s.a.f said:
MichiganBaldy said:
I guess alot comes down to how you carry yourself, confidence how 'thick skinned' you are ect.
But look at CCS is there anyone on this forum who is more concerned about how others see/percieve him? Does he seem like a guy who has much respect from those around him?
And wether you like it or not the media and society's views are connected/influenced and do count. It takes a unique type of person to be able to say I dont care what people think about my piece. Because most people do care about what their freinds, co-workers ect think about them.
And I think theres a big difference between how a guy in his 20's wearing hair is going to be judged by other people his age and how an older guy will be judged by older people.
Theres a guy I work with in his late 30's who dyes his hair and wears fake tan and people rip the piss about that behind his back, whatever else he does he's always seen as odd and superficial. People wonder why a man feels the need fake these aspects of his appearance especially at his age. Maybe theres a difference between the US and the UK and these things are more accepted. :dunno:
I think the US follows what the UK and other european countries do. All the styles, trends, attitudes and fashions start there then come here.
Alot of people here like to think we are the center of everything, but I`ve traveled abroad quite a bit and happened to have been taught thats how it goes and we`re pretty much the same.
Most everyone at any work environment gossips about everyone else, alot of times very negatively and viciously too dont they?
Yes, they do. And if fact you may have even participated in some of it. Be honest. I`m guilty, I`ve done it.
Guess what, when you`re not around, they are ripping you apart. About something that would likely make you feel very badly too.
I know they do it to me, because I`ve been there when they do it others. I`m not immune to it.
Neither are you.
Thats why neither they, nor the media and collective societies views hold as much actual weight as percieved weight.
Get a bunch of people together and they will say they`d react one way, but get them alone and in real life, and its different.
You ask women what they want in a man and they all say they just want a nice guy, but then they go and screw the ape, or the arrogant jerk.
Get a group of guys together and they act all big and tough and ridicule someone behind their backs, then they turn around and go make friends and hang out with the guy.
We have a guy at work that started working here a few years back. Everyone started in on him right away (behind his back) saying he tells big stories that cant be true and he`s full of sh*t and an ***, but to his face they laugh and talk. Then some of them start going places with him outside work, hunting and fishing, to the bar after work and all that.
To this day people still rip on him but when he comes around they nearly throw their arms around him and hug him. Despite the backstabbings he recieves, he still benefits very much socially from his interaction with these people. And thats just one example of many more I know of.
Go figure.
Thats why I dont let it bother me, because people will talk smack but it doesnt mean much.
Its like they mean it, but when it all comes down to it, they dont "really" mean it.
Its just a habit or something, to make the day go by faster or make it interesting. Maybe they think its fun, to see who can say the most desparging comment about someone.
The media and TV, I dont even need to tell you how much its their job to over glamorize, over dramatize, make overkill on anything and everything.
Britney Spears couldnt go take a crap right now without there being an hourlong talkshow about the proper eitquette for taking a crap.
Its their focus to get people talking, and ripping on each other.
You guys really think CCS is the exception?
Heres a message board about love and relationships thats got be one of the largest in the web. They use it here to poll who is going to be man of the year, hottest woman of the year, etc
Read some of the desperate crap people write on there about 5.5 men buying drinks for 7.5 women with 8.7 bodies and 9.2 lips, and suddenly you`l see CCS isnt so alone anymore.
http://boards.askmen.com/viewforum.php?f=7