Just grow some balls and all you male pattern baldness are solved

[stijnvr]

I'm not saying just shave your head.

I'm just saying that you have to be confident about everything. and if you're not, fake it.

I'm diffuse thinning right now and probably will be NW6 when I'm 25 (20y old now) Yet I have a smoking hot gf, who is kind, smart, and loves me to death.

She gives a flying f*** about my hairloss (even though she loves to see my hair long and hates it when i buzz it)

But the reason she doesn't care people, is because I'm not bitching or whining about it to her ever. Certainly when it first started I was worried and I talked about it to her, even went to the dermatologist with her.

But soon after that i manned up and didn't talk to her about it anymore, she brings it up sometimes, we talk about it but I never let show that I care.

I do worry about my hair however, it keeps me occupied hours on end every day.. but I never portray that to her, because she wants en NEEDS me to be confident, as I am the alpha male to her.

The thing is that when you express your worry about your hair to someone you act like a wounded prey, and people (friends, family..) will notice and call you out on it, mock you laugh at you etc.. The point is however, if you never start to b**ch about it, they don't give a damn, and if the laugh at you, shrug it off en tell them to f*** off, and let that be the end of it.

Above all, I'm never going bald, because when my male pattern baldness proceeds ill just shave everything off and don a full cap wig. When that time comes I'll just say to my girl, "woman, i've had it with my hair, i'm shaving it all off and putting on a wig of my head" if she has objections about it, I'll just say i don't give a flying f*** cus i'm doing it solely for me.

And I know my gf will not care or think weird of me if I don a wig, simply because of my CONFIDENT ATTITUDE.

I know a PUA, who has only ONE ARM, but gets a shitload of girls, because he portrays to those girls he doesn't give a damn about his handicap, and that fact is just attractive to girls. Same applies to balding and wigs, it's all in the attitude folks. They will find it attractive that you don't care. And if you do care, like I do, fake it.

Finally I will give you the example of thomas calabro who said he has a wig on a talkshow. Girls find that sh*t attractive, they don't care about the wig at that moment, they care about the way he says it, the balls that he has to actually say that.

CONCLUSION: Balding and hairpieces are only a stigma and problem if you let it be one.

 

[bigentries]

I'm accused of being over-positive, but even I say that is a lot of BS

I never understood that thing about faking confidence. You are either confident or not. And is usually easy to tell someone is faking it, you get confident by screwing things until you get perfect at them. You are just waiting for a huge embarrassment if you try to fake you are good at something you are not

Sorry dude, but if a girl that just barely knows you finds out you have a freaking wig in your head, she will just laugh at you

And you aren't even the best example of a successful baldie. We've had slick bald headed dudes around here who where also mostly positive and they did admit it was a handicap that can't be easily overcome with confidende

 

[stijnvr]

I can assure you that it is possible to fake confidence, it is important however that you are at ease, if you're not you will not be able to pull it off.

And well, there is a greater stigma surrounding toupee's true, I would never wanted to be caught with one of those. But a full cap with clean shaven head underneath is something else, wouldn't have a problem with that, i'm not there yet however, but will eventually.

Ofcourse if you're pale, skinny, short and bald it's very hard, I know that. But if you really are depressed with balding, and unable to live your life to the fullest, than donning a FULL CAP is the way to go. nobody will notice.

I won't deny its different when you don't have a gf yet, but if you tell her confidently and at ease that you shaved your head and wear a full wig because you didn't like the bald look, she won't care. Trust me

 

[s.a.f]

Yeah I'd wait until you're married first! :laugh:

 

[uncomfortable man]

To be fair, at least you can admit that it does effect you on a personal level. If you were to assert that loosing your hair with the knowledge that you will be full-well bald didn't bother you at all then I would suspect denial. However, I wouldn't make assumptions about how your current GF (or women in general) would react to your plan. Just ask yourself which of the following statements rings more true:

Nothing screams confidence like a hairpiece.

Nothing screams denial like a hairpiece.

 

[stijnvr]

You're right that a hairpiece doesn't scream confidence, but heading from a NW1 to a NW6 in max 5 years time (that's what its gonna look like) and considering not a single other person in my family had a NW6 before their 40's. On top of that I have about 10 birthmarks on the top of my head and after my higer education i'm going to be employed in the financial sector and gonna be working with a lot of clients, doesn't seem to me that a man in his early twenties who's bald is gonna project a lot of trust, cus i'll be looking like a crook without hair, so those would be the main reasons, not so much my vanity

Besides, I don't fake my confidence guys, the only thing I fake is that I pretend I do not care about my hairloss when my girl is around. But even with the hairloss I'm still a pretty confident guy

 

[powersam]

The contents of this thread do not match the bravado of the title.

 

[captain_que]

The contents of this thread do not match the bravado of the title.

This made me laugh oh so hard..! Too true..

 

[stijnvr]

True, didn't say it applied to me however.

