Thank you Evillolocks. But if there is one thing I hate above all, it's giving people false hope.
They seem to be much more supportive at heralopecia because that's how women work.
I've seen the threads and a lot of them are overly positive and delusional. "Don't worry girl, you're beautiful, it's going to be alright sweetie!"
As men, we don't talk like that, we tend to say things as they are, well that's how I operate.
As for my hair transplant, I've had it only 3 months ago, and while I might have like 10% of regrowth already, it takes a year, sometimes more for transplanted hairs to grow back.
So no I'm not done here, and I think I will not depart if I get my hair back, I still want to help those who need it on the forums. Especially when I see all the BS being spewed around here.
I don't put down every solution for hair loss, I think minoxidil, FUE hair transplants, concealers, sometimes even SMP (only combined with a hair transplant) are amazing tools in our arsenal.
DHT blockers like finasteride, RU, CB, hair pieces and SMP on its own, not so much.
But if you apply yourself, you can make a hair piece work really well for you. Remember that 99% of guys won't care one bit about it if they find out.
Trust me on this, I've seen the thirst, guys will put up with anything to get a girl nowadays. Stay strong, there will be life for you after hair loss, even if you don't want to believe it now.
No one is asking you to be overly positive and I agree the women on heralopecia is overly positive. I get that there is nothing good about wearing a hair piece,
and that I'll never again have the feeling of having my own hair, growing from my own head, which is the only thing I want on this planet.
But to be so negative about something that might just be the only "solution" left for someone like me, or a male diffuser that doesn't have donor maybe,
is a little mean spirited.
If you don't have anything positive to say about wigs / pieces then maybe try keeping it to yourself,
because for someone who is totally at the end of their rope grasping for something to hold on to, it's devastating to read.
I shouldn't be here I know, but you might recognise the feeling of craving to be on this forum because there is nowhere else for you to go and talk about it?
I "like" to whine as well and no I don't see a hair piece as a "solution". It's merely about making an attempt at living a life that is somewhat worth living.
And no, hearing that "guys are desperate, they'll take anything" isn't helping much.
First of all what girl (or guy) wants to be with someone who is only with them because they need something from them or who are desperate.
I want true love, but It's starting to dawn on me that might never happen.
If I do find a guy, will he only be with me because he is so desperate or such of a loser he cannot get anyone else and better?
That said, I don't think guys are as desperate as you claim. Here on this forum you talk about nothing but not being able to get HOT GIRLS anymore.
Would you yourself settle for a bald woman? You can say that there are plenty of guys who would, but would you? Seriously?
I guess if I go to the bottom of the pile and find myself and old, fat and broke fart then maybe I too can get a guy. But I do not just want to "get a guy",
like you don't want to "get a girl". You want a pretty, smart and funny girl, right? Then why chose someone like me who is ugly, miserable and lonely? I'm not rich either.
So yeah, is there nothing left for me? Should I just kill myself? Trust me I would have a long time ago, if it wasn't for my damn family loving me so much.
But every day is true and pure hell for me, so I might just in the end.