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Discussion in 'The Impact of Hair Loss' started by Afro_Vacancy, Feb 27, 2018.

  1. Afro_Vacancy

    Afro_Vacancy Senior Member My Regimen

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    Dude you're rated as better looking than I am, and my hair is subpar.

    IMO, in and of itself, it doesn't mean much.
     
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    Calchas Experienced Member My Regimen

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    That's nothing to feel guilty about...We're all progressing into becoming domestic animals.
    I always wonder if it is the outside world that has lost all of its charms and attractions,or if i have blinded myself so much that i can't see them anymore.
     
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    Yes, I ponder this too.
     
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    I am not the biggest fan of social functions or crowds. I have my own anxiety, fears, and demons I have to battle with on a daily basis. I just learn to focus on other things just so I don't focus on myself. The biggest punishment I give myself is going to the gym. Image being surrounded by nothing but thick NW1s, great natural ethnic tans, buffed bodies and acne free skin( a place where almost everyone looks like Wolf Pack).The only gratification is I am taller than most of them. It's my way of putting myself out there to prove to myself I can still do something I always enjoyed even if I am surrounded by people who's looks I envy. It's called a mindfuck. Some guys would call it motivation. It's something I need to do so I don't totally miss out on life. I almost am tempted to do what @shookwun did with steroids but then I know better how dangerous it could be. I want to keep my liver and heart as healthy as long as I can which is irony at its best.
     
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    Joan Experienced Member My Regimen

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    How old are all these guys at the gym whose looks you admire? I'll bet they're younger than you. Your skin looks great and not just "for someone your age." Honestly, how would you rate your appearance compared to the average 50-ish guy? Come to one of my younger son's high-school functions. That's where you'll see what average middle-aged men in the suburbs look like. Although there's a range of looks, I've yet to see anyone on Keanu Reeves's (your lookalike) level in almost 18 years. And kudos to you for working out in front of mirrors and overhead lighting! :eek: Punishment for me is comparing myself to the teenage girls instead of their mothers. Insane really.
     
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    Afro_Vacancy Senior Member My Regimen

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    Two women contacted me today, though I did not have a lot of time to talk to them (a lot of work to do) and told them as such. One of them said that it sucks that I'm leaving town next week as she'd like to meet me. I told her that we can still meet, it would just be in two weeks, but that if she ends up finding a boyfriend next week I'll just be happy for her. The other woman I'm less excited for but I still talked to.

    I had a date tonight. We talked about animals, she has two cats, and I showed her a video of me, I was in the news this week and there's a part where a dog randomly kisses me. We have both lived in the same city prior to our current city, we were actually there at the same time. We talked about fitness too -- she's a part time fitness instructor in her spare time, she has a nice figure actually. I asked her about her work, which relates to real estate, we talked about real estate developments in the area and in the country. We made fun of people with extravagant lifestyles who can';t pay their bills.

    The date was in a bar which lasted ~90 minutes. She had to go, she said that she needs to get up at 630am tomorrow. She said that I should get in touch to make plans for next week, but she did not kiss me on the way out. So I will probably not see her again.
     
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    I'm happy for you and you really seem to be getting some great life experiences.
    What a blast that you were on local television.
    Weren't you nervous about seeing yourself when you watched it back?

    Now, I have to ask.... What did you think of the Newseum?
     
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    I wish I could find a fitness chick, both for the longevity of looks and health as well as the shared interest we'd have
     
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    My photos had a higher attractiveness rating. That's because I tested all manner of lighting, clothing, haircut and beard styles. Do the same and you can easily surpass my rating. You have hair. Moreover, these photo ratings don't mean a thing. I'm not a chad who has 4 dates per week and has people kissing me. I'm a NW6 who can not get a single date without using deceptive lighting for my photos. People who I get on dates are always withdrawn or seem to be unhappy to be there, even though they're so excited over text to see me. Night and day difference between the texts that I receive before and after. It's like I'm being used as a practice date every time. I have maybe 5 more lined up but what's the use?

    So you tried to kiss her and she wasn't having it? Sounds bad. I've had all manner of what you're describing...people telling me that they had a good time, telling me that we should make plans for next week, asking me to text them to plan another meet up, but it's all just a way of keeping you quiet so that she can go home and say no to you over text. It makes sense when you think about it, but it's not nice to be on the receiving end of it 10+ times.
     
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    Afro_Vacancy Senior Member My Regimen

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    The Newseum is today with a different woman. I'll let you know how it goes bit after that I'm taking another break from the forum through April 7th, due to deadlines.

    We're meeting later in the afternoon because she has Zumba and other responsibilities on Saturday mornings. I almost didn't make the train. I came to buy a ticket and the assholes in front of me we're taking forever to make up their mind. I would have to make the next train and then run.

    I don't have this chick lol .

    You're drastically overrating the importance of hair as a cope, it's not most of a man's attractiveness. You have shoulders, arms, and a jawline which is more valuable.

    You might be short I don't know .When I asked you your height you gave a three inch range. Height is more important to women than hair. The first question that this woman asked me about myself is "how tall are you?"

    It's possible that you smell like South Asian food in which case you will be sexually radioactive. I don't know if you do but it is an issue among some south Asians who eat too much curry, they end up smelling like curry. South Asian food should be eaten no more than twice a week.

