Unsure What To Say To New Women Regarding My Hair System?

[Jeff G]

Hey guys -


First post here. I'll keep this short. I am 33 years old. Hair loss got bad by about age 31. At 32 I got a hair system from Apollo Hair Systems here in Seattle. It's a nice program I am on. About $280/month. I have to say the systems are nice. Front hair line is excellent but I also naturally always put my hair forward so it hides it.

I am just kinda lost as to what to tell new women I am seeing/dating. I would much rather keep it a secret until we are officially an item if you know what I mean. I just find myself nervous each time I am going in to kiss a new girl as many women that I have been with just love to run their hands through my hair.

I find myself not really being the moment of the kiss or intimacy as I'm constantly paying keen attention to where her hands are traveling. I've just kinda been pulling their hands down away from my head when they start going for it but this is kinda tough do especially during sex in certain positions if you know what I mean. Haha

I was thinking of manbe just telling women to please not touch my hair as I don't like how it feels? Like nails on a chalkboard, or or maybe it that it tickles?

It's just their fingers will catch the lip of the system if they run their fingers through it and again, just would rather keep it hush hush until further into an actual relationship if at all possible.

Just curious if any of you guys deal with this and how you get around it.


Thanks,


Jeff

 

[Noah]

Hey Jeff

Welcome to the board, and congrats on the new system. I'm glad it's working out for you and meeting your expectations.

Every hair wearer eventually has to formulate his own answer to this question, depending on how undetectable he feels his system is and how comfortable he is being open about hairloss and wearing. When I first started wearing I was with a Hair Club-type place, and although the piece looked good, it was very detectable to the touch. I always had to tell dates pretty quickly, or risk them finding out for themselves, which I felt would be worse. That constant self-exposure didn't feel good, and I'm sure it harmed my chance with girls coming at such an early stage in the relationship. Since I have transitioned to DIY I now feel very comfortable that my system is not detectable to ordinary observation or casual touch, so I don't say anything for first dates or few-night-stands. If it develops so that we are in a regular sexual relationship then after a month or 6 weeks I will tell them that am thinning and I go to a specialist salon for hair extensions (that's a white lie, because actually I do everything myself), and I am a bit sensitive about people playing with my hair or talking about it. Girls are familiar with the idea of hair extensions and comfortable with it. I avoid the idea of a removable hair piece. I don't let them see my adhesives or my pieces off my head. The idea is to put into their minds the idea that I have something artificial going on with my hair without getting into any detail.

This has worked for me over several years, and I feel it strikes the right balance for me between honesty and my privacy.

Noah

 

[grincher]

Noah, what base are you currently using?