All women's inboxes are getting battered

[vondoom]

Damn dude. Which woman has hurt you?

lol none actually, i always did well with women and there were never any bigger issues...

the only thing i cant stand is when people planning to use other peoples money (and is not about relationships only) and that is usually what happens...
and that doesnt mean i dont pay anything for my gf, quite the opposite...

 

[vondoom]

I honestly don't get out enough to meet women in real life, plus im extremely introverted in person, that is of course not exclusive to guys, plenty of introverted women too i imagine that i could maybe meet.

yeah you just have to try, honestly... the first time it works, you wonder why you always worried...
is like the first time i went on stage, i was super worried and to this day i cant stand it, but after that, i was like “that was all??” and then you go and improve on that...

 

[justinbieberscombover]

This morning I matched with a woman.

Her first text: "Snap?"
Me: Gives her my Snapchat

I confirm her friend request, she sends me a selfie where she looks extremely cute and it says "Hey you"

I am impressed but a bit busy getting prepared to work and driving, when I get there I'm finally ready to send her a selfie back. All of this took about 10 minutes btw.

Then I find out that apparently she got pissed that I didn't respond immediately so she unmatched and unfriended me.

Dating apps are awesome!!

 

[Derelict]

This morning I matched with a woman.

Her first text: "Snap?"
Me: Gives her my Snapchat

I confirm her friend request, she sends me a selfie where she looks extremely cute and it says "Hey you"

I am impressed but a bit busy getting prepared to work and driving, when I get there I'm finally ready to send her a selfie back. All of this took about 10 minutes btw.

Then I find out that apparently she got pissed that I didn't respond immediately so she unmatched and unfriended me.

Dating apps are awesome!!

Is that pretty much the norm on dating sites or was that a one off?

 

[vondoom]

normal with a good hairline, eggs dont get that far^^ (just kidding)

 

[Catagen]

Come on man. Telling people to quit is just a losing attitude. I'm not sure if you knew this but women are a thousand times better than men at picking up social queues and reading people. If you have that kind of attitude, women will see it immediately and it is not attractive at all.

Men and women are more similar than you think. Men and women have the same desires and fears, and neither men or women have some sort of a sixth sense which you describe here.

 

[Catagen]

This morning I matched with a woman.

Her first text: "Snap?"
Me: Gives her my Snapchat

I confirm her friend request, she sends me a selfie where she looks extremely cute and it says "Hey you"

I am impressed but a bit busy getting prepared to work and driving, when I get there I'm finally ready to send her a selfie back. All of this took about 10 minutes btw.

Then I find out that apparently she got pissed that I didn't respond immediately so she unmatched and unfriended me.

Dating apps are awesome!!

It totally wasnt the selfie. You cherry pick photos for your profile but a candid selfie can make you look much worse due to distortion and unfavorable lighting and people look generally sh*t in the morning.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

It totally wasnt the selfie. You cherry pick photos for your profile but a candid selfie can make you look much worse due to distortion and unfavorable lighting and people look generally sh*t in the morning.

This has nothing to do with anything. She sent me a selfie where she looked good but during the time I was about to respond (10 mins later) she unmatched because she felt insecure about me leaving her on seen.

 

[justinbieberscombover]

Is that pretty much the norm on dating sites or was that a one off?

It was weirder than usual but getting ghosted/unmatched for not responding fast enough is pretty common. But if you always respond too fast you are also gonna seem desperate. It's a lose-lose situation.

 

[vondoom]

yeah and she wont even remember you an hour later, because she got 20 other dudes left...
online dating is either looking really good, or you have to be lucky... like the few matches i had were always women with similar interests... didnt lead anywhere of course, but somehow you got to get the foot in the door if you play the old game...

 

[nicoandgello]

just get yourself escort dude, you can easily find some cute 19s without any problems

 

[justinbieberscombover]

yeah and she wont even remember you an hour later, because she got 20 other dudes left...
online dating is either looking really good, or you have to be lucky... like the few matches i had were always women with similar interests... didnt lead anywhere of course, but somehow you got to get the foot in the door if you play the old game...

