I Was Randomly Watching Videos About Hair Pieces And Bumped Into This One

[Heinrich Harrer]

I am a single man in the dating market who doesn't work from home, and I manage fine. I honestly think most if not all of the problems you encountered in the past were the result of using crude old-fashioned technology (possibly because that is all that was or is available on the ground in your country).

Men wearing hair is still a bit stigmatised in public, no question. That is why I and most wearers prefer to keep it private. And if you choose wisely and keep up your maintenance, you can keep it private, even in intimate situations. However, there are 2 qualifications to that.

First, there is a big difference between the "public" herd mentality attitude to hair replacement seen in the media and the Internet - ewww dead squirrel, shave it off, better off bald, get a transplant, would never date a man with a wig etc. etc - and the real life reaction you get from real people whom you tell. If you are honest and you say you were losing your hair and you really hated it, and so you got some artificial help to keep yourself looking decent, most people, and this includes girlfriends, will take that at face value and will respect your decision and your privacy, and they will be OK with it. In fact, in my experience not only most people, but all people. Hair replacement seen at the one-to-one human level is an understandable reaction to a kind of pain - the pain of hairloss. People get that, and they understand that wearing a hairpiece is at worst a minor cosmetic quirk, not something which detracts from your value as a human being or a friend or a potential partner. Don't take everything you read in Cosmo at face value.

Second, there has definitely been an easing of even the public sentiment about men's hair replacement. It is part of the wider metrosexual trend of increased acceptance of men being interested in their appearance and willing to do stuff to improve it, whether it be extreme muscle work, cosmetic surgery, cosmetic implants, cosmetic dentistry, tattoos, teeth whitening, male make-up or whatever. I am not necessarily a fan of some of these things, but they have helped change the tone of the debate. If you search "hair system" on Instagram or YouTube, you will find literally dozens of posts of young guys talking about their hair replacements, showing you how they work, taking them off, telling you how they feel about them. Some of them are commercially sponsored, but not all. There are a lot more guys now who are open about wearing a system, and the more that happens the lower the stigma will be. Unless there is a major medical breakthrough on hairloss, I think in 10 years time hair systems will be no more stigmatised than coloured contact lenses or veneers.

Finally, if you think you can wear a hair replacement and have a permanent relationship with a woman without telling her, forget it. That's childish, and it's not what it is about. You don't have to tell every girl you go out for a drink with, because it's not their business, but if you are deciding to share your life with someone you have got to be honest with them. Aside from anything else, the stress of trying to cover your tracks will give you a heart attack. And it's just not that big a deal. If you can't do that, hair replacement is not for you. As I said before, you need balls to wear a system.

Noah

I thought you said you’re married and work from home lmao. It’s the reason I wrote wha I wrote before.

I agree with your post for the most part but all that is contradictory for one single reason/fact that no matter how hard we try to erase, it can’t be erased.

That fact is that the hair piece need stems from social stigma, from how people may judge us, from how people may find us unattractive, from how people this and that. It’s basically a hat, a mask, only mote beautiful. So when you tell people you wear fake hair, all that insecurity just rushes out and signals to everyone that this you have issues. The normal thing was is and will be to bald. To take the time to glue or tape something to your head screams issues and narcissism. Because guess what, another dude is on the same company that night and he’s bald. And he’s fine with it. So now you’re not just someone with issues, you’re someone nobody is gonna take sides with because they’re like hey what’s wrong with you lol. Maybe in the UK where multiculturalism thrives, it’s fine. But in other countries it’s not.

Why would anyone pay to hide his baldness when he apparently has no problem declaring to people that he IS bald? Because telling one person is enough, it’s gonna spread bud. Doesn’t mean it’s gonna be talked about in public in front of you. But it will be talked about, THAT I guarantee you. So one thing you lose is secrecy. Which is the whole point otherwise you can just take it off in public on a sunny day, no?

Hair pieces are meant to be a secret. Surely for the love of your life you will tell her and again it’s not love, it’s the simple fact that she’s gonna find out anyways. She can keep a secret. But having laces that are detectable to touch and glue that runs down your forehead... no.

