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I'm starting to change my mind on whether men and women can ever just be friends. I know this will sound superbly beta but all the close female friends I've spend time with in the past I found attractive. The only reason I didn't make a move was because they had a partner or because they didn't seem to find me attractive back.
I'm starting to question the whole male and female friendship dynamic. I've noticed a few female friends at work occasionally tease me slightly (in a joking way) but I'm not sure if its a test of whether its flirting. Either way I'm growing tired of it and looking to distance myself from unclear relationships (so basically just have friends or a partner but if there is any tests or flirting with a friend then avoid!).'
Apparently the term for a guy who is 'friends' with a woman he is attracted to is a male orbiter (or beta orbiter). Just thinking about that term makes me cringe. It's pretty tragic that I hung out with these women I was attracted to just because I hoped they'd suddenly fancy me.
I also just read this online and it has really got me thinking:
I think its important for women to understand that the true nature of relations between men and women is basically sex. Sex is pretty much the driving force behind pretty much everything we do, including when a woman uses you for ego. But it's inequitable, the woman uses an orbiter for gratification and this enables her to more confidently reach for the alphas who she hopes will help her carry forth healthy offspring.
So what do you all think? Can men and women ever just be friends?
And also, has anyone had the same experience as me where you find a female friend attractive but you don't make a move?
(And I know this isn't directly hair loss related - but I know a lot of you guys also have low esteem (hair loss never helps) like me and that these male orbiter relationships are likely.)
I'm starting to question the whole male and female friendship dynamic. I've noticed a few female friends at work occasionally tease me slightly (in a joking way) but I'm not sure if its a test of whether its flirting. Either way I'm growing tired of it and looking to distance myself from unclear relationships (so basically just have friends or a partner but if there is any tests or flirting with a friend then avoid!).'
Apparently the term for a guy who is 'friends' with a woman he is attracted to is a male orbiter (or beta orbiter). Just thinking about that term makes me cringe. It's pretty tragic that I hung out with these women I was attracted to just because I hoped they'd suddenly fancy me.
I also just read this online and it has really got me thinking:
I think its important for women to understand that the true nature of relations between men and women is basically sex. Sex is pretty much the driving force behind pretty much everything we do, including when a woman uses you for ego. But it's inequitable, the woman uses an orbiter for gratification and this enables her to more confidently reach for the alphas who she hopes will help her carry forth healthy offspring.
So what do you all think? Can men and women ever just be friends?
And also, has anyone had the same experience as me where you find a female friend attractive but you don't make a move?
(And I know this isn't directly hair loss related - but I know a lot of you guys also have low esteem (hair loss never helps) like me and that these male orbiter relationships are likely.)
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