What to do about insensitive comments?

[Flamingflaps]

So my “manager” has recently made several offhand comments about me balding. Specifically mentioning “bald spots”. Now I don’t believe I actually have any bald spots, but these comments are pissing me off and I want to know why she keeps “joking” about this. I don’t know if she’s trying to be funny, but in what world is this funny? If she thinks I am balding then it’s bullying, if she doesn’t then it’s… what?! Do I ask her what she’s talking about? How can I confront her without it looking like she’s upset me? She’s tried this joke in front of other people and no one has laughed or joined in, and I’ve brushed it off as though she’s not said anything so far.

 

[BurningCoals]

What a hairy situation

 

[debyne]

Report her a$$ to HR. That'll teach her.

 

[Capone]

Just have a quiet word in her office.. say “ listen you slag..no just say would you mind not doing that please”. If she keeps on, record her and start crying then put a claim in for harassment. Think Ed Norton in fight club.

 

[KevinEdEddEddy]

Just talk to her that she is in position to comment your work and not your balding for fucks sake
If she does it anyway, report her, as she is Michael Scott wannabe

 

[losingbattle88]

Shes into u.

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

You have to filter sh*t like this out tbh. It's has probably less to do with your baldness itself than with the fact that some people will poke fun at every insecurity they can detect. Just standard human behaviour. If it isn't something physical, it's something mental that they can take shots at

 

[Flamingflaps]

You have to filter sh*t like this out tbh. It's has probably less to do with your baldness itself than with the fact that some people will poke fun at every insecurity they can detect. Just standard human behaviour. If it isn't something physical, it's something mental that they can take shots at

Standard human behaviour - pleased I’m not standard then. I’ve never once said anything remotely insulting about someone else’s appearance. I don’t even tell someone if I think they look tired as who the hell needs to hear that sh*t? It just upsets people.

 

[KevinEdEddEddy]

Alright OP tell us your age and Norwood level

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

Standard human behaviour - pleased I’m not standard then. I’ve never once said anything remotely insulting about someone else’s appearance. I don’t even tell someone if I think they look tired as who the hell needs to hear that sh*t? It just upsets people.

Well, that's the point. Work is a shitty place. It only gives a fraction of people some fulfilment. Life can be shitty as well, and people often carry their personal frustrations with them throughout the day. No excuse, but many people will have moments were they try to unload their negativity on others. Blatantly or behind your back. You filter out most of it tbh — this just hit you in your feelings

 

[BurningCoals]

Well, that's the point. Work is a shitty place. It only gives a fraction of people some fulfilment. Life can be shitty as well, and people often carry their personal frustrations with them throughout the day. No excuse, but many people will have moments were they try to unload their negativity on others. Blatantly or behind your back. You filter out most of it tbh — this just hit you in your feelings

But duuuuuude work gives life sooo much meaning without work your life means nothing!!11!!!!!11!!1111!!!! /s

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

But duuuuuude work gives life sooo much meaning without work your life means nothing!!11!!!!!11!!1111!!!! /s

I always distrust people who say sh*t like this ( when it's obviously untrue ). When someone can lie like this to themselves, how you can you trust em

 

[Flamingflaps]

Alright OP tell us your age and Norwood level

Old enough that this shouldn’t upset me; mid 30’s and been fighting hairloss since early 20s. Also probably got more hair than she has - she’s in her 50s.

 

[DyingOfTheLight]

Old enough that this shouldn’t upset me; mid 30’s and been fighting hairloss since early 20s. Also probably got more hair than she has - she’s in her 50s.

Then it really shouldn't bother you. She's just some frustrated old hag inching closer to death. Who cares ?

 

[BurningCoals]

I always distrust people who say sh*t like this ( when it's obviously untrue ). When someone can lie like this to themselves, how you can you trust em

I can understand that it can give people a sense of purpose and such, nothing wrong with that, but when people say that they work for the «fullfillment» rather than the money… ehh idk about that

 

[Jpw1999]

She's probably projecting her own insecurities. Most of the people who have taken the piss out of the way I look have been pretty ugly themselves.

 

[Kidbako]

Slap the taste out her mouth

 

[DoctorHouse]

I think that is her sick way of flirting with you. Most people will try to tear another person down when they are jealous of them. She is attracted to something about you she doesn't have. If she is married or has a boyfriend she obviously is not happy. If she is gay, I guess I would be wrong about everything unless you seem like a threat in some way.

 

[Mr. Slap Head]

So my “manager” has recently made several offhand comments about me balding. Specifically mentioning “bald spots”. Now I don’t believe I actually have any bald spots, but these comments are pissing me off and I want to know why she keeps “joking” about this. I don’t know if she’s trying to be funny, but in what world is this funny? If she thinks I am balding then it’s bullying, if she doesn’t then it’s… what?! Do I ask her what she’s talking about? How can I confront her without it looking like she’s upset me? She’s tried this joke in front of other people and no one has laughed or joined in, and I’ve brushed it off as though she’s not said anything so far.

Lmao she knows you’re an incel

 

[NamelessGhoul]

bro Jesus christ, just say "yeah I'm balding apparently, oh well. lol." that's literally all you have to say. if she presses the matter further and starts actually callin' you out in a mean way, look at her, up and down, and pick something you deem unattractive or defective about her appearance and go to town. - preferably in a witty way lol.