I understand you. And the need for hair. I’m not here to argue, in fact you’re a cool guy and you gave me plenty of valuable info around this subject. But I just don’t think hair systems are ready for being a daily undetectable discreet thing yet. That’s what holds me back, it’s not about balls. I wore one ten years ago and showed the next day with it, it was pretty much despair. I actually remember crying when they put the piece on and cut it. Even the ladies at clinic doing the dye/placement/cut were crying. I sh*t you not...

Anyways. Still not mentally prepared. But I’m open to it as well as treatments that may come soon. These next two years will be critical.

 

[Bigbone]

You’re bad at baiting my fat bald friend. Silence.

Lmao. I'm serious tho, every story you pull sound like straight up bs. My guess is you were too much of a pussy to take finasteride, wear a system or get a hair transplant. You're now on here to convince yourself you've made the right decision, that nothing works.

I don't care what you chose to do or say, what bothers me is you potentially putting others off possible solutions while having no experience. I mean, you have 400+ posts in less than 2 months, you're dedicated. And this is definitely not your first account.

 

[disfiguredyoungman]

Lmao. I'm serious tho, every story you pull sound like straight up bs. My guess is you were too much of a pussy to take finasteride, wear a system or get a hair transplant. You're now on here to convince yourself you've made the right decision, that nothing works.

I don't care what you chose to do or say, what bothers me is you potentially putting others off possible solutions while having no experience. I mean, you have 400+ posts in less than 2 months, you're dedicated. And this is definitely not your first account.

Not to mention he pretended to be the bald instagramm influencer on his Avatar, then pretended he never pretended to be him and it was all part of a ‘social experiment’...One day he writes lengthy posts about mastering baldness and it all being about confidence, him pulling women etc. Literally the next day he whines about balding and wants to wear a piece.
Credibility is not one of your strong points @Heinrich Harrer .

 

[Heinrich Harrer]

Lmao. I'm serious tho, every story you pull sound like straight up bs. My guess is you were too much of a pussy to take finasteride, wear a system or get a hair transplant. You're now on here to convince yourself you've made the right decision, that nothing works.

I don't care what you chose to do or say, what bothers me is you potentially putting others off possible solutions while having no experience. I mean, you have 400+ posts in less than 2 months, you're dedicated. And this is definitely not your first account.

Alright I’ll play.

First of all, if you read my posts you would know I’m here as a journey to understand this condition, this disease, whatever you wanna call it. It’s only through interaction that you can come to a conclusion.

If you read my previous posts you’d know I took Finasteride and it ruined my perfect tits by giving me puffy areolas. Which I am almost done with, but it goes away slowly. It also gave me other sides which ive mentioned here. Now the thing is when I was about to take Finasteride, I also kept reading negative comments and warnings from others and it bothered me too. You understand why only after you’ve taken the drug. Should I mention the fat it gave me that can’t get rid of now? Thankfully sexual sides went away. So yes forgive me for being negative about this ridiculous drug.

About my life every bit of it is true. I never have a problem sharing because you won’t meet me IRL ever. That gives me the benefit of sharing personal things without feeling worried. I understand that maybe your life has been shallow and empty or maybe same as mine and you just don’t want to hear about these things because you’re still in denial. Whatever it is, there is no reason for me to lie in a forum full of insecure cucks. And I put myself into that category as well to an extent. A confident person doesn’t post online in a bald forum. He accepts his baldness. Yet here you will see nonbalding people who cry all the time, kids with low Norwood wearing hair pieces, or people who just want to troll. And you’re annoyed by me?

I speak freely and if my opinion annoys or hurts you, big deal. Experience is what I have and this is why I speak so vividly and intensely about such things. There is not a single person out there on Finasteride for ten years or more than hasn’t been wrecked by sides. People hide it from you, is all. People are willing to castrate themselves for hair and you think someone can’t create a lie and live in it, say... Finasteride being A-okay?

