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@Timii ? If so, congratulations again on being aware of the most important thing in life at such an early age. My advice is based on education, research, reading and extensive real life experiences with the things I mention here. I've lived three of your lifetimes and then some. I've made many mistakes and learned from them. I hope you do not make the same ones and benefit from what you gather from this. I'll keep it short and to the point. Questions? Just ask.
First, a couple philosophical principles. Be aware life is short, try to make every moment meaningful. You came in to this world alone as a defenseless infant so don't think there is anything in this world you can not take on head first and by yourself. Meaning, you are the only one that will rule what judges you and in the end it is your self-assessment that counts.
Health first. Without your health you will have nothing. Do all you can to maintain and improve it. DO NOT USE DRUGS! The male brain is still wiring itself up to the age of 25 (although neuroplasticity occurs even into old age) and you will interfere with the programming that will be achieved through academic learning or skill learning.
Decide what you want to do in life. You must have a good job that pays good money. Either college and a profession or a skill that pays well, welder, electrician, etc. Get on it now. You do not want to be waiting on tables in a restaurant when you are 34 years old. Set a goal to accomplish it. Calculate how you are going to get into a school or training program and how long it will take you to complete and stick to that time frame. Plan, plan, plan. Use counselors at schools to help you focus on what you might be good at if necessary and guide you. Establish goals for what exactly you are going to be doing in 3 years and 5 years. Then the next 5 years. Be like a barracuda, go after your goal and never give up. If you are living with your parents, this is a great gift in life. To have a place to live and food without having to pay for it yourself while you get your education or training. Don't take this for granted. Oh, also, write down your goals and refer to them often. Better yet, keep them in plain sight.
Don't be around negative people (ok your here on this forum
. That's ok, just take it with a grain of salt). There's no time for that. Positiveness in thought attracts positive results in life. You are what you think. (books like The Power of Positive Thinking by Peale, The Self-talk Solution by Shad Hemstedder and others have proven this). To further help you achieve this:
Meditate. Learn, read how to meditate. Mindfulness meditation is healing and has antiaging benefits directly able to affect your genes. Exercise, helps your health but is somewhat a form of meditation. Clears the mind, protects against depression. A word on that. Some things will get you down. Then you turn inward and perhaps on yourself. I rather think it is being introspective, the mind turns inward to analyze and put things in perspective. When you do that, become an observer within yourself not the object of insult or a victim. Observe your inward self, accept who you are and how you can do better. A lot can be learned in that fortress of solitude (Superman) or as Sherlock Holmes would have it, the Mind Palace. Introspection not depression!
Ask yourself, what means the most to you in life right now. This will develop as life unfolds. But it is very important because it has been found that those who have a very high emotional attraction, a feeling of love or happiness towards something very dear, live longer and survive better under the most extreme physical or mental challenges and tend to be happier in life overall. If you can find a copy, I encourage you to read Man's Search for Meaning by Dr. Viktor Frankl. Many find this in their religion, their relationship with their family or even memories of places or people that they return to in thought.
That's all for now. The most important thing is to get going on being secure in life. Your maximum amount of life energy is between now and 25. It's like a star being born. Enjoy it too!
Fading Sun,
Trichosan
