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they dont seem interested
Calling out feelsbadman again to provide proof of the following
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Dysfunctional environments leading to dysfunctional circumstances leading to a dysfunctional learning history leading to individuals allow dysfunctional people/events into their lives and thus, the cycle keeps on spinning.
If I would have to pick just one factor: parents failing to fulfill the basic human needs of their children because the same happened to them when they were kids. We are all victims of other victims.
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I said in a later comment.
Low self esteem, low to no confidence and I kinda simped for her and she thought I was gonna catch feelings for her.
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Very well put. That is why we love "train wrecks"( dysfunctional people) because we can relate. That is why the YouTube channels with the most subscribers tend to be run by a huge dysfunctional person. Every family has it's dysfunction. And with that people try to balance it out with perfectionism which consequently leads back to dysfunction. It's a never ending loop.
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Sounds like she wasn't looking for a serious connection..
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Try seeing if @INT can give you some video chat therapy. I think he would be good for you if he is open to it. But you have to pay him for his time. No freebies.
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Luckily I had a very good therapist
She helped me overcome trauma and also realize the errors in how I was dealing with women.
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Life is a series of decisions. One thing leads to another. Sometimes you just gotta be open minded and brave and take advantage of the opportunities you're given..
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Yea its true my ex was really disturbed but i felt comfortable being with her i realised later it was a reflection of my dysfunctional mother
really mind blowing experience
really mind blowing experience
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So does that mean you have the potential to turn into Norman Bates? LOL! In all seriousness, now we know what is really the root of your dysfunctional behavior. We are all victims of abuse. It's hard when it's your own parents or family.
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yea it really changed my life. Im fairly certain my mother is narcissistic. It makes a lot of sense. But I also know her parents were messed up as well . as already meantioned the cycle of abuse gets passed on. my ex was similar in many ways to my mother but worse. . She was very sick id say almost socio pathic
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My parents are difficult people.. I'm glad I'm not like them. And I'll ensure my future wife whether it's my current gf or someone else will be a gentle, supportive, kind, pure person.
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I wasnt either, but I lost myself around such an amazing woman.
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If she was more serious she would've appreciated it
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I could have had the best sexfriend ever, but meh, I was dumb asf.
Two of the best ‘bed partners’ I ever had were 8 and 9 year older than me. One when I was 25 and one when I was 28.
that was a joke...
usually it shouldnt matter...
its not like everybody is damaged goods (or whatever they call it) after 29...
i rather think that men without much experience prefer younger women because they arent confident enough and the partner wont have much to compare to (or so they think)...
cant say i ever had a gf of fwb or whatever who was older than me by more than a year, though...
It's pointless trying to help @Feelsbadman because he doesn't want to help himself. No one can save someone who doesn't want to be saved and would rather sit down to cry and indulge in self-pity like an addict