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Suicidal Over A Girl..don't Think I'll Ever Get Over It.

Discussion in 'The Impact of Hair Loss' started by Feelsbadman, Jul 13, 2019.

  1. Feelsbadman

    Feelsbadman Established Member

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    I've spoken to psychologists, posted on reddit, other forums but no one understands.

    i think this is the only place that will understand.

    I dont think im ever going to get over this girl i dated. I've never had a girlfiend before. When i was with her i wasn't working so had all the time in the world to looksmax. I probably bumped myself up to a 7/10.
    This girl was super fit. She was a gym addict and had an incredible body.

    Long story short after 8 months she left me for a tall good looking policeman NW1.

    My hair is diffusing and getting worse, i'm no longer as attractive as i used to be. I don't think i'm ever going to be able to get get a girl like her again. I'm blowing up inside. I hate my life.

    I go to work, sit in my boring as fuck office accounting job. Think about her. Finish work. Go to the gym. and repeat. I have no friends and not much family.

    All i really had was her and my hair and now they are both going and so am i. I don't think i;ll ever get over her.

    I fantasize about suicidal. On my lunch breaks i often break down and cry. I always walk passed this massive bridge and think about and see myself jumping off. I can't get over it dont think i ever will.

    i'm like a 5/10 now. i have no purpose, no desires. I want to die.
     
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    Hang in there, man. Hair loss is indeed rough, but please please please do not place disrespectful and shallow women such as the one you were with on a pedestal. You’re better than that. There are women out there with whom you will have chemistry Based on the entire person, not just their muscle and NW1 hair. I’m sure this all seems super obvious, but seriously, women do exist who are worth your time and emotion. Do you not waste any time placing your feelings in low-value women Who would date the norwood 1 version of you but not that norwood 5 version. They are not worth your attraction. Hang in there, friend
     
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    BeHereNow Established Member My Regimen

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    That’s probably why she left you. Neediness is not attractive. You need to build something tangible for yourself.
     
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    Feelsbadman Established Member

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    but wtf do i do bro? where do i start?
     
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    I have been at a very similar place than you. I can honestly say that that was the darkest time of my life but in a very weird way, I am glad that it happened because I needed it.

    I also dated someone that I CONSIDERED way out of my league. One of (of maybe the) kindest person(s) in the world, a natural beauty that easily could have been a model, open-minded, great relational skills, great in bed and most of all, she worshipped the ground that I walked. I had no idea what she saw in me. Because of this way of thinking I neglected her and our relationship and I left her no chance but to break up with me, which in hindsight, I absolutely deserved.

    Now, this came at a time where I was both balding and having sexual dysfunction issues from finasteride. If you think you have it bad, I was losing my hair AND I could no longer get it up and had no idea if it was ever going to work again.

    At some point I was literally digested with my self-pity and I decided: no more. I focussed on self-help and improved myself in as many ways I could, something I would have never done if I would never reached that very deep low. Maybe it sounds arrogant, but nowadays, I actually feel that I am out of most women's league. Not because I became a narcicist , but just because I became a more high-value person.

    Now back to you... It is not really that that fact that you are no longer with her is making you sad. The state of your life is what more than likely is really making you sad, she was just the perfect tool to cover that up for you. It is like staring into the sun without sunglasses. It is not your lack of sunglasses is hurting your eyes, but the fact that you are staring into the sun.

    From what you told us, it appears that your entire self-worth was related to her. "I have a hot girl, therefore I am great". This does not have much to do with real love. I have also read previous posts of you regarding this topic and everywhere you mention how hot she was but I have not seen any comments about how she was as a person. This again confirms that it was more a validation thing for you than actual love.Also the fact that you use the term looskmaxing tells me that you are already very physical-appearance focussed which confirms my point.

    Besides... She left you for another man... Not really something that a soulmate would do right?

    I know, it can feel crushing getting dumped. Especially when it is your first time. But billions of people experienced the same before you and billions will explain the same after you. Do not end your life but rather improve it and after some time the memory of you ex (again, who left you for another man) will be less relevant to you than what you had for breakfast.
     
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  8. justinbieberscombover

    justinbieberscombover Experienced Member My Regimen

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    It took me years to fully get over a breakup once and when I think of it, it still stings a little so I understand where you're coming from. For now I think you need to see a psychiatrist and get on some medication.
     
