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Hi ladies,
I have found myself in a bit of a predicament and could use some honest opinions from women on the forum.
I'm going to give a little background to offer some perspective.
I'm 30 years old. In my mid-20's my parents passed away and I became depressed. My wife and I drifted apart and she had an affair. I asked for a divorce and started a new life in another state close to family. Due to the trauma my hair began to fall out rapidly and my brother-in-law told me he had had a transplant recently, suggesting I look into it, which I did. I went ahead with it in attempt to add volume where I had lost hair all over the top. Yes I was insecure and not thinking straight.
Since ending my marriage, I started my own business and progressed as a solo musician to where I book regular gigs on the weekends now. I still hold a good full-time job. I've found things in life that bring me happiness and confidence and I value many things about myself and my future partner above physical appearance....
But here's the predicament:
Initially the surgery went fine and my hair looked good and natural. I didn't think much of it and moved on with life. I had made it clear I would be shaving my head if/when my hair thinned out again and asked the clinic if there would be any scarring. Of course they said not at all... And I was naive enough to believe them.
A few months ago, as my hair started thinning out again, I had a close look at my scalp and realized there is major scarring. I have small bumps (2000) everywhere a hair was grafted. The skin is very irritated and I have some other small deformities with my scalp now. Needless to say it would look quite obvious if I shaved. I already got my money back from the clinic...but I'm at a point where I'll need to either shave soon or look into another option.
So I have been looking into hair systems.
I've found that if cut properly, they really are undetectable and look/feel like your own hair. Here's the stylist I'm having a consultation with in a week, and an example of a young guy getting a system cut-in:
I've had a hard time wrapping my mind around the idea of doing this... But I don't feel like shaving is a great option anymore. And if I was to transition to a hair system I'd want to do it while I still have hair so the whole world doesn't know I'm wearing one.
My question for you all is how would you feel about a man wearing hair? Would you be understanding and be able to look past it if you liked the guy?
I've dated a girl on and off for the past couple of years. I haven't seen her in several months and am worried how she will react to me possibly going this route. I don't know whether to ask for her opinion beforehand or just do what I feel is best for me and if I go for it then let her decide how she feels afterwards. I've already told her about the transplant and scarring.
This isn't a topic I talk about much with anyone and it's a bit overwhelming at the moment so I really appreciate any feedback.
Chris
I have found myself in a bit of a predicament and could use some honest opinions from women on the forum.
I'm going to give a little background to offer some perspective.
I'm 30 years old. In my mid-20's my parents passed away and I became depressed. My wife and I drifted apart and she had an affair. I asked for a divorce and started a new life in another state close to family. Due to the trauma my hair began to fall out rapidly and my brother-in-law told me he had had a transplant recently, suggesting I look into it, which I did. I went ahead with it in attempt to add volume where I had lost hair all over the top. Yes I was insecure and not thinking straight.
Since ending my marriage, I started my own business and progressed as a solo musician to where I book regular gigs on the weekends now. I still hold a good full-time job. I've found things in life that bring me happiness and confidence and I value many things about myself and my future partner above physical appearance....
But here's the predicament:
Initially the surgery went fine and my hair looked good and natural. I didn't think much of it and moved on with life. I had made it clear I would be shaving my head if/when my hair thinned out again and asked the clinic if there would be any scarring. Of course they said not at all... And I was naive enough to believe them.
A few months ago, as my hair started thinning out again, I had a close look at my scalp and realized there is major scarring. I have small bumps (2000) everywhere a hair was grafted. The skin is very irritated and I have some other small deformities with my scalp now. Needless to say it would look quite obvious if I shaved. I already got my money back from the clinic...but I'm at a point where I'll need to either shave soon or look into another option.
So I have been looking into hair systems.
I've found that if cut properly, they really are undetectable and look/feel like your own hair. Here's the stylist I'm having a consultation with in a week, and an example of a young guy getting a system cut-in:
I've had a hard time wrapping my mind around the idea of doing this... But I don't feel like shaving is a great option anymore. And if I was to transition to a hair system I'd want to do it while I still have hair so the whole world doesn't know I'm wearing one.
My question for you all is how would you feel about a man wearing hair? Would you be understanding and be able to look past it if you liked the guy?
I've dated a girl on and off for the past couple of years. I haven't seen her in several months and am worried how she will react to me possibly going this route. I don't know whether to ask for her opinion beforehand or just do what I feel is best for me and if I go for it then let her decide how she feels afterwards. I've already told her about the transplant and scarring.
This isn't a topic I talk about much with anyone and it's a bit overwhelming at the moment so I really appreciate any feedback.
Chris
