Best hair I have ever seen:

[Maxpwr]

Lol,

you obviously don´t know me. I am not expecting to start a family and get a nice house. No nice girl would want me. I still do not know what career to choose. Maybe I become a teacher, not because I want to, but because you have the best working times. Neither do I have friends who would invite me to a party. I am not joking: I don´t know anybody!
What a bright future.....
I also have no hobbies or am interested in travelling (which sucks alone anyways).

I don't know you personally, but I believe I know you better than you may think. Your views are based around your extreme negativity in life and until that changes, you will continue to dig yourself deeper. You need to stop forcing yourself into the victim's chair seeking pity, and start thinking about things rationally and optimistically. You twist nearly every comment you reply to (whether they're directed at you or not) into a self-loathing observation or protest about yourself, and it seems everybody rushes to your aid with positive comments, myself included... You are obviously craving attention and this seems to be one of the ways you are going about it.

You need to stop being negative altogether! Your sub-conscious mind picks up on everything you say and do and if you are constantly feeding it negative material, that's the only output you're gonna get from it too. You start believing everything you say and constantly look at the world through your "glass-half-empty" goggles.

Unfortunately depression, negativity and anger feed on each other, and can become like "an old friend" sometimes. I know all about this. Seeking pity and empathy from others becomes your way of communicating with them. It's infuriating... and no offence, but who wants to hang around someone with this sort of sh*t hanging above them like a storm cloud? Nobody. You need to make the conscious effort required to pull youself out of this.

You need to start thinking and saying positive things about yourself and stop ALL of the negativity. I'm deathly serious here, not trying to belittle you. Your sub-conscious mind is an amazing thing, and responds very well to the power of suggestion AND repeated efforts. Start thinking and focusing on the positive things in your life. Repeat to yourself what a valuable individual you are and how confident and happy you are (even if you don't believe it at first). Become a happy person (yes! you can!) and just forget about all the things that are making you unhappy. Think positive things. Say positive things to yourself (as silly as it sounds). Socialize with people. Go to a bar, get a drink and go and play snooker or darts with random people and chat to them, without thinking about or bringing up your "problems". Go to the supermarket and make it your objective to smile at at least 5 people you don't know... (not a creepy smile, just a normal one!). Get yourself involved in hobbies or sports that involve other people (they may not seem like hobbies until you start having fun doing them, but that's what you need to do). These are just a few of the hundreds of things you can do to start socialising with people and making friends, which is definitely one of the first steps you want to take, right after you stop the negative thinking.

Trust me, I know these things. It took me years to get out of the negativity spiral and pity seeking, but I did it.

Until you can learn to think optimistically and love yourself and have respect for yourself, things are not going to change (as corny as that sounds).

 

[vipergts]

What an excellent post....big props to Max....

Lol,

you obviously don´t know me. I am not expecting to start a family and get a nice house. No nice girl would want me. I still do not know what career to choose. Maybe I become a teacher, not because I want to, but because you have the best working times. Neither do I have friends who would invite me to a party. I am not joking: I don´t know anybody!
What a bright future.....
I also have no hobbies or am interested in travelling (which sucks alone anyways).

I don't know you personally, but I believe I know you better than you may think. Your views are based around your extreme negativity in life and until that changes, you will continue to dig yourself deeper. You need to stop forcing yourself into the victim's chair seeking pity, and start thinking about things rationally and optimistically. You twist nearly every comment you reply to (whether they're directed at you or not) into a self-loathing observation or protest about yourself, and it seems everybody rushes to your aid with positive comments, myself included... You are obviously craving attention and this seems to be one of the ways you are going about it.

You need to stop being negative altogether! Your sub-conscious mind picks up on everything you say and do and if you are constantly feeding it negative material, that's the only output you're gonna get from it too. You start believing everything you say and constantly look at the world through your "glass-half-empty" goggles.

