OKCupid Chat: Girl Considers Dumping Balding Boyfriend

Joan

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actually i would go under that description. maybe not ugly but a bit below average.

Ethnic, yes, and there's nothing wrong with that. How are you weird? I saw the picture on your profile, and you're not below average to me. I see a lot of young Hispanics every day in the neighborhood where I work, and you look like them pretty much. You've got the perfect look for some tattoos and an earring. There's a NW6 or 7 white guy, probably early 30s, I see every day. He's got that edgy look, and it does it for him. He wears glasses too and is just average looking. His clothes are trendy too.
 

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Ethnic, yes, and there's nothing wrong with that. How are you weird? I saw the picture on your profile, and you're not below average to me. I see a lot of young Hispanics every day in the neighborhood where I work, and you look like them pretty much. You've got the perfect look for some tattoos and an earring. There's a NW6 or 7 white guy, probably early 30s, I see every day. He's got that edgy look, and it does it for him. He wears glasses too and is just average looking. His clothes are trendy too.
well that was when i had hair though. but thanks anyways.
 

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well that was when i had hair though. but thanks anyways.

But your face hasn't changed. That's what I was referring to. Anyway, once you finish school and get a job, you can save up for a hair transplant. Try to keep your focus on that. That's how I keep myself from getting really down about my son's hair loss. Hopefully, baldness will only be temporary.
 

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And what about detection? Imagine if you're becoming intimate with a woman, she feels your head, and feels no stubble or anything. Just a smooth surface. That would be just about as bad as wearing a wig.
 

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I agree with Fred you could get that done then ad some density. Alot of Spanish pple have shaved heads. Get a tattoo pull of the Latin king look..Jk.

Also its a little different from a wig in my opinion. A wig your trying to pull off long hair when your bald. SMP give the appearance you shaving your head. Both deceitful. But atleast SMP cant fall off and isnt trying to pull of lushish locks.

Also my friend bics his head and there isnt a 3d effect but he does it everyday.
 

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yea i'm probably gonna get a hair transplant at some point in the future. its just i hope i can get a job with an associate's since i'm about to get one, otherwise i will have to go to college to get a good job. and i'm already bald so i'll have to go to college as a baldie

and thats something i'm trying to avoid of course, although i think it might have to be done :(

i've applied for a million minimum wage jobs but theyre very hard to get without connections or experience

damn i swear if i had went bald after college and being established at a job it would be nowhere near as bad. even just from being able to fix it after saving up some. i'm not established so i dont have the money to just go out and get an hair transplant
 

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This topic is no surprise to any of us that some women feel like this, and it's cruel and hard to read, is it a majority? I don't know, we can always look at polls and stuff but everyone always picks apart the voters etc. and we don't really get anywhere.

I will say this, how many guys want a bald woman? It's just hilarious how we can sit back and call women superficial and judgemental, we're probably worse. At least baldness in men is somewhat expected, it's not as much of a shock, even if it looks awful for 95% of guys.
 

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But judging from your other observations in clubs this club you go to sounds like some fictional great gig in the sky. Were hot girls pulling guys off the dance floor and ****ing them in the bathrooms and alleys, and inexplicably ignoring handsome dudes because they aren't "physically compatible"?

Just kidding (kind of) but of course drunk guys want to **** anything, it doesn't mean they're proud of what they're getting or aren't judging them superficially.
 

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Fuckin brutal thread

Also fuckin brutal results on google when u search "bald + not attracted anymore"

Why do you reply to such old threads?Christmas depression??

There is also always a counter study:rolleyes::rolleyes:

Here's a survey of what women find unattractive about a man: (It's in german language)

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Translate:

What is unattractive: (2586 women where asked)

spectacle wearers 8%
Grey Hairs 10 %
abdominal approach 10%
Baldness 11 %


Most unattractive:
Body and bad breath 95 %
Bad teeth 85 %
be fat 65%
Small body size 55 %
 

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Why do you reply to such old threads?Christmas depression??

