TheGlamorous
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I think this was pointed out somewhere else recently, that hair loss affects everybody differently.
Obviously it is 90% of the time a bad thing. If it wasn't, so much time and money would be spent trying to fight the seemingly inevitable.
I guess for me, hair loss was one of the final problems that really knocked me down and is keeping me there.
It's not so much the hair loss in question that has affected my social life, personality and affluent drive. It's the amount of time I spend obsessing over it, the psychology which is the deciding factor as to whether it can ultimately destroy or save me.
As a child I was bullied. My goal at age 11 was to leave that school and make "friends".
When I started High School I became increasingly aware I was Gay. My goal at age 15 was to keep these "friends" by being ultimately, "normal".
At age 18, I was comfortable with my sexuality finally, and when I came out I still got to keep my "friends" and my identity, throwing normal away as it was no longer needed.
Then my hairloss problem hits. And all over again it's me struggling to deal with the fact that I'm not "normal". It isn't normal to lose hair at such a young age. Yes, it isn't "normal" to be Gay, but I'd say from a consumerist, superficial standpoint such as our society right now, most would rather me gay then bald.
Then I think things, such as, it was possible for me to make friends when I was 11. It was possible for me to keep said friends as I went through my silent sexuality struggle... but is it possible for me to overcome this?
I'm not sure. A lot of my life was spent trying to impress people, the latter of my teenage years through my looks and because of the superficial nature of the 'gay' community my qualms with hair loss are magnified.
This just being my example, and also an example of how it isn't hair loss that makes up the bowl of our problems. It just makes us stop and think critically and sometimes shamefully at ourselves.
By the way hi guys I'm back again. Used to post under the name Spec, or Speculum02 until I googled the world speculum and discovered what it actually means.
Obviously it is 90% of the time a bad thing. If it wasn't, so much time and money would be spent trying to fight the seemingly inevitable.
I guess for me, hair loss was one of the final problems that really knocked me down and is keeping me there.
It's not so much the hair loss in question that has affected my social life, personality and affluent drive. It's the amount of time I spend obsessing over it, the psychology which is the deciding factor as to whether it can ultimately destroy or save me.
As a child I was bullied. My goal at age 11 was to leave that school and make "friends".
When I started High School I became increasingly aware I was Gay. My goal at age 15 was to keep these "friends" by being ultimately, "normal".
At age 18, I was comfortable with my sexuality finally, and when I came out I still got to keep my "friends" and my identity, throwing normal away as it was no longer needed.
Then my hairloss problem hits. And all over again it's me struggling to deal with the fact that I'm not "normal". It isn't normal to lose hair at such a young age. Yes, it isn't "normal" to be Gay, but I'd say from a consumerist, superficial standpoint such as our society right now, most would rather me gay then bald.
Then I think things, such as, it was possible for me to make friends when I was 11. It was possible for me to keep said friends as I went through my silent sexuality struggle... but is it possible for me to overcome this?
I'm not sure. A lot of my life was spent trying to impress people, the latter of my teenage years through my looks and because of the superficial nature of the 'gay' community my qualms with hair loss are magnified.
This just being my example, and also an example of how it isn't hair loss that makes up the bowl of our problems. It just makes us stop and think critically and sometimes shamefully at ourselves.
By the way hi guys I'm back again. Used to post under the name Spec, or Speculum02 until I googled the world speculum and discovered what it actually means.
and must be doing ok. but unfortunatley it seems not since you've come back to rejoin us bunch of neurotics. :youbet:
