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I'm wondering if there's anyone else on here who is in a similar situation? Sorry for sob story but i feel really depressed and need to talk
My social skills are poor, they always have been. I had SEVERE social anxiety growing up. I couldn't even talk to people without having a nervous break down. My father is similar and so was his father. Guess it runs in the family. But i've come a long way and i'm proud of myself i can talk to people and make friends but the reality is i'll never be great socially.
My looks aren't great i'm short, (5'6) balding, genetic dark circles and super pale skin that doesn't tan well. I "looksmax" by working out, eating well etc but I'll never be really good looking and desirable to women from a physical perspective.
I'm self aware and this is what hurts me a bit. Every guy I know who is ugly or not that great looking who seems happy and has girlfriends usually has outstanding social skills, extroverted heaps of friends etc. Every other guy i know is usually good looking, tall etc.
So what happens to the man who has social anxiety and poor looks? It's really depressing. I really noticed this/had this feelings at the bar last night when women seemed repelled by me.
I know people say you should focus on other things hobbies, goals, career and so on.. but relationships and intimacy is a human need is it not?
I find myself feeling nostalgic and thinking back a couple of years ago to when I had a girlfriend. We only went out for 7 months but she was somewhat attractive and i was really happy with her. Didn't have to worry about going out, dating or trying to 'meet women'.
The funny part was she was actually a complete sl*t and had a host of severe issues (had slept with over 60 maybe even 100 guys before me) but due to my physical limitations and social skills i was just happy having a girlfriend and looked passed the bad parts (Stupidly).
Just feel really depressed about it. Wondering if any other guys on here are in a similar boat? poor social skills + ugly + short?
My social skills are poor, they always have been. I had SEVERE social anxiety growing up. I couldn't even talk to people without having a nervous break down. My father is similar and so was his father. Guess it runs in the family. But i've come a long way and i'm proud of myself i can talk to people and make friends but the reality is i'll never be great socially.
My looks aren't great i'm short, (5'6) balding, genetic dark circles and super pale skin that doesn't tan well. I "looksmax" by working out, eating well etc but I'll never be really good looking and desirable to women from a physical perspective.
I'm self aware and this is what hurts me a bit. Every guy I know who is ugly or not that great looking who seems happy and has girlfriends usually has outstanding social skills, extroverted heaps of friends etc. Every other guy i know is usually good looking, tall etc.
So what happens to the man who has social anxiety and poor looks? It's really depressing. I really noticed this/had this feelings at the bar last night when women seemed repelled by me.
I know people say you should focus on other things hobbies, goals, career and so on.. but relationships and intimacy is a human need is it not?
I find myself feeling nostalgic and thinking back a couple of years ago to when I had a girlfriend. We only went out for 7 months but she was somewhat attractive and i was really happy with her. Didn't have to worry about going out, dating or trying to 'meet women'.
The funny part was she was actually a complete sl*t and had a host of severe issues (had slept with over 60 maybe even 100 guys before me) but due to my physical limitations and social skills i was just happy having a girlfriend and looked passed the bad parts (Stupidly).
Just feel really depressed about it. Wondering if any other guys on here are in a similar boat? poor social skills + ugly + short?