Anyways, you just wanna fight me boy but I’m taking my creatine and I’m doing my pushups so I say “give me location” and stop pestering me. Peace.

 

[Heinrich Harrer]

Not to mention he pretended to be the bald instagramm influencer on his Avatar, then pretended he never pretended to be him and it was all part of a ‘social experiment’...One day he writes lengthy posts about mastering baldness and it all being about confidence, him pulling women etc. Literally the next day he whines about balding and wants to wear a piece.
Credibility is not one of your strong points @Heinrich Harrer .

Talk to me in a year, we will see how that nest feels up your nw5 scalp. Cheers matey.

 

[disfiguredyoungman]

Talk to me in a year, we will see how that nest feels up your nw5 scalp. Cheers matey.

How is that related to your credibility

 

[Heinrich Harrer]

How is that related to your credibility

You will find out in a year when you realize everything I said was not only true but from heart. Give it time.

 

[Fanjeera]

i think for younger people it's more allowed and forgivable. they can do more extreme stuff with their looks and fashion when they're still starting in life.

how do you know if people talk about it behind your back? i guess when you just start with wearing, get shitty systems, make mistakes, get caught and even tell yourself to your friends, then yes, but for how long is it going to be such an interesting topic?

good thing about hairpieces is that they look perfect, they actually make you look more attractive. with other solutions you will still be receding and thinning noticably and we don't even know if that looks better than the clean shaven bald look. i think there was a study saying that receding is as bad as being totally bald, therefore the only goal should be NW1. and if you can be 100% you look more attractive thanks to this thing, you won't care as much what people think about you.

of course this can't be the only attractive feature you've got. you can't be strongly lacking in other features either. you may have to be doing all the metrosexual stuff and maxing your looks in all areas to actually become noticably better looking. my social life has become like 5x better since becoming NW1 from NW3, but i also do other stuff to look better (and people for some reason have all my life thought that i wear make-up, but i dont lol)

 

[HairSystemGuy]

Alright I’ll play.

First of all, if you read my posts you would know I’m here as a journey to understand this condition, this disease, whatever you wanna call it. It’s only through interaction that you can come to a conclusion.

If you read my previous posts you’d know I took Finasteride and it ruined my perfect tits by giving me puffy areolas. Which I am almost done with, but it goes away slowly. It also gave me other sides which ive mentioned here. Now the thing is when I was about to take Finasteride, I also kept reading negative comments and warnings from others and it bothered me too. You understand why only after you’ve taken the drug. Should I mention the fat it gave me that can’t get rid of now? Thankfully sexual sides went away. So yes forgive me for being negative about this ridiculous drug.

About my life every bit of it is true. I never have a problem sharing because you won’t meet me IRL ever. That gives me the benefit of sharing personal things without feeling worried. I understand that maybe your life has been shallow and empty or maybe same as mine and you just don’t want to hear about these things because you’re still in denial. Whatever it is, there is no reason for me to lie in a forum full of insecure cucks. And I put myself into that category as well to an extent. A confident person doesn’t post online in a bald forum. He accepts his baldness. Yet here you will see nonbalding people who cry all the time, kids with low Norwood wearing hair pieces, or people who just want to troll. And you’re annoyed by me?

I speak freely and if my opinion annoys or hurts you, big deal. Experience is what I have and this is why I speak so vividly and intensely about such things. There is not a single person out there on Finasteride for ten years or more than hasn’t been wrecked by sides. People hide it from you, is all. People are willing to castrate themselves for hair and you think someone can’t create a lie and live in it, say... Finasteride being A-okay?

Anyways, you just wanna fight me boy but I’m taking my creatine and I’m doing my pushups so I say “give me location” and stop pestering me. Peace.

One man's trash is another man's treasure. Just because finasteride didn't work for you doesn't mean it won't for others.

Disclaimer: I personally wouldn't risk taking hair loss drugs.

