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[Dante92]

LOL man, not once in all my posts did I ever brag, if anything I put myself down. I'm like a NW2.5+ I'm balding and going through the same exact thing you are.

No, you aren't.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

LOL man, not once in all my posts did I ever brag, if anything I put myself down. I'm like a NW2.5+ I'm balding and going through the same exact thing you are.

You're not going through the same thing. You're a very attractive man who can get girls' first interest very easily. Your issue is that social anxiety, etc prevent you from capitalizing on what is in fact an open door.

@Dante92 has those issues as well, but he also cannot get girls interest very easily. He won't have several hotties matching with him on bumble after 1 hour or less of swiping. He has both psychological and physical disadvantages to deal with, and it will be a double-long road for him to overcome if he ever recovers and wants a better life.

Moreover, society as a while has more compassion and more understanding for social anxiety and phobia than it has for the aesthetically challenged. The consensus advice to you is to face your fears slowly, in consultation with a psychiatrist, perhaps with medications. The consensus advice to Dante is to just shave it off and be confident. There are possibly some drugs that might help him (e.g. steroids) but they're illegal and unregulated, unlike anti-anxiety drugs.

 

[doubleindemnity]

I'll post a photo once I can take a good one. But I'm a diffuse NW6 with a straight hairline at the front, 165-170cm and between 164 and 170cm. Pant size is 31 inch waist, and I'm south Asian, with yellow/brown skin. Is the button-down shirt in the correct size the best choice?

 

[pjhair]

"Alliances"? "Hate him"? LOL I don't give a f*** about baldhurts, I'm just trolling him, too.

I wasn't talking about you. What I said is generally true about internet forums. Some will like you, while others will hate you.

 

[Baldhurts]

You're not going through the same thing. You're a very attractive man who can get girls' first interest very easily. Your issue is that social anxiety, etc prevent you from capitalizing on what is in fact an open door.

@Dante92 has those issues as well, but he also cannot get girls interest very easily. He won't have several hotties matching with him on bumble after 1 hour or less of swiping. He has both psychological and physical disadvantages to deal with, and it will be a double-long road for him to overcome if he ever recovers and wants a better life.

Moreover, society as a while has more compassion and more understanding for social anxiety and phobia than it has for the aesthetically challenged. The consensus advice to you is to face your fears slowly, in consultation with a psychiatrist, perhaps with medications. The consensus advice to Dante is to just shave it off and be confident. There are possibly some drugs that might help him (e.g. steroids) but they're illegal and unregulated, unlike anti-anxiety drugs.

I don't know Dantes story nor seen any pics of him so if that's the case then I apologize to him.

 

[pjhair]

All relationships at their core are an exchange of resources. If you don't have appearance to offer, you need to compensate with things like money, status, commitment and/or personality. Since appearance seems to weighted very heavily (I would say around 60-70%) into the equation by most people it makes sense that to compensate for a severe deficiency in that department you need to bring a lot more of the other things to the table.

Push one of the other variables up by enough and eventually the high value compensates for the low weighting. It's why you'll always have beautiful women ready to date oil sheiks and Lloyd Blankfein types.

I think @hairblues has a good point when it comes to more blatant resource exchanges like the example given by pjhair; if both parties are satisfied and their needs are met, why not endorse the union? To take another example, a lot of people in the West complain about mail-order brides and Thai women, but I've seen quite a few of these relationships work out surprisingly well. Essentially the women want financial security and the guys just wants a woman to have sex with who is not fat or old. If both parties are aware of this and neither is abusive it's a good arrangement.

The only thing wrong with these kinds of relationships is that they have been stripped of the veneer that we require to consider them "legitimate". This veneer in turn comes mainly from fiction, which may of course in turn have roots in reality. In a historical context, relationships where one party is obviously trading one resource for another were the norm rather than the exception, and in some parts of the world they still are.

Good post Zircon. I will however say that these kind of exchanges only paint the grim and desperate situation we men face. Even an average looking women with kids, like my friends ex wife, has men basically going crazy over her and putting themselves in debt in order to please her. While average men are struggling to just find a girl friend and be at peace.

 

[JohnsonDDG]

I'll post a photo once I can take a good one. But I'm a diffuse NW6 with a straight hairline at the front, 165-170cm and between 164 and 170cm. Pant size is 31 inch waist, and I'm south Asian, with yellow/brown skin. Is the button-down shirt in the correct size the best choice?

Shirts as a rule are better, but it really depends on who you are dating.

Some women may prefer a simple jeans, t shirt and a good body; and some women will prefer a man who dresses smart.

There is no golden outfit that will please all women.

 

[Baldhurts]

Good post Zircon. I will however say that these kind of exchanges only paint the grim and desperate situation we men face. Even an average looking women with kids, like my friends ex wife, has men basically going crazy over her and putting themselves in debt in order to please her. While average men are struggling to just find a girl friend and be at peace.

I once matched with a girl on tinder. She told me she had a profile a few months earlier with one picture of a sunset. She told me 9/10 swipes were a match. Men offering dates/hookups without actually seeing what she looked like. Just fukkin LOL.. it's only going to get worse.