Unfortunately depression, negativity and anger feed on each other, and can become like "an old friend" sometimes. I know all about this. Seeking pity and empathy from others becomes your way of communicating with them. It's infuriating... and no offence, but who wants to hang around someone with this sort of sh*t hanging above them like a storm cloud? Nobody. You need to make the conscious effort required to pull youself out of this.

You need to start thinking and saying positive things about yourself and stop ALL of the negativity. I'm deathly serious here, not trying to belittle you. Your sub-conscious mind is an amazing thing, and responds very well to the power of suggestion AND repeated efforts. Start thinking and focusing on the positive things in your life. Repeat to yourself what a valuable individual you are and how confident and happy you are (even if you don't believe it at first). Become a happy person (yes! you can!) and just forget about all the things that are making you unhappy. Think positive things. Say positive things to yourself (as silly as it sounds). Socialize with people. Go to a bar, get a drink and go and play snooker or darts with random people and chat to them, without thinking about or bringing up your "problems". Go to the supermarket and make it your objective to smile at at least 5 people you don't know... (not a creepy smile, just a normal one!). Get yourself involved in hobbies or sports that involve other people (they may not seem like hobbies until you start having fun doing them, but that's what you need to do). These are just a few of the hundreds of things you can do to start socialising with people and making friends, which is definitely one of the first steps you want to take, right after you stop the negative thinking.

Trust me, I know these things. It took me years to get out of the negativity spiral and pity seeking, but I did it.

Until you can learn to think optimistically and love yourself and have respect for yourself, things are not going to change (as corny as that sounds).

 

[Guest]

@ Maxpwr:

When I started reading your post I thought at first: "Yeah, maybe this guy is right, it doesn´t sound difficult!" but then you started talking about socializing and I gave up hope. No, I can´t do that, I have an avoidant personality disorder and social interaction puts me under enourmous pressure. I feel very bad, when I am working during the week. At weekends I want to be left alone and just do nothing.

 

[docj077]

@ Maxpwr:

When I started reading your post I thought at first: "Yeah, maybe this guy is right, it doesn´t sound difficult!" but then you started talked about socializing and I gave up hope. No, I can´t do that, I have an avoidant personality disorder and social interaction puts me under enourmous pressure. I feel very bad, when I am working during the week. At weekends I want to be left alone and just do nothing.

You don't need someone telling you what to do, Taugenichts. You need a mentor to SHOW YOU what to do. In all honesty, you need someone who will keep you accountable to yourself with regards to your personal attitude and your social attitude. If you need a psychiatrist to do this, fine. However, all I think you need is at least one good friend. Someone you can talk to about your problems in person and not over the internet.

It's time that you grow up a little bit. You're stuck in adolescence to be honest and you haven't quite made it into adulthood. Your attitudes about yourself and your life clearly reflect that lack of social development. Like I said, try to make a couple of friends. If you find it difficult, stay observant in all social arenas and just maybe you'll learn something about socializing. Go to the places that you like to go. Go to the coffee shop, the video game store, your favorite club, your favorite music store, and just set up shop for a while. Hopefully, you'll meet people with similar ideals and dreams as you. Who knows, you might even meet a woman, as well.

Trust me, sir, not everyone is as judgemental and superficial as you've been led to believe. You're not an ugly guy by any means, nor are you as socially paralyzed as you think. I mean, you post all your thoughts and your opinions about your life on a website. Now, you just need to find even one person that you can do this with all the time. Other people are right, think good thoughts, but also carry yourself in a manner that displays confidence whether you are confident or not. Shoulders back, head held high, and a smile on your face. It'll make all the difference.

If you can't do this by yourself, then you really need an SSRI and/or Klonopin, my friend. You have way too much social anxiety.

 

[Guest]

Believe me, I have tried to find friends, but it all ended up in humilation. Now i am done with it. I have accepted my faith, no more humilation and such! I have regained my pride and dignity by saying: f*** you all, I don´t need you!

