Ain't that the truth. Better to start preparing mentally now for what things will be like.
And physically, I'd say. I will need to start building my look around a short style. The muscle I've put on helps. Will need to plan trips to get a tan.
Tanning and putting on muscle does help your aesthetics. They are compensatory moves that let you regain some of the appeal you've lost. We make fun of the "just shave it" crowd, but I do think it has some merit as far as advice goes.
Personality is important too, not in the sense that it'll help you get more opportunities but securing that you won't miss out on the ones you do have.
I forgot about my bald days, I guess my mind is trying to erase the memories of myself as a slick NW5.
But if you dig up my posts from early 2014, you'll see me describe my situation as "hell on earth".
So there's your answer I guess.
I checked my classmates who were fullheads when I was NW3.5 at 18yo...
Few of them NW4+ now, I am still NW3.5.
Seems I am winning this subhuman competition
You said your hair hasn't moved in like 3 years? Why not get a hair transplant?
sure
tan helps A LOT
you cannot change personality after 20yo come on...
I'm Norwood 4, and I'm 24 years old and unattractive: I can tell you that it's like being dead, but you're still here. This life is the closest thing to hell I could ever imagine.
I disagree on the last part. I underwent a massive personality change in my 20s. Like night and day difference in core personality traits. It just takes more time and effort is all.
Getting fit means you have less fat? Wow wait a minute now Sherlock!
But at what price? Like getting women as an short ugly guy, at a point, it's just not worth it.
Perfect diet, perfect routine, insane amount of efforts, dents in your lifestyle, your social life, your love life (when you're lifting, you're not doing somethinh else), injuries...
Yes, I'm a coping master when it comes to bodybuilding (gymcelling).
I feel you. Being an ectomorph with narrow shoulders and small wrists is simply the worst, you can spend years and get absolutely no results. Besides, when you're bald, 3/4 of girls will avoid you just because of it.
you dont have to be some super winner social butterfly to be affected negatively by hair loss. in fact already being considered a loser and then going bald can arguably be considered worseLooking at your posts, it seems like you were never popular or liked even with hair, and remained a virgin throughout, so where was the marginal difference in life quality for you between NW3 and NW4?
Fred, ironically just listened about this in an audio book about confidence. Your level of sensitivity is genetic. I am the same way and social anxiety is triggered by low self esteem. Of course, your parents have a lot to do with it. You will other be more like your mom or more like your dad. I am more like my mom and my brother is more like my dad. People tend to like my mom more than my dad. And me more than my brother.Not really, you could also believe that about me, but as a matter of fact, I've always been the same person.
My oversensitivity that I believe was responsible for my social anxiety is still there.
And there's nothing I can do to not "feel" everything as intensively as I do. That's genetic.
I agree that not everything is "entirely" genetic. Genetics are a foundation but the environment or certain chemicals can alter them somewhat. Just like someone can take Propecia and use Rogaine and prolong balding for 20 years plus. Your personality can be influenced by your genetics but life experiences can alter them. A lot of your personality is formed when you are a child and many of your reactions as a adult can be reflected back to your childhood. We see that alot on this forum when people start arguing with each other.They did for me (interactions with people). I went from crippling social anxiety and awkwardness to freely striking up conversations with strangers and leaving a good impression. It took a ton of work. I would literally analyze interactions post-hoc to see where I could improve.
I would caution against believing that personality is somehow entirely genetic. It's impossible to prove anyway and may keep you from exploring many productive pathways in your life.