IronLionZion
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I'm a 27-year-old guy who has been losing hair slowly for many years. It's at the point now where it's fairly noticeable and I need to either do something to maintain my hair or shave it off.
Obviously, this worries me. I'd rather have hair than no hair.
But jesus ... reading the posts on this forum is downright bizarre. People routinely throw around words like "panic", "dark thoughts", and extreme "pain." They talk about being afraid to leave the house, blame their hair loss for failed relationships, poor luck dating, and a seemingly endless parade of other issues. They dedicate hours and hours to posting here, focusing on their hair loss problem.
It's a self-reinforcing phenomena on the boards. Things that are downright ridiculous become normal, and accepted - it's okay to talk about being afraid to leave your house, or avoiding social situations, because of male pattern baldness.
Uh, NO. That is not okay.
I think alot of people here suffer from genuine psychological issues that far outweigh their hair loss issues. There is a lot of obsessiveness, paranoia, social anxiety, self-esteem issues, confidence issues and more on display here everyday.
After cruising the boards for a couple of hours it becomes almost overwhelming.
You guys need to take a step back and look at yourselves.
Hair loss is not the end of the world.
Up until a few years ago my hair loss was barely perceptible. I was younger, fitter, and had more hair than I do now. And you know what? I sucked at life. Hell, I was a virgin until age 22. You know how many girlfriends I had in high school? Zero!
Nowadays - with my noticeably thinning hair that I have to style awkwardly to hide - I have NO PROBLEM attracting women. In the last five years I have dated many beautiful, attractive, intelligent women. All of my girlfriends are downright gorgeous. Hell, two of them were professional models - one of which I lived with for a year and a half. Not to toot my own horn, but right now I'm in an open relationship with one girl, and seeing another on the side - one of them is easily a 10/10 and the other at least a 9/10.
How is this possible? How am I happier, more fulfilled, and more successfull with women as a noticeably balding guy than I was with hair?
Because in the last few years I became the man I wanted to be. I had a set of goals when I was about 20 and in the last few years I achieved all of those things. And because of that I project genuine confidence - something which is FAR more important than hair. I am truly comfortable in my own skin; and other people around me can sense that. It is an attractive trait. It makes men listen to you; it makes you a leader. And it makes women want to be with you.
I would never have believed this in high school - I would have taken it for some sugar-coated bullshit ..... but trust me. Your attitude and perspective on life is what makes women attracted to you and men willing to follow your lead.
Your hair loss is NOT the cause of your problems. The fact that you have the kind of personality that obsesses and worries about these things IS THE SOURCE OF YOUR PROBLEM!!! That kind of behavior is indicative of someone who is insecure - which both men and women can smell from a mile away.
I'm a realist, and I understand that hair loss sucks. There's no doubt that looks DO count. But nowhere near as much as people here seem to think they do. I will be proactive in trying to stop my hair loss. But, hey, when it comes down to it I'll just shave my head and carry on.
Guys ..... it's really nowhere near as bad as you think it is.
Obviously, this worries me. I'd rather have hair than no hair.
But jesus ... reading the posts on this forum is downright bizarre. People routinely throw around words like "panic", "dark thoughts", and extreme "pain." They talk about being afraid to leave the house, blame their hair loss for failed relationships, poor luck dating, and a seemingly endless parade of other issues. They dedicate hours and hours to posting here, focusing on their hair loss problem.
It's a self-reinforcing phenomena on the boards. Things that are downright ridiculous become normal, and accepted - it's okay to talk about being afraid to leave your house, or avoiding social situations, because of male pattern baldness.
Uh, NO. That is not okay.
I think alot of people here suffer from genuine psychological issues that far outweigh their hair loss issues. There is a lot of obsessiveness, paranoia, social anxiety, self-esteem issues, confidence issues and more on display here everyday.
After cruising the boards for a couple of hours it becomes almost overwhelming.
You guys need to take a step back and look at yourselves.
Hair loss is not the end of the world.
Up until a few years ago my hair loss was barely perceptible. I was younger, fitter, and had more hair than I do now. And you know what? I sucked at life. Hell, I was a virgin until age 22. You know how many girlfriends I had in high school? Zero!
Nowadays - with my noticeably thinning hair that I have to style awkwardly to hide - I have NO PROBLEM attracting women. In the last five years I have dated many beautiful, attractive, intelligent women. All of my girlfriends are downright gorgeous. Hell, two of them were professional models - one of which I lived with for a year and a half. Not to toot my own horn, but right now I'm in an open relationship with one girl, and seeing another on the side - one of them is easily a 10/10 and the other at least a 9/10.
How is this possible? How am I happier, more fulfilled, and more successfull with women as a noticeably balding guy than I was with hair?
Because in the last few years I became the man I wanted to be. I had a set of goals when I was about 20 and in the last few years I achieved all of those things. And because of that I project genuine confidence - something which is FAR more important than hair. I am truly comfortable in my own skin; and other people around me can sense that. It is an attractive trait. It makes men listen to you; it makes you a leader. And it makes women want to be with you.
I would never have believed this in high school - I would have taken it for some sugar-coated bullshit ..... but trust me. Your attitude and perspective on life is what makes women attracted to you and men willing to follow your lead.
Your hair loss is NOT the cause of your problems. The fact that you have the kind of personality that obsesses and worries about these things IS THE SOURCE OF YOUR PROBLEM!!! That kind of behavior is indicative of someone who is insecure - which both men and women can smell from a mile away.
I'm a realist, and I understand that hair loss sucks. There's no doubt that looks DO count. But nowhere near as much as people here seem to think they do. I will be proactive in trying to stop my hair loss. But, hey, when it comes down to it I'll just shave my head and carry on.
Guys ..... it's really nowhere near as bad as you think it is.