There is also always a counter study:rolleyes::rolleyes:

Here's a survey of what women find unattractive about a man: (It's in german language)

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Translate:

What is unattractive: (2586 women where asked)

spectacle wearers 8%
Grey Hairs 10 %
abdominal approach 10%
Baldness 11 %


Most unattractive:
Body and bad breath 95 %
Bad teeth 85 %
be fat 65%
Small body size 55 %

I'd say it's more like 11% find baldness acceptable.

When girls think "bald" they think of the one muscley 9/10 God they're actually attracted to, or Statham, or even someone who's got stubble as "bald".

Think of this:

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Not this:

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I was going to post the typical Slybald meme but if you look at this guys face he'd actually be average with hair, what's your first impression when you scroll to the picture? Far from average. He's got a lot of clawing back to do if he wants to do better than an obese single mom.

I'd say the same with grey hair, they're thinking of George Clooney, but for a normal 30 year old majorly grey guy this is a significant hit to his attractiveness, it's just odd looking (not as bad as baldness though). I've known some guys in their 40's who are grey and I'm not exaggerating when they look easily 60 even 70 (also have bad complexion as well though).

Anyway like I've always maintained, baldness is still not the end of the line, it just has awful repercussions for your personal life and life is f*****g hard enough without having to cope with extra hurdles that people don't even have sympathy for or acknowledge as a real issue.

And the major hurdle? Dealing with losing minimum 1 point of attractiveness, likely 2-3 points maybe 4.

So while women may even honestly answering that baldness "is not unattractive" they're thinking of a guy who's already bald, and still within their dating range. If it's an average woman she's thinking of a bald guy who's 6/10 as a bald guy, but forgetting this means he was previously a 7 or 8 with hair, and that's just a whole new level of hotness for most women.

For the hypothetical 6/10, he went from getting regular easy attention from average to attractive women, if he was remotely smart got to bang enough 7+ women out there, and now he has to try hard with average women and hope for a relationship with a 5 who may even have some side-issue (single mom, especially dumb/unfunny, overweight, considerably older) instead of possibly casual sex with actual attractive women, and the luxury of choice and options of attractive women he might want to pursue a relationship with.

That is some drop, and you can't expect that guy to take that lightly. The bitterness he'll hold on to will not pass easily, mentally it would require being completely f*****g broken down and basically starting from scratch on how to be happy with your new life.

And that's for an attractive guy, for one who's average like above? He's down at like a 3 now, that's no man's land. This is what the majority of guys have to put up with, either incel future or having to force yourself to get an erection with the subbest of subpar women.

So this is the major hurdle, it's not just about settling with a woman who looks at you as within her dating range as bald, and even if she's totally accepting of that, you have to also be accepting of the fact you're dropping down a few notches to be with her, and that's a major thing to deal with. This is going to cause bitterness and tension that you would be one of the very few strong willed people who can overcome it and not let it strain on your relationship and personal well-being.

I didn't mean to rant on like this but venting at Christmas feels so good.

BONUS UN-RELATED DISCOVERY:

Meet Regan Gascoigne, the son of footballer Paul, and he's a model:
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Albeit not a very successful model, because although the gut instinct is to see that damn hair and assume he's attractive, look at what he actually looks like:

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This guy without hair is an abomination. With hair he can almost somewhat pass as an Instagram male model, though it probably takes literally dozens of photos of him to take a good one, and what of course will be the main focal point in trying to take a decent photo of this guy:

Hair.
 

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I feel sorry for those two women in the threads original post. Wouldn't blame them of they turned to abusing pornography.
 

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View attachment 74432 Saw this while swiping on Bumble

Give her that right swipe.

tfw I'm going on a Bumble date on Saturday night
tfw I feel like backing out because I lurked the girl's FB and she looks nothing like her photos on Bumble

I think I'm still going to go for kicks. If it sucks, just never speak to her again lol.
 

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Give her that right swipe.

tfw I'm going on a Bumble date on Saturday night
tfw I feel like backing out because I lurked the girl's FB and she looks nothing like her photos on Bumble

I think I'm still going to go for kicks. If it sucks, just never speak to her again lol.
Ahaha I swiped left, then not too long ago I saw her again. If it's a third time I see her I'll swipe right, why the f*** not lol. I've actually had more success meeting with women on Bumble than tinder. tinder is more for validation I think, haven't been on a tinder date in a long time. Does your date at least have a nice body?
 
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