Does anyone know if there is any drugs I can get my hands on that will kill libedo?

 

[Dante92]

Does anyone know if there is any drugs I can get my hands on that will kill libedo?

If you're interested, there's a quicker, more interesting way.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

I once matched with a girl on tinder. She told me she had a profile a few months earlier with one picture of a sunset. She told me 9/10 swipes were a match. Men offering dates/hookups without actually seeing what she looked like. Just fukkin LOL.. it's only going to get worse.


Does anyone know if there is any drugs I can get my hands on that will kill libedo?

Those drugs might also damage other things.

 

[CopeForLife]

I once matched with a girl on tinder. She told me she had a profile a few months earlier with one picture of a sunset. She told me 9/10 swipes were a match. Men offering dates/hookups without actually seeing what she looked like. Just fukkin LOL.. it's only going to get worse.


Does anyone know if there is any drugs I can get my hands on that will kill libedo?

I was banned on misc for this advice recently

 

[michel sapin]

you wan't to kill your libido ? go for high dose of propecia ( 5 mg ) or duta (2,5 mg ) per day.

 

[Baldhurts]

Perfect example showing how real the thirst is. The video is taken in Toronto at a festival.

 

[Baldhurts]

you wan't to kill your libido ? go for high dose of propecia ( 5 mg ) or duta (2,5 mg ) per day.

This will kill libedo, but will it have effect on my test levels?

 

[zircon]

I once matched with a girl on tinder. She told me she had a profile a few months earlier with one picture of a sunset. She told me 9/10 swipes were a match. Men offering dates/hookups without actually seeing what she looked like. Just fukkin LOL.. it's only going to get worse.


Does anyone know if there is any drugs I can get my hands on that will kill libedo?

This is mainly because there are a bunch of men playing the numbers game by batch swiping everyone and sending the same messages to anyone they get a match with. Tinder puts people who have already liked you at the front of the queue so if you don't know better and only swipe for a little while it seems like 9/10 are a match, however this is just you working through the list of people who have already liked you. If you swipe enough you run out of people who have already liked you and so the matches stop coming.

Good post Zircon. I will however say that these kind of exchanges only paint the grim and desperate situation we men face. Even an average looking women with kids, like my friends ex wife, has men basically going crazy over her and putting themselves in debt in order to please her. While average men are struggling to just find a girl friend and be at peace.

You said that this woman was well-educated, maybe she has qualities beyond her looks that make her more attractive to men? I know some people find this impossible to believe but there is such a thing as "charisma" for women and it can help them punch above their weight in looks. IIRC you are in the US where a significant portion of the population is overweight, putting a huge premium on women who are slender, which I assume this woman is since she's Asian. While I think the modern dating market is an awful place in general, and biased in favor of women, I don't think it is as dire as you make it sound. This example just seems to be an extreme manifestation of the underlying dynamics.

 

[pjhair]

You said that this woman was well-educated, maybe she has qualities beyond her looks that make her more attractive to men? I know some people find this impossible to believe but there is such a thing as "charisma" for women and it can help them punch above their weight in looks. IIRC you are in the US where a significant portion of the population is overweight, putting a huge premium on women who are slender, which I assume this woman is since she's Asian. While I think the modern dating market is an awful place in general, and biased in favor of women, I don't think it is as dire as you make it sound. This example just seems to be an extreme manifestation of the underlying dynamics.

I would not say that the women is charismatic. She takes a long time to warm up to people and is very quiet around people unless she is close to them. But she is slender. Also, I can't comment on the extent of grimness for men but I will say this, every single average and above women I know who has gone through break up/divorce has easily landed a boyfriend within matters of weeks to a month. I can't say the same about the men I know who has gone through divorce.

 

[Afro_Vacancy]

I would not say that the women is charismatic. She takes a long time to warm up to people and is very quiet around people unless she is close to them. But she is slender. Also, I can't comment on the extent of grimness for men but I will say this, every single average and above women I know who has gone through break up/divorce has easily landed a boyfriend within matters of weeks to a month. I can't say the same about the men I know who has gone through divorce.

What are the odds you have a mistaken perception of what constitutes "average looks" fore either or both genders?

 

[pjhair]

What are the odds you have a mistaken perception of what constitutes "average looks" fore either or both genders?

Beauty is subjective to quite some extent. However, I am reasonably sure that if I post the picture of the women in question, the general consensus will be that the women is a 5. Cope will probably label her a 3.

 

[shookwun]

I was banned on misc for this advice recently

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doesn't lift weights, posts on misc

seems legit.

Criticizes people who lift weights, posts on misc


muscle worship cuckold

 

[CopeForLife]

doesn't lift weights, posts on misc

seems legit.

Criticizes people who lift weights, posts on misc


muscle worship cuckold

Firstly, I do not criticise people who lift weights. I lol at framecels who thinks lifting will help them. That's all.

Secondly, gymcel/non-gymcel thread ratio is very low in misc and I never ever visited another subforums.

Thirdly, I do not look naked men's bodies since I think it is sign of homo.