 

[docj077]

Believe me, I have tried to find friends, but it all ended up in humilation. Now i am done with it. I have accepted my faith, no more humilation and such! I have regained my pride and dignity by saying: f*** you all, I don´t need you!

Life is one humiliation after another. There is no way that you will ever be able to overcome that fact. You can have a serious of small humilations throughout life or you can stay alone and live with the fact that you'll experience the greatest humiliation at your funeral when no one shows up.

You choose.

Pride and dignity are for suckers. Sacrificing all for others is the ultimate goal in life. If it means being humiliated, then so be it.

 

[s.a.f]

Believe me, I have tried to find friends, but it all ended up in humilation. Now i am done with it. I have accepted my faith, no more humilation and such! I have regained my pride and dignity by saying: f*** you all, I don´t need you!

You have to keep trying no matter what. I'm the same very bad at social interaction but stick with it because when it does pay off it makes life worthwhile.
I still cant comfortably make small talk to strangers like most people can but I've got a small circle of freinds who I feel comfortable with and this has all happened in the last 2/3 yrs so there is hope for you yet Taug.

 

[DoctorHouse]

s.a.f, if I lived in England, I would definitely enjoy being in your circle of friends. You are a very positive person and definitely always gives some of the best advice objectively. Keep up the good work, my English friend! :bravo:

 

[Guest]

:agree:

I really needed a friend like s.a.f I think. Maybe I am gonna catch a flight to London next summer to do some sightseeing for 2,3 days and we might actually meet in real life. unk:

 

[DoctorHouse]

I am sure s.a.f. would be happy to meet you in person. I think what you need Taug is a life coach.

 

[DoctorHouse]

s.a.f if you meet Taug, could you videotape the experience kind of in a TV reality style. Then post it online. It would be very entertaining to watch a few days featuring the life of Taug in action. :jump:

 

[s.a.f]

Only if CCS comes along aswell! unk:

 

[DoctorHouse]

s.a.f., that would be a" big handful" for you to take on. :freak:

 

[RaginDemon]

taug should develop a drug problem, maybe he will live a happier life.

 

[kerzyguy]

my friggin dad, 53, full head of hair, not quit a Norwood 2 even, no crown loss either, his brother 2, 57, no hairloss what so ever! frig, i hope i take after them.

 

[Maxpwr]

my friggin dad, 53, full head of hair, not quit a Norwood 2 even, no crown loss either, his brother 2, 57, no hairloss what so ever! frig, i hope i take after them.

Well, you've come as far as to join a hairloss forum already, so it's looking a bit doubtful so far... *hehe*

 

[kerzyguy]

im only on here cause i found out my moms dad was losing his hair thats whay i said i HOPE i take after him and not my moms side. but seriously, my dads side of the family all have amazing hair, hes going grey at 53, but not losing it, his hairline is a Norwood 1.5 -2 at the max, ill get a pic soon if you dont believe me my grandpa from his sid ehad hair all the way up till 85, he had a heart attack and took sick, then his hair started to fall out. my dad will honestly, by the looks of it, never go bald

 

[30_going_on_60]

Your dad's dad had a full head of hair at 85? Your mom's dad is STARTING to lose his hair?? Well, he MUST be over 70, probably over 80, I don;t know. If that's the only sign you have of potential hairloss, you're in a better boat than a lot of the rest of us. Lucky bastard lol!

 

[kerzyguy]

na, my moms dad started to bald around 33 ish, i think, although my grandma highly disputes that he wasnt and it was jsut the picture, i never met him as he died when my mom was 10, but my grandma was with him for like, 20 years so, i odnt know, but yeah my dad, grandpa, uncle, all have amazing hair, im going to get a pic up, its really some crazy stuff, i honestly think hes the only guy over 50 in my town with a full head of hair. although greying, thats the only flaw, my friends dad is 50 and has his natural colour still, which is cool too