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A friend recently asked me how a date went, I mentioned that it was clueless and I was disappointed. I'm very open and sincere, I said I worry that I'm running out of time at age 33. She said 33 is nothing, that I'm a man, I can have kids when I'm 90.
Let's parse that:
"You're a man, you can have kids when you're 90."
It's just f*****g amazing how clueless women can be when it comes to men. What she's doing here is basing her stereotype of men based off the richest, most powerful, most alpha men in the world which happens because she doesn't register the existence of other men.
Some issues with having kids when I'm 90:
- I want to be a dad as well as a sperm donor, rather than just a sperm donor;
- I will not find a woman that is 65 years younger, I can hardly get women in their 30s while I'm in my 30s;
- How can I change the baby's diapers if I can't even bend over to change my own?
- How will I accompany her to the ultrasound, if I have an appointment the next building over for a hip replacement?
- How will I see them walk the first steps, speak their first words, go to school, graduate, etc if I die of a heart attack before their first birthday?
- How will I have the energy to raise them if I'm in a wheelchair?
- How will I relate to them given that I was raised in the era before value space travel, human cloning, and teleportation?
I'm exaggerating a little bit for dramatic flair, but all of the issues still stand. Every decade make it harder to have children. Some women think men have no clock of our own, we do, it's just objective reality, unless we're Donald Trump, which contrary to what some people think most men are not.
The fact is that first of all cultural relatedness declines exponentially with time, and second of all the energy required to be an active parent also declines. My father was 43 at my sister's birth and 49 at my birth, I in turn got less of him. It's not because he wasn't trying, it's just that those six years made a difference. This is given a situation where my father was a man of above average health.
Let's parse that:
"You're a man, you can have kids when you're 90."
It's just f*****g amazing how clueless women can be when it comes to men. What she's doing here is basing her stereotype of men based off the richest, most powerful, most alpha men in the world which happens because she doesn't register the existence of other men.
Some issues with having kids when I'm 90:
- I want to be a dad as well as a sperm donor, rather than just a sperm donor;
- I will not find a woman that is 65 years younger, I can hardly get women in their 30s while I'm in my 30s;
- How can I change the baby's diapers if I can't even bend over to change my own?
- How will I accompany her to the ultrasound, if I have an appointment the next building over for a hip replacement?
- How will I see them walk the first steps, speak their first words, go to school, graduate, etc if I die of a heart attack before their first birthday?
- How will I have the energy to raise them if I'm in a wheelchair?
- How will I relate to them given that I was raised in the era before value space travel, human cloning, and teleportation?
I'm exaggerating a little bit for dramatic flair, but all of the issues still stand. Every decade make it harder to have children. Some women think men have no clock of our own, we do, it's just objective reality, unless we're Donald Trump, which contrary to what some people think most men are not.
The fact is that first of all cultural relatedness declines exponentially with time, and second of all the energy required to be an active parent also declines. My father was 43 at my sister's birth and 49 at my birth, I in turn got less of him. It's not because he wasn't trying, it's just that those six years made a difference. This is given a situation where my father was a man of above average health.