I logged in to respond to respond to private messages and I see this.
I don't know if you realize the irony, but you accuse me of not letting go and here you are perseverating, several months later. You're generally a good poster as well, but really -- it's time to move on.
I was somewhat offended by your post but I see that you're firing in several directions toward several people. I am sorry about whatever's happening with you, but I hope things get better so you can remind us again of the terrific, substantive and insightful writer who has taught us so much about people, relationships, self improvement, and the business world. Your ~95 page tinder experiment thread remains one of my most educational experience here.
I didn't and will not read most of the last few pages. I'll say that
@CaptainForehead and
@blackg are both posters I perceive as kind and as contributors to the forum. They have their own demons which they don't always talk about, but they deserve a safe space here, particularly as they are not belligerent agents.