White Hairs @ 30 Guess Total Shave is The Only Fix

[lastmile]

I'll post other messages in other areas to fully explain my situation. I'm not even sure why I'm writing - I know the only answer.

It started "shaving" my head in 2004, by that I mean using clippers to cut it close. My hair was in such terrible shape both in terms of loss and quality of what was left that there really wasn't much choice. I've moved from a low guard to now no guard and the closest setting.

White hairs started appearing on the sides in 2005. Now there's too many to pluck. I've been clipping every 3-5 days to keep it short short. I think that makes them a bit less noticeable.

I don't know what to do other than go to completely shaving my head. I'm almost to a Norwood IV anyway, with visible hair still on top and in the crown but obviously thinner. I don't want to see that stupid horseshoe on my head especially if part of it's going to be white.

I hate my hair like this but the alternative would be much worse. I'm short (5'8") with a slim build. Actually not so slim for the past few years but I look it clothed. Am losing weight largely motivated by the need to try to get more definition into my face. Anyway I've had a few shaved head=badass jokes, probably plenty more that aren't to my face. A total shave is going to make that worse. Its just going to look even more stupid. There's the bumps or acne or something issue too which has to be for another post.

I took my hairloss badly - to be explained elsewhere. This feels like another big jump trying to get over more ugliness.

 

[dresden]

why dont you dye your hair?

 

[Naltima]

I'm 22 and have a lot of gray hair, and don't think that it's something that's not noticeable because people comment about it daily. To be honest it doesn't matter to me.

 

[optimus prime]

I'm 24 and I have grey on the side. Doesn't bother me. If anything the ladies like it.

 

[squeegee]

I am a lucky bastard. I am 30 and no gray hair so far at all...

 

[ali777]

Before my male pattern baldness was becoming obvious I remember reading or hearing that hair that goes gray doesn't bald....

Fast forward 2-3 years to now, I have both gray hair and male pattern baldness. The first time I started graying I was annoyed, my brother is 7 years older than me and he has proper black hair. Now, I actually like the gray sides. I think it makes me look more mature, but I wouldn't like to have more gray hair than I already have.

My beard is really gray though. If I don't shave for a week or so, my white beard becomes obvious.

 

[lastmile]

Great. Was doing a search and came up with a post that seemed to refer to what I was looking for... click on it and its mine

Anyway I eventually did go to shaving it all off with a razor. There is still some showing, I don't know how people get it to clean, totally bare skin everywhere. I feel like I'd be cutting myself all the time if I pressed any harder. I've been doing it for at least a year and only a few actual cuts so far, so that's good.

But I need to keep after the acne or it shows up around what used to be my hairline and on the sides from the temples back.

And the big one - I do not have a head that looks good shaved. Bad for many reasons mainly the big dent in the back which is especially weird looking. But the hair is so wirey and stiff letting it grow even a bit is sort of uncomfortable. Even if it were normal the pattern of what's left might look just as bad.

On to why I found my old post. I shave every 3 days or so. I think it looks better the day or two after I do it so I don't do it every day. Shaved on Mon night. Thur morning (today) I happen to look in the mirror and see what I initially thought were some flakes of dry skin. That doesn't look good, better clean that off and put some lotion on. They don't come off. Its those weird white hairs, visible about only 48 hours after shaving. I wasn't even looking in the mirror. I walked by 2-3 feet away and glanced in it.

These hairs are totally white, not grey like some of those who commented - thanks by the way, at least I know someone read my post. The way they reflect light is almost shiny. I looked like I had f*cking glitter in my hair when looked at closer under the light of the bathroom mirror.

I know I don't look attractive from a normal distance, but sometimes I wonder how someone can stand to see me right up close. Grotesque - and not just the white hair issue.

I have been on *a lot* of antidepressents since this started years ago. By a lot I mean many different ones and now that we found a combination that at least keeps me functional, a lot refers to doses - much more than the normal max. And no I don't think this has any effect on my hair.

I tried all the usual topical/drug treatments during the first few years. Maybe I was slowing down the process but I wasn't gaining anything. And I was spending way too much money and time looking for a solution. I knew I had to stop that or I'd never even slightly improve emotionally. So I stopped everything.

Just a few days ago I ordered some rogaine and revita shampoo - never tried that and seeing as how i don't really need shampoo it should last forever. I was thinking I'd try for awhile and see if I could at least make that pattern a little less visible when there hair is grown a bit after a few days. They're simple and relatively cheap. I wasn't going nuts with a regimen again.

After today I've sort of lost any enthusiasm I had for that idea. But doesn't mean I won't do it.

This doesn't really help anyone who might have a similar issue but at least they might read it. I typed a lot more but deleted it - this is enough.

 

[s.a.f]

Thanks for the update - f*** this is depressing, (how long before this forum has an anti- depressants section?) :shock: maybe one day medical science will find a cure.

 

[karl_h]

I would not stress out about having white hairs at 30 years of age.

I have seen many men who have a little white hair at that age. I think it would be considered the norm.

If you continue to stress about it, you will probably develop more white hairs.

 

[Nene]

Hey man, cheer up. I really don't think gray hair is something to stress over. I think it gives men a more distinguished look. Honestly if I was a very high Norwood, I think I'd rather have gray hairs than dark hairs. Than the horseshoe won't be so damn dark and contrast the bare skin on top. If it really bothers you, you can dye it. However if you keep it shaved I guess you can't dye it. But if, it's shaved can you really notice that hairs are gray anyway?

 

[s.a.f]

Never hindered George Clooney did it?

 

[DoctorHouse]

Thanks for the update - f*ck this is depressing, (how long before this forum has an anti- depressants section?) :shock: maybe one day medical science will find a cure.

I was thinking the same thing about alot of the people on this forum. There are so many with depression who have in the past or present taken anti-depressants and have seen a shrink. It makes sense why they are drawn to this forum as hair loss is just another thing to add to their list of reasons to be depressed. I think people who are depressed constantly find new things to be depressed about in an endless cycle. This place is a safe haven to come and be depressed because I have read group therapy can sometimes be more effective than individual therapy. I would enjoy speaking to people who have recovered from their depression fully but I don't think I can find anyone on here.