 

[Heinrich Harrer]

i think for younger people it's more allowed and forgivable. they can do more extreme stuff with their looks and fashion when they're still starting in life.

how do you know if people talk about it behind your back? i guess when you just start with wearing, get shitty systems, make mistakes, get caught and even tell yourself to your friends, then yes, but for how long is it going to be such an interesting topic?

good thing about hairpieces is that they look perfect, they actually make you look more attractive. with other solutions you will still be receding and thinning noticably and we don't even know if that looks better than the clean shaven bald look. i think there was a study saying that receding is as bad as being totally bald, therefore the only goal should be NW1. and if you can be 100% you look more attractive thanks to this thing, you won't care as much what people think about you.

of course this can't be the only attractive feature you've got. you can't be strongly lacking in other features either. you may have to be doing all the metrosexual stuff and maxing your looks in all areas to actually become noticably better looking. my social life has become like 5x better since becoming NW1 from NW3, but i also do other stuff to look better (and people for some reason have all my life thought that i wear make-up, but i dont lol)

Bro I play football daily. Please tell me how I can get away with it. I’m all ears and dead follicles.

 

[Fanjeera]

Bro I play football daily. Please tell me how I can get away with it. I’m all ears and dead follicles.

And you have to hit the ball with your head? I guess it wont lift, if the attachment is fresh all the time, so you would have to reattach weekly or every 10 days.

For me that often is too much work (i do it monthly), but most wearers have this schedule.

If you could wear a headband or something to protect the hairline it would make it a lot easier. Dont footballers wear something on their head to protect it from getting dirty or for protection? You are allowed to wear boots there after all.

 

[Heinrich Harrer]

And you have to hit the ball with your head? I guess it wont lift, if the attachment is fresh all the time, so you would have to reattach weekly or every 10 days.

For me that often is too much work (i do it monthly), but most wearers have this schedule.

All jokes aside im considering it since this whole cure tsuji lotion thing is just ridiculous. It’s not so much the ball issue it’s the constant run and sweat.

 

[Fanjeera]

All jokes aside im considering it since this whole cure tsuji lotion thing is just ridiculous. It’s not so much the ball issue it’s the constant run and sweat.

I made another edit.
If you could wear a headband or something to protect the hairline it would make it a lot easier. Dont footballers wear something on their head to protect it from getting dirty or for protection? You are allowed to wear boots there after all.

If it's the sweat only it's better to have air flowing there I guess to blow the sweat away or to dry it.

Do scalp antiperspirants work? I use them too.

 

[Fanjeera]

Did you even wear a full lace system 10 years ago or was it with polyurethane perimeter? With longer hair and a fresher attachment mine is undetectable to touch, unless maybe they run their finger up my forehead and into the hairline. But in the sides and back you can't tell.

Glue dripping on your forehead? Not possible.

 

[Heinrich Harrer]

I made another edit.
If you could wear a headband or something to protect the hairline it would make it a lot easier. Dont footballers wear something on their head to protect it from getting dirty or for protection? You are allowed to wear boots there after all.

If it's the sweat only it's better to have air flowing there I guess to blow the sweat away or to dry it.

Do scalp antiperspirants work? I use them too.

I thought of the band too but the pressure the band would put on the front edge of the piece would be scarier tbh. It’s not that it all come off but mentally it’s sort of meh.

 

[Fanjeera]

Also a haircut with a fringe that covers the hairline can really help to calm yourself. Then it will be undetectable to touch all around as well. The problem is I can't suit my square face any polite looking haircuts with fringes.

 

[BaldBearded]

You can do a textured crop hairstyle.

 

[Noah]

There are a number of professional footballers who wear a system or have worn one, for example Steven Ireland at Manchester City (briefly), Marco Donadel and Vasco Regini in Italy, and Ivica Vrdoljak in Poland. I'm not saying their systems are the best I have ever seen, but I am not aware that there has ever been any instance of the system embarrassing them by coming loose in public. Obviously there are likely to be others that we don't know about.

 

[Fanjeera]

I thought you said you’re married and work from home lmao. It’s the reason I wrote wha I wrote before.

