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Discussion in 'The Impact of Hair Loss' started by JohnsonDDG, Jan 2, 2018.

  1. rclark

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    I'm definitely up there in the vain category. After decades, nothing has changed, probably
    nothing ever will.
     
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  2. Wolf Pack

    Wolf Pack Moderator My Regimen
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    I'm always groomed and take care head to toe.

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    If I lost a lot of hair though, I wouldn't see the point anymore. I know the motivation would be lost and I would do it more for the sake of it and with less consistency.
     
  3. WhitePolarBear

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    When you look at the definition of vain: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/vain

    It says "having no real value".

    As if our appearance had no value. If you have a minimum of knowledge of people's biological nature, you know that it is just a complete lie.

    Taking care of one's appearance is not vain, it is crucial.

    The fact that vanity has the meaning it has shows that the vast majority of people who pick up that vocabulary and continue to spread it are delusional and insecure as hell, which is very understandable.

    It makes many people's life so much easier and bearable to believe that looks don't matter and if you think they do, you're vain, you don't know what truly matters.

    People will say those things but ultimately, they don't believe it, especially women who try to be nice and rush into the arms of the best-looking guy they can find.

    I'm sorry but if your actions don't match your words, you are simply lying. I sometimes think about the damage it does to the people (and there are many) who fall for that "looks don't matter" crap.

    There's no excuse for spreading false hope, misery and suffering. Pay attention to your own actions and then tell the truth: looks matter and they matter a lot.
     
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    Baldingat188 Senior Member

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    Most of my self worth is invested in my looks. My looks feel like the core of who I am and the other so called "qualities" are just like a bonus on the side lol. I sound like such an ass right now but it's true. I admire ugly people who become successful and what not. I would rather be good looking and poor than ugly and successful by a long shot.
     
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    JohnsonDDG Senior Member My Regimen

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    I'm using the Cambridge definition of vanity - to take excessive pride in one's physical appearance.

    I'm not disagreeing with what you wrote but just clearing up the definition for the context of this thread.
     
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    Also vain and insecure are different things: yet both can lead to an obsession with looks and pictures as we've seen in this thread.

    I have been accused once of vanity directly about 7 years ago. Hospital toilet and was dressed well, just looked at my face in the mirror and adjusted hair like everyone does before leaving. A man in his 40s comes in saying you're going to drown in your own pool. So he just took a one second look and assumed everything. Looks = vain to him clearly.
     
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    Tanning no, gym yes.
     
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    Your vanity and mild humble bragging are but a breath of fresh air amongst this sea of self loathing.
     
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    blackg Senior Member

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    Shit!!
     
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    blackg Senior Member

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    Was this guy nothing to look at, by any chance?
     
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    Wolf Pack Moderator My Regimen
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    I'd say he was average but bit tubby. Bear in mind though, 40s and full hair so looked presentable.
     
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    My American friend... It's refreshing to hear that you're somewhat fashion conscious.
    Most Western fashion trends originate on the inner-city urban American streets.
    Another reason why our beloved country is a world leader for others to follow.

    Now tell me...what sort of casual fashionable shoes are you wearing these days?
     
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    I think he would love to be able to spend a considerable amount of time contently looking in the mirror.
    Fuck him!
    I've come across many of these angry men before, always turning their noses up at me in the men's room.
     
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    Lol. It happens but normally they don't say anything, just look. I think in this guy's case, he was probably disinhibited due to side effects from medication. It was funny anyway.

    Do you take finasteride?
     
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  15. Dontwannabeabetabob

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    So glad you asked, mate. As our winters are very harsh here, I look for something casual and stylish, while not sacrificing comfort.

    Something like this is what I rock:
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    Good point. I'd guess a lot of people here have BDD, possibly even myself. Is this vanity or insecurity though? If I'm having to obsessively check my appearance every time I see a mirror or if I'm taking pictures of my hairline it's more to do with reassurance then being in love with my looks. My mood and confidence is nearly always influenced by how I look. On a bad hair day I feel terrible but when I look good, I feel good. Even getting a smile from a girl I pass on the street can have me buzzing for the rest of the day.
    I'd accept that this makes me shallow but not necessarily vain.
     
  18. Cue Bald

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    it's funny about us being accused of BDD, and that if we had hair we'd be obsessing over something else.
    Not true; when I had NW1, I had a kinda ugly shaped nose and I'm only 5'8 but although I would have liked to have been taller, it never really bothered me too much. when I had £3000 I spent it on a car and a computer rather than a nose job and foot lifts.

    Hair on the other hand, it's not BDD when it is real. if £100,000 could buy me a NW1, i'd be out robbing a bank right now.

    I don't look after myself that well, my clothes are a mess, cheap and crumpled and I have no swag; but I am always clean shaven and I have to smell good; I won't go out if I am unshaven and unshowered.
     
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    This is from the British NHS website.


    Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), or body dysmorphia, is a mental health condition where a person spends a lot of time worrying about flaws in their appearance. These flaws are often unnoticeable to others.

    People of any age can have BDD, but it is most common in teenagers and young adults. It affects both men and women.

    Having BDD does not mean you are vain or self-obsessed. It can be very upsetting and have a big impact on your life.

    Symptoms of BDD
    You might have BDD if you:

    • worry a lot about a specific area of your body (particularly your face)
    • spend a lot of time comparing your looks with other people's
    • look at yourself in mirrors a lot or avoid mirrors altogether
    • go to a lot of effort to conceal flaws – for example, by spending a long time combing your hair, applying make-up or choosing clothes
    • pick at your skin to make it "smooth"
    Causes of BDD
    We don't know exactly what causes BDD, but it might be associated with:

    • genetics – you may be more likely to develop BDD if you have a relative with BDD, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) or depression
    • a chemical imbalance in the brain
    • a traumatic experience in the past – you may be more likely to develop BDD if you were teased, bullied or abused when you were a child
    Some people with BDD also have another mental health condition, such as OCD, generalised anxiety disorder or an eating disorder.
     
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    Baldness is so humiliating

    There is mever any vanity remaining
     
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