet she still thinks that her nose is too big. i saw her nose and its pretty normal.
you got told by kids from school you are ugly? that doesnt mean anything . i dont know why they did it.
you know what matters? its how other people especially girls see your appearance. and even heterosexuel men, which most in here are, can pretty good say if you look "ugly" "normal" or "handsome" . all said you look "normal". so you can assume that you look "normal". its a honest opinion from everyone.
they dont try to make you feel better! yet they laugh at you , because you think you are ugly. you know some people in here already make fun of you coz you think you are "ugly". doesnt that make you think about it?
that you maybe look normal and not "ugly"? doesnt that come to your mind if you think about these facts?
forget these kids. kids are very bad in saying if someone looks good or not.
so again, my honest opinion and the one of all others in here is, you look normal. accept that.
people out there see you the same. people in here are not other than the people at your university. they are even very much the same, coz they are in the same age. its not that some 50 years old tell you that you look normal.
see if we would like to make you feel good , we would say you look handsome. but we dont coz we give you our honest opinion.
okay enough repeating.
i hope i helped you.