I.D WALKER
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Yes I concur with your valid point. At face value wearing a wig has some apparent disadvantages that literally and objectively can not be overlooked. This is why I stress the fact that it is not for everyone, but to your accurate point about being socially acceptable; to be fair I suppose one could make a similar argument about societies' backwards opinion about "plugs" or a hair transparent. When I had my transplant I knew the chances were high that I'ld have to confront and deal with some uncomfortable external repercussions ie; a combination of basic human curiosity and abject disbelief from my work associates? Internally I obviously had to overcome a host of natural challenges also ie; anxiety from the anticipated backlash, and self doubts that I would not achieve a normal appearance ever again, and particularly how would this affect my work relations? Would they accept me as a regular person again or would they come to the unfair conclusion that somehow over night I turned into some sort of "weirdo." Needless to say, my post surgery experience was a complete let down and this reality led to the downward spiral and devolution of the once promising young me and the wonderful world as I knew it. By this point everyone must have speculated or worse, correctly identified my situation. Now at least from where I stood I was completely branded, damaged goods. In light of these circumstances my chances of saving face were pretty much doomed. Oddly my only means of psycho/emotional salvation came in the fibrous, synthetic form of what we fondly name a wig and rug, hair piece, hair system, etc.,.Well aware that I'ld be merely replacing one illusion with another did not make matters easier ( in retrospect I believe it may have magnified my anxiety), but for a few years it gave me enough inner security to forge ahead and helped with and wearing me manage and function behind the spectral of normalcy with some degree of success and stability. Though costly, it afforded me the luxury of satisfactorily working/performing for at least few more years (survival) The awkwardness never left me, and I simply was not equipped, forget being equipped.., I was not ready, to consider the starker and darker alternative( public chrome dome) that literally meant fully blowing my cover. I quantify and justify the ( much different from a presidential endorsement) practical value in choosing to wear this mock cosmetic anomaly to establish an omnipresent( thanx Fred) or general and paradoxical truth, that is; we lie to ourselves regularly. This is nothing to see or point out as a shameful. On a subconscious/conscious and complexly human level sometimes it is what we do in order to adapt and/or maneuver in this equally involved and evolving world. We do it for reasons we understand as well as for reasons we can not always explain and often we do it in order to feel better even for a brief moment. It is a survival mechanism so embedded in our make up that it's frequency and impulse is almost automatic. Again back to hair loss treatment (alternatives) I would be mistaken to suggest that there exists a real and permanent solution, or a cure all quick solution for Androgenetic Alopecia. There are however some sustainable and viable options available. None are necessarily inferior to the next because no ones needs or standards are never all the same. I respect anyone who tries to explore and restore their own sense of identity and happiness, and the risky measures they try come in several shapes and sizes. There is no "one size fits all" method presently available. Until I hear of a cure or solution for my M.P.B. I am resigned to wear what I can bear and accept for now that even happiness has it's limits.