    But really what I get from your posts is that you're intense. Speaking with you can be like the battle of Stalingrad, I can get unnerved just seeing your username and we're not even fighting. I do suspect that it's very challenging for women to be on dates with you, when it should feel effortless and natural. What may help you, separately and independently of finasteride, is Xanax.

    You're also confusing. You say that you can't get four dates a week, and you say that you have five other dates lined up ... In the same post. All I've demonstrated us the ability to get first dates and you're putting me on a chadestel. It's not coherent.
     
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    I agree with @WhitePolarBear

    I truly think it's best to find your opposite personality to balance out the equation and longevity of an unpredictable relationships. One which involves a difference in opinion and knowledge on others areas of interest.

    Similar personalities spike high at first but then die out from a lack of diversity. I have been in situations like this.

    The whole bad boy and nice girl is quite true! the archetype of these individuals just spark and work.,,, Balancing eachother lack there of.

    the only similarity i want is an extroverted women. I like a women who talks...... as I like to talk myself. Quiet women annoyy me
     
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    Afro_Vacancy Senior Member My Regimen

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    In before shook ends up with a quiet woman.
     
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    Afro_Vacancy Senior Member My Regimen

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    It's a nice museum and I recommend it, so far all of the national Mall museums are pretty good. We got to see a news room, some interesting points about 1968 like the Olympic power salute, some debates on free speech, a piece of the WTC, a piece of the Berlin Wall, etc.

    Other than that the date went pretty poorly, her body language grew progressively more distant over the two hours. It's too bad as I did find her attractive and insightful .

    Some moron earlier posted that it's important to impress women by wearing nice shoes. In truth, that can only go so far:
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    I actually had strangers commenting on my stylish shoes while walking to the Newseum, a lot of people have rented at other times. However, what matters is the full package, with good clothing being a minor, small perturbation at best. I'm missing the most important things (strong jaw, strong hands, etc), and I might have beta body language.

    Anyway I have a lot of stuff to do, stuff that is work related. After today I'm logging off through April 7th. There are a lot of deadlines coming up and they're stressing me.
     
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    No offence intended but maybe it's how you interact with them, I mean you described yourself as average or maybe slightly below on here but you're not really ugly or anything to the point women won't even bother going out with you I mean you've already got a couple of dates. I don't know all you circumstances personally but it might be down to stuff like body language, etc.
     
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    Afro_Vacancy Senior Member My Regimen

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    It might be and in fact I wrote that.

    My looks are comfortably below average, maybe not drastically so bit they're below average.
     
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    The whole height range that I gave you would make me short. So yes I am short. How does a short NW6 have any chance? I'm seeing that I do not. The big joke is that I think that I look taller in my photos. I don't know how it's possible but I do. So I'm a double letdown in person - in height and hair.

    I don't smell like South Asian food. I have a strict hygiene routine and the probiotics and vegetables regulate any lingering smell of food. I use body spray. But, even so, smell does not matter. Studies have shown that body odor is actually a good, not bad thing. So even if you have it one day, you shouldn't worry.

    If height is the most important, then hair is the second most. Hair is the second most of a man's attractiveness by far. Shoulders, arms and a jawline have never counted for much. If you don't believe me, go back to the thread about muscles and male attractiveness. Most of the 'muscular' models didn't have any muscles! The so called muscular movie stars don't have much muscle either. What they did have was a good head of hair. Most guys on here know this. They're not losers. Most people on here are confident, in good shape, healthy and clean. The reason that they can't date successfully is because of their extreme hair loss. How else do you explain the many men on this forum who can't get into a relationship? Hair loss ruins lives completely and you should never forget that you have hair and, therefore, a chance. We all wish that "shave it, dress well, get in shape, be intelligent, warm, and fun" worked. It doesn't at all.

    You're right about the last point. I guess that I could line up 4 dates in one week if the scheduling worked out. But I don't go on too many each week because it's too time consuming. Although I could not line up 4 every week. It's 5 that I have lined up from about 2 weeks of using these apps. I imagine that you could line up 4 per week every week if you wanted to.

    You're right that my posts and messages are very intense. It's because of an intense anger at the way that my life has turned out, all because of hair loss. I'm going to look into the Xanax. Have you used it yourself?
     
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    Afro_Vacancy Senior Member My Regimen

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    The Xanax recommendation was tongue in cheek and I have no actual knowledge of Xanax.

    The height range you gave me was broad. The top of it was indeed short but not devastating. The average for South Asian men is around 5'5 anyway and most of them find partners.

    Smell is very important, too much body spray could be an issue. A lot of women hate the smell of perfume, deoderent, and cologne. It's a tough divide that I can recognize personally. People who smell like BO make me gag. People who wear too much perfume make me gag.
     
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    They find partners because of their hair. Look at them. They're not overly confident, not in great shape, don't dress that well but find partners because of their hair. Once such a guy loses his hair, the whole system is broken and he won't find a partner.

    Average is not good enough and never has been. 5'5" is not good enough. You need to be towering over her a little bit or you have no chance. That requires at least a 4 inch difference. I've seen women's expressions drop as soon as they saw me and noticed that I wasn't much taller than them.

    You're not a woman, though... To a woman, they'd agree with the body spray but would disagree with the body odor. It's never a problem. For that reason, I use just a bit of spray. It can't be smell that's messing me up if she want to leave before we've even gotten close to each other. In life, seeing is believing. Hair loss is clearly the problem.

    Why don't you grow your hair out and have a silly style like the man bun? Or grow out your beard? It would work very well.
     
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    Chode crystals

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