Maxpwr
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I don't know you personally, but I believe I know you better than you may think. Your views are based around your extreme negativity in life and until that changes, you will continue to dig yourself deeper. You need to stop forcing yourself into the victim's chair seeking pity, and start thinking about things rationally and optimistically. You twist nearly every comment you reply to (whether they're directed at you or not) into a self-loathing observation or protest about yourself, and it seems everybody rushes to your aid with positive comments, myself included... You are obviously craving attention and this seems to be one of the ways you are going about it.Taugenichts said:Lol,
you obviously don´t know me. I am not expecting to start a family and get a nice house. No nice girl would want me. I still do not know what career to choose. Maybe I become a teacher, not because I want to, but because you have the best working times. Neither do I have friends who would invite me to a party. I am not joking: I don´t know anybody!
What a bright future.....
I also have no hobbies or am interested in travelling (which sucks alone anyways).
You need to stop being negative altogether! Your sub-conscious mind picks up on everything you say and do and if you are constantly feeding it negative material, that's the only output you're gonna get from it too. You start believing everything you say and constantly look at the world through your "glass-half-empty" goggles.
Unfortunately depression, negativity and anger feed on each other, and can become like "an old friend" sometimes. I know all about this. Seeking pity and empathy from others becomes your way of communicating with them. It's infuriating... and no offence, but who wants to hang around someone with this sort of sh*t hanging above them like a storm cloud? Nobody. You need to make the conscious effort required to pull youself out of this.
You need to start thinking and saying positive things about yourself and stop ALL of the negativity. I'm deathly serious here, not trying to belittle you. Your sub-conscious mind is an amazing thing, and responds very well to the power of suggestion AND repeated efforts. Start thinking and focusing on the positive things in your life. Repeat to yourself what a valuable individual you are and how confident and happy you are (even if you don't believe it at first). Become a happy person (yes! you can!) and just forget about all the things that are making you unhappy. Think positive things. Say positive things to yourself (as silly as it sounds). Socialize with people. Go to a bar, get a drink and go and play snooker or darts with random people and chat to them, without thinking about or bringing up your "problems". Go to the supermarket and make it your objective to smile at at least 5 people you don't know... (not a creepy smile, just a normal one!). Get yourself involved in hobbies or sports that involve other people (they may not seem like hobbies until you start having fun doing them, but that's what you need to do). These are just a few of the hundreds of things you can do to start socialising with people and making friends, which is definitely one of the first steps you want to take, right after you stop the negative thinking.
Trust me, I know these things. It took me years to get out of the negativity spiral and pity seeking, but I did it.
Until you can learn to think optimistically and love yourself and have respect for yourself, things are not going to change (as corny as that sounds).