I don't remember her either.

 

[vondoom]

I don't remember her either.

even better... way to go...
would be even sadder if you would remember them all, because you had like one girl (or none)...

 

[I wont lose this]

im still sure most women just do it because they are the centre of attraction then and to have some insta pictures... also: because they usually traditionally dont pay for it^^

but yeah, some just do it because its what you do... same as getting children because women get children... dont see the woman go back to work while i become a stay-at-home dad, though^^

At my age I can't really picture myself married in the future, no matter how much I try. I'm not that old yet and you are far experienced than me judging by your age, but in my case, I've had so many frustrating experiences in my lifetime that I simply gave up on any kind of relationship. The last one I had sliced me and left a scar that hasn't healed yet. This plus my hair loss problem made me quite depressed.

I do well with women, always did, but with all this shallowness surrounding us 24/7, it's better to let it to another time.

 

[vondoom]

At my age I can't really picture myself married in the future, no matter how much I try. I'm not that old yet and you are far experienced than me judging by your age, but in my case, I've had so many frustrating experiences in my lifetime that I simply gave up on any kind of relationship. The last one I had sliced me and left a scar that hasn't healed yet. This plus my hair loss problem made me quite depressed.

I do well with women, always did, but with all this shallowness surrounding us 24/7, it's better to let it to another time.

well as i said, to it is a money issue, when i am expected to pay for everything (which i would be), that is honestly the only real issue i got with it... and for my gf, nothing would change anyway, that another reason not to do it...
if by some accident i get rich, or she would have to depend on my health insurance, or whatever reason, i wouldnt mind going to the municipal office, pay like 40 dollars and she is in a safer place... doesnt really apply though, because i am not a citizen where we are living...

what i wanted to say is that i often hear people talking about marriage (like before being bald or before 35 or whatever), but that doesnt give anyone any security, since it is so easy to divorce these days... its like ending a normal relationship... only difference: you most likely loose a lot of money (more than you lost on the stupid wedding party^^)...

good that i am not that old^^ i just know and met a lot of people, had my share of relationships (not that many though) and a ton of flings... thats basically all... everybody figures everything out the way it suits him/her best...

 

[doubleindemnity]

Yes, that is your opinion. You keep on presenting it as a fact and tell young and insecure men to do the same thing just so you can feel better about your own decision.

Also that attachment to have a family... I can tell you; that would not have made you any more happy.

I didn't want to be happy; I wanted to have a family. In my opinion, it is short sighted to assume that each person is primarily focused on happiness. Anyway my view now is that, since bald guys do not have any chance with hetero dating, they should give up and dedicate their time and effort to things that are actually good and enjoyable, like the music and books and sports.

 

[Norwoodcel]

The girl in the OP eventually ghosted me..

It always happens. Something more interesting came along. Her inbox is full and would need to scroll down loads to see it.

 

[vondoom]

The girl in the OP eventually ghosted me..

It always happens. Something more interesting came along. Her inbox is full and would need to scroll down loads to see it.

that is to be expected... you need to take it to another app or preferably some date asap, anyway...
i also dont want to see a womans inbox, its most likely very annoying... too full, everyone messages you and most likely 80% idiots...

 

[doubleindemnity]

The girl in the OP eventually ghosted me..

It always happens. Something more interesting came along. Her inbox is full and would need to scroll down loads to see it.

When this happens to me, I note that it was a mistake that I matched with somebody and got a single reply to begin with. I've had hundreds like that. Even if your texts are interesting and engaging, nothing makes up for being NW6.

 

[INT]

The girl in the OP eventually ghosted me..

It always happens. Something more interesting came along. Her inbox is full and would need to scroll down loads to see it.

I am sure it has nothing to do with whatever you said to her.