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    TK421 Experienced Member My Regimen

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    Never had and never came close to getting a hot gf, so I don't know what's worse, never having one, or having one but she ends up leaving you. I guess the saying 'the grass is greener on the other side of the fence' is true, because personally I'd rather have the latter. At least I'd have satisfaction knowing at least one time in my life a hot girl found me attractive.
     
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    justinbieberscombover Experienced Member My Regimen

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    Just bc a hot girl is with you doesn't mean she finds you attractive though. Girls can settle for a guy beneath their looks level bc they think he'd be grateful and never cheat on them etc.
     
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    Well, when i shaved my head when i was 19 or 18. Because of baldness ( i wasnt on meds yet or minoxidil only i dont remember at all) I considered myself as shit and subhuman. On holidays i went to see sea with full package of my friends (about 9-10 people and all the same age +/- 1 year) They were sometimes joking around me how i can be bald at this age and bla bla bla, ofcourse it wasnt nice but somehow if you finally shave your head you are partially accepting it even when you are 18 lol, atleast in my case. Moving on, there was a party on beach on saturday evening and everyone wanted to go except me (ofcourse everyone knew why) but somehow they managed to grab me there and guess what happend. 300+ people, a lot of good looking girls and handsome NW0 boys and men, but there was a one girl... everyone was focusing eyes mostly on her, even my friends were talking and making bets who gonna take her for dance & to meet. Probably if i could have hair back then i would try to impress her also or whatever how to call it but LOL! i just forgot about it as fast my hair were gone from my head so yeah... i wasn't even trying to get some girl for dance or anything like this so i bought beer and just let myself go into dance floor just for moving my body with head together in rhytm of music ( Dj was good ) And guess everyone what happend, after 1 or 2 hours being there, after watching how many +8/10 looking guys were trying on her, she just started looking at me... I just made a little wink with smile to her and boom... 3 minutes... She was closer, closer and yeah... came to meet me and dance with me... You will never believe how my friends were shocked, i will not mention "alpha" boys looking at me like they wanted to kill me... Ok so we spent dancing and talking half of the night, then we finished on abandoned little boat near beach. She was horny as fuck but we didnt had condoms, so i made her to orgasm orally and then she were blowing me till i bursted full of my load in her mouth ^^ I dont know why i am writing it tho but maybe it will help someone understand something that i understood this night. I am 23 now but i will never forget this night, it changed a lot of things in my head. And yeah, i still considering myself as ugly when bald, i will not give myself anything higher than 4/10 rate. On photos i may look good bald but trust me, they are only photos.

    PS. FORGOT TO MENTION

    SHE WAS 9/10 in every WAY. White straight teeth, 175cm, green eyes, dark brown thick curly hair ( you would drown in them ) tits about D75-80 size, and such an beautiful juicy ass. OOMMGG
     
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  12. Feelsbadman

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    Fuck man that's solid.
     
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    Thanks bro

    I keep checking her social media. I can't move on. God she posted a story and in it she was laughing. I'd kill to hear her musical laughter again.
    I sound like such a huge fucking pathetic beta but its' true

    Seriously tempted to jump on melanotan 2 + up my finasteride and go on a holiday somewhere and be jacked and tanned
     
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    Hangin'on Hair Established Member My Regimen

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    NO WOMAN IS WORTH ANY MANS SANITY!
    Please, don't lose your shit over something as petty as a failed relationship.
    And do yourself a huge favour and delete all of your social media shit.
    You don't need it. Things like instagram are for 13 year old girls. Grown men don't really need be on that shit. Massive waste of time.
     
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    thanks bro
    but she has taken my sanity.
    In the last 4 yeras of my life. No one wants to hang out with me, no firends, no love, no care nothing. Just me and prostitutes.
    I finally met a girl and actually felt like a human being and part of something
    i had fun, i had a purpose i had a life i had something to feel happy about.
    now she is gone
     
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    You seem devoid of serious introspection. She probably sensed your lack of depth.
     
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    Feelsbadman Established Member

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    should i end it?
     
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    Feelsbadman Established Member

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    Guys i checked her instagram again and the guy she is with is a legit chad

    THICK NW1, Model features, tall white

    God i'm gonna end it. This has destoryed me. Absolutely destroyed me.
     
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    You may want to avoid social media in general....
     
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    If you burn your hand in the fire, do you keep on putting it back in? STOP watching her Instagram or even better, get off it completely.
     

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