I agree with your post for the most part but all that is contradictory for one single reason/fact that no matter how hard we try to erase, it can’t be erased.

That fact is that the hair piece need stems from social stigma, from how people may judge us, from how people may find us unattractive, from how people this and that. It’s basically a hat, a mask, only mote beautiful. So when you tell people you wear fake hair, all that insecurity just rushes out and signals to everyone that this you have issues. The normal thing was is and will be to bald. To take the time to glue or tape something to your head screams issues and narcissism. Because guess what, another dude is on the same company that night and he’s bald. And he’s fine with it. So now you’re not just someone with issues, you’re someone nobody is gonna take sides with because they’re like hey what’s wrong with you lol. Maybe in the UK where multiculturalism thrives, it’s fine. But in other countries it’s not.

Why would anyone pay to hide his baldness when he apparently has no problem declaring to people that he IS bald? Because telling one person is enough, it’s gonna spread bud. Doesn’t mean it’s gonna be talked about in public in front of you. But it will be talked about, THAT I guarantee you. So one thing you lose is secrecy. Which is the whole point otherwise you can just take it off in public on a sunny day, no?

Hair pieces are meant to be a secret. Surely for the love of your life you will tell her and again it’s not love, it’s the simple fact that she’s gonna find out anyways. She can keep a secret. But having laces that are detectable to touch and glue that runs down your forehead... no.

I understand you. And the need for hair. I’m not here to argue, in fact you’re a cool guy and you gave me plenty of valuable info around this subject. But I just don’t think hair systems are ready for being a daily undetectable discreet thing yet. That’s what holds me back, it’s not about balls. I wore one ten years ago and showed the next day with it, it was pretty much despair. I actually remember crying when they put the piece on and cut it. Even the ladies at clinic doing the dye/placement/cut were crying. I sh*t you not...

Anyways. Still not mentally prepared. But I’m open to it as well as treatments that may come soon. These next two years will be critical.

At the same time people also think that bald young people have issues as well, because you can't be living a normal life when everyone sees you like that all the time. There are not many bald guys in their early 20s which is the age I guess most people start wearing. At least you can be viewed as normal by new people you meet and that will make the one who caught your hairpiece think better of you as well.

If someone gives you a very thorough touch it will be felt. Only when during sex the hand just strokes the head or someone too friendly does it at a party, it will not be felt if you've done a full scalp bond and don't have very short hair.

I have a fat old lady at work who is full of love all the time and wants to do rituals and give massages to colleagues and also head massages, so I've been caught by her. I also freeze and can't think of anything to do when that happens. One time there was a meeting in our small like 10 square meeting room with like 20 colleagues and while massaging my head again she also says to all the colleagues "oh, and the wig is on again...". That really pisses me off still when I think of it, but can't leave that workplace either. Before when she touched me she atleast didn't say anything out loud. I guess she is kind of jealous, because she is severely thinning and has short hair. Luckily all my colleagues are 10--40 years older than me.

 

[CrownBalding]

At the same time people also think that bald young people have issues as well, because you can't be living a normal life when everyone sees you like that all the time. There are not many bald guys in their early 20s which is the age I guess most people start wearing. At least you can be viewed as normal by new people you meet and that will make the one who caught your hairpiece think better of you as well.

If someone gives you a very thorough touch it will be felt. Only when during sex the hand just strokes the head or someone too friendly does it at a party, it will not be felt if you've done a full scalp bond and don't have very short hair.

I have a fat old lady at work who is full of love all the time and wants to do rituals and give massages to colleagues and also head massages, so I've been caught by her. I also freeze and can't think of anything to do when that happens. One time there was a meeting in our small like 10 square meeting room with like 20 colleagues and while massaging my head again she also says to all the colleagues "oh, and the wig is on again...". That really pisses me off still when I think of it, but can't leave that workplace either. Before when she touched me she atleast didn't say anything out loud. I guess she is kind of jealous, because she is severely thinning and has short hair. Luckily all my colleagues are 10--40 years older than me.

So it’ll definitely be felt if someone goes to touch your head?