Fullhead1day
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I'm considered an average-looking dude, and I only got 1-2 matches a day when I went on Tinder, in which a lot of them were bots. You balding f*cks must have amazing aesthetics lol
Dating websites are hardly an obscure exception. They're mainstream.
Swimswiy, no one here is an idiot I hope. No one would date anyone else _only_ because they look good. The point is that you put it as if anyone who looks good has fewer chances of being intelligent than someone who looks bad.I pray you guys arent so desperate and emotionally shallow that you are willing to date someone ONLY because they look good.
I looked it up a while back.
There is a weak positive correlation between intelligence and beauty, I think it was Pearson \rho = + 0.20. In this system, +1.0 means perfect correlation, 0.0 means uncorrelated, and -1.0 means perfect anti-correlation.
Which is not surprising. They can both be helped along by a healthy embryonic environment.
LOL.... good god.... arguing with you is like arguing with a potato. That's how it works? Really? Maybe its how it works for you, but you obviously live in a very "you-centric" world. You can't just state your opinion as fact without evidence to back it up, and just because you can think of a lot of instances to support your opinion you can't disregard all instances that contradict it. Your opinions are absolute and leave no room for opposition, yet I can think of so many cases, in my own experience and those of others, that completely prove you wrong. You seem to think that you have a complete understanding of reality and anything that contradicts it must be wrong, just because you say so, regardless of proof to the contrary. Do you want me to find examples of bald men that women find attractive? It's really quite easy.
My brother and his wife are happily married with 3 children and they didn't begin their relationship with sex. I think most people would consider her more attractive than him as well. Are you prepared to tell me that, beyond a shadow of a doubt, their happiness is all a facade? If you had an ounce of maturity and understanding of how human beings work you'd realize the world is a big place with all different kinds of people that you will never be able to understand. At this point your understanding of basic human behavior is obviously more minuscule than most.
Will you ever come up with an argument instead of a cheap personal attack?
Explain to me how I'm wrong. Not everyone has the ability to debate fairly I guess.
Fred, it IS achievable with a hair system. But it will be damaging to your scalp with all that glue. So its all about compromise but it definitely can be done.Comparing yourself to others is not very useful, but it can motivate you to become better if it's achievable.
Now comparing myself to the NW1 out there and wishing to be like them is another story, it's not achievable and it will be damaging.
Vince, thanks for sharing. Very powerful posting. You have my respect. If we all were in group therapy these are the things that would be expressed. Its amazing when people open up and share stuff like this how we find we are very much alike. I really think a higher power drew us all to this very forum for a reason. And when I read posts like from Vince, I know I am right.In my opinion it is the matter of perception. I had depression, panic attacks, derealization from high anxiety for three+ years and again it is the matter of how you look at it. You're only going to fuel it more when you look at it as tragic. I hardly even remember my depression and anxiety days. I've contracted chronic high pitched ringing in the ears (called tinnitus) from one gig where I played the guitar and it drives me insane and I can't sleep because if I don't play some background noise on my computer to mask the ringing and it is possible that I won't be able to play guitar live anymore because my ringing might worsen. This happened now when my band finally started being successful after 10 years and we got an invitation to go to London to play and I can't play anymore because of the ringing in my ears. Guitar and long hair was everything to me and I'm losing both now. Isn't that tragic? I don't think so, I still have million and one thing to do, even if you'd took everything from me I will still be happy because I choose not to be morose and resentful. You can't make be resentful if I don't want to. I'm the only one who can choose how I will feel. That's why I told you you should try therapy, it gives you knowledge on how to control your emotions.
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And the funny and interesting thing is, when I've stopped having negative emotions towards my tinnitus, I rarely hear it anymore, except when I go to sleep. I still can't play live but it goes to show how you can enhance some medical problem by fueling it with negative emotions when you focus on it obsessively.
There's so much power and freedom in the ability to choose how we feel you wouldn't believe.
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You should realize that all that resentment and bitterness isn't doing you any good and just let them go, it's natural to feel that but at some point you should just let go because they serve no function. You might get some attention and some comfort from people but ultimately nobody will want to hang out with you because you're focusing too much on the negative. I'm talking from my own experience.
You might not even be aware that the way you feel most of the time is not healthy for you. First step is to challenge those emotions by trying out some new ones. I sense you are very bitter and hurt because the way other people mistreated you, especially women. Your mistake in reasoning is the belief that their acceptance will make you happy. Sure, it feels good to be loved but if you substitute that for the lack of self love it leads to emotional codependency and addiction that is worse than drug addiction. It's a trap. Only you can make yourself happy. Everybody else is just the icing on the cake.
I was abused by schoolmates in my junior school when I moved to a new town with my parents. But you can't change the way somebody will feel or react towards you but you can change how you react to their reaction. You should realize that their actions have nothing to do with you personally, it speaks about them, not you. It doesn't have to do anything with you. That doesn't mean you shouldn't physically defend yourself, I'm talking about emotions and verbal communication. If you have a strong conviction on who you are and what's your self worth nobody can shake that with their vile comments and manipulations. If you don't like yourself and hate yourself for not being good enough and beautiful enough you will always put other's people opinion about you in front of yours. It's called using other's people opinion as a mirror of your self worth. And that's a vicious cycle that again leads to emotional codependency and emotional addiction from the opinions of others about you and their affection towards you.