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Struggling To Accept It's Over For Me?

Discussion in 'The Impact of Hair Loss' started by Feelsbadman, Nov 8, 2019.

  1. Feelsbadman

    Feelsbadman Established Member

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    How do you guys accept it. Ageing and balding has destroyed me.
    I used to be very aesthetic and attractive. When i would go to the shops women would treat me well, smile etc.

    I used to date a hot fitness chick. She eventually left me. I still cry about it. 5 months on i still cry about it. You know why? Because my hair has diffused badly. I look like sh*t. I've gotten to the point where i've given up. I don't care about women anymore. I'm ugly, i look old. I'm pale, short, diffusing,. It's over. Everyday i just try and accept it that i will never have hot women into me. I just try and appreciate the fact that i had it real good for a year .

    I can't even focus on money/career to make up for it because i hate my career and don't know what else to do.
    i'm 25 nearly 26.

    I've given up my aesthetics (i used to gym, look good etc) and now i'm nothing just a loser . it's pointless now.
     
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    karatekid Experienced Member My Regimen

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    Never give up on hair
    Get hair or die trying
     
  3. Pigeon

    Pigeon Senior Member My Regimen

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    You're 25, your life has hardly started. Stop with the hyperbole.

    Get a hairsystem if your hair situation is that bad or shave. (or get a big hair transplant and find a way for maintenance)
     
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    I didn’t accept it, and I’m glad that I didn’t. I’d much rather go ‘extreme’ than be eternally unhappy about my appearance.
     
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    Marcaronii Established Member My Regimen

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    I feel you man. At least we have Tissuse SHT and Tsuji to look forward to. If they fail, we can always buy a rope.
     
  6. INT

    INT Senior Member

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    Yeah putting your hope in life in a hairloss treatment that might or might come out. Smart!
     
  7. Baldingdane

    Baldingdane Established Member My Regimen

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    That's the thing. Adult life have just started and he's going bald like millions of other guys. Some are even TOTALLY bald by that age. That's so f#cked up. I do not know why this condition isn't seen as a disease. So men many feeling low with poor self-esteem. GET A CURE NOW!!!
     
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  8. Wisemiller

    Wisemiller Established Member My Regimen

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    If this was just 20 years ago, he would be married and have one or two kids by now. He would still be going bald, and still be upset about it, but that would be 8 or 9th on his priority list, not #1. I'd like a cure too, but I think education to young men when they are teenagers would be more suitable so that they understand what sort of time frame they are working with. THAT is why balding is such a major problem today, where earlier generations thought of it as an inconvenience at most.
     
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    Baldingdane Established Member My Regimen

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    I don't care what happened 20 years ago. Balding in your teens\early 20's is so f#cked up! No one should be forced to live without hair so early on in life. i don't even wan't to put kids into this world if that's their future. (Granded i get a son, obviously)
     
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    Uh, no one cares about the past...
     
  11. Baldingat188

    Baldingat188 Senior Member

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    Feels bad man

    That being said. Careercel , fashionmax and gymcel

    25. Yes it does suck to be bald. But you know what? 10 years from now women will care less about that you don’t have hair and will care more about the life you have built. And your body will thank you. Get big at the gym , grow facial hair , get tattoos - do what you need to in order to feel good about your appearance. But never take your health for granted. Maybe these are stereotype balding “copes” but still , they would make you look and feel a hell of a lot better than simply letting yourself go to sh*t just because you don’t have hair.

    Most people don’t take care of their body properly. You don’t even have to get big just commit to a healthy lifestyle.
     
  12. Wisemiller

    Wisemiller Established Member My Regimen

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    Thats not the point. Balding has always existed. But men these days want to be frat boys and players until they are 35, thinking they'll age like George Clooney. Men are getting university degrees they dont need, and travelling the world just because their buddies on social media are doing it. A man with balding in his future cannot afford these time and money wasting luxuries, and they should be settling down as soon as possible instead of trying to find "something better".

    I know its a more humble life than what the media has promised, but it is a happier life.
     
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    Haironnu Experienced Member My Regimen

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    going for that bald guy look (getting big, beard and tattoos" is the most ridiculous thing a guy can do, that look is pathetic, it screams bald cope, he might as well just go with a hat on instead, women don't even like that look, because it doesn't matter bald is bald and having that look won't help for sh*t. the only chicks that will dig that look are the same % of chicks that are into bald guys anyway.

    nonsense, settling down in life that early and you'll regret it years later when you have middle life crisis.
    even has a bald guy you can travel the world and go to parties and have a good time, just don't count or think about girls and you're good.
     
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    It's tough man. For me balding came with premature facial aging (stress related) and impotence as well. Naturally these things had a serious impact on my personality too.

    Not trying to win a pitty contest, just saying I can really feel your pain...that dread, grief, loss and kafkaesque alienation of oneself is so disgusting. No one should go through that. I am slowly accepting it, having a girlfriend and getting my life back on track, but still I will never be the same...well that's not completely correct, there is an artefact of my old self burried in my dreams, but I encounter it less and less.

    Time won't heal those wounds, but you will accept it one day and deal with it. It's a long process.
     
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    Pigeon Senior Member My Regimen

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    That's good you have a gf man. A lot of guys don't have that dealing with the same issues as you.

    How are you handling the physical part of the relationship knowing you have pfs, is she ok with it? (if I may ask)
     
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    Thanks man.Yeah she was very patient and I am able to perform now with the help of Sildenafil.
     
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    Any progress? As a (former) PFS sufferer I am able to have sex without Sildenafil again.
     
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    No, kind of stagnant. Some doctor prescribed me progesterone but it doesn't do much so far.
     
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    Stagnant at which stage? Hang in there man. What are some things you are doing to counter the condition?
     
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    Hm, kind of a semi-hard on that is often not maintainable during sex, unpleasurable orgasms and reduced semen volume. Some herbs (ashgewanda etc.), progesterone, sport and I visited a new doctor who recognized the condition and made a second blood panel test.
     

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