But if you don't care (whatever route you take wig or shaven) others wont either

 

[Ori83]

You've got a lot to learn my friend. By "wig" I assume you mean a hairpiece, or a "hair system." Got news for you: THEY DON'T FOOL ANYONE!

fooled me... :dunno:

 

[cantholdmedown]

I'm not saying just shave your head.

I'm just saying that you have to be confident about everything. and if you're not, fake it.

I'm diffuse thinning right now and probably will be NW6 when I'm 25 (20y old now) Yet I have a smoking hot gf, who is kind, smart, and loves me to death.

She gives a flying f*ck about my hairloss (even though she loves to see my hair long and hates it when i buzz it)

But the reason she doesn't care people, is because I'm not bitching or whining about it to her ever. Certainly when it first started I was worried and I talked about it to her, even went to the dermatologist with her.

But soon after that i manned up and didn't talk to her about it anymore, she brings it up sometimes, we talk about it but I never let show that I care.

I do worry about my hair however, it keeps me occupied hours on end every day.. but I never portray that to her, because she wants en NEEDS me to be confident, as I am the alpha male to her.

The thing is that when you express your worry about your hair to someone you act like a wounded prey, and people (friends, family..) will notice and call you out on it, mock you laugh at you etc.. The point is however, if you never start to b**ch about it, they don't give a damn, and if the laugh at you, shrug it off en tell them to f*ck off, and let that be the end of it.

Above all, I'm never going bald, because when my male pattern baldness proceeds ill just shave everything off and don a full cap wig. When that time comes I'll just say to my girl, "woman, i've had it with my hair, i'm shaving it all off and putting on a wig of my head" if she has objections about it, I'll just say i don't give a flying f*ck cus i'm doing it solely for me.

And I know my gf will not care or think weird of me if I don a wig, simply because of my CONFIDENT ATTITUDE.

I know a PUA, who has only ONE ARM, but gets a shitload of girls, because he portrays to those girls he doesn't give a damn about his handicap, and that fact is just attractive to girls. Same applies to balding and wigs, it's all in the attitude folks. They will find it attractive that you don't care. And if you do care, like I do, fake it.

Finally I will give you the example of thomas calabro who said he has a wig on a talkshow. Girls find that sh*t attractive, they don't care about the wig at that moment, they care about the way he says it, the balls that he has to actually say that.

CONCLUSION: Balding and hairpieces are only a stigma and problem if you let it be one.

LMAO just LMAO

You just ruined your whole argument by saying you'd get a wig.

 

[waldo]

stijnvr

this guy got the right idea about womens perception of our hair-loss issue.

great post!

 

[Primo]

True, the post is a bit muddled where he basically says express your confidence by wearing a wig?

But still, definitely right about women's perception of hairloss.

Never mention it to them, however much it hurts because women want a man who can take care of them, who is 100% secure in himself, not a weasel who whines and moans and needs to be mothered.

Without even mentioning your hairloss, if you appear in any way to be self-conscious or affected by it in public, this will be a major turn off to women, harsh as that may sound.

That's why which ever route you take, whether it be meds, wigs, hair transplants, slick, or Jack Nicholson style, you just have to rock it like you really don't give a sh*t... in public at least... That way women and everybody around you for that matter, will respond positively to your evident confidence and charisma.

Hey it's obviously not easy to achieve this over-night, but if you adopt the right mindset and persevere with it over time, it can be done.

 

[kejan]

Primo's right.
I don't know how confident you actually are though. When you say your girlfriend doesn't care about hair loss yet she wants you to have longer hair? And that you'll get a wig and move on with your life. I think it's good that you are up for being positive and not getting sucked into the hairloss depression, but even with a wig - there are bound to be some problems with bonding, gels, colouring, hair arriving on time from supplier etc, but overall, good for you. I spent 2-3 years wasting my life worried over wind, or if I had a bad hair day and wanted to wear a hat and knew I would be asked to take that hat off to get in a certain place, I'd not go. As much as it's crap losing hair, don't let it take over - do whatever you feel is best, if that's a wig, concealers, a shaved head - find a style you like. Experiment too, it's exactly what I'm doing - I've had a mohawk, fauxhawk, shaved head, high and tight, and now growing it in a bit all in the past 6 months.

Whatever style you go with, roll up and go with it! Even if you pass a mirror and think ''Shiiiiit! Where's my hair? It looks awful tonight'' shake it off.
If someone a girl or a guy takes the piss out of you for having rubbish hair. Take it on the chin or think of something witty to fire back at. If it's an over the top mean type comment, e.g ''You look old'' or something. Suck it up! As much as it may annoy you. If it's a group of people especially women - they'll know who the good guy is straight away. One who makes cheap jokes at others expense,or the other guy who lets it roll off his back and is happy with his apperance.

An example. 2 friends of mine. One is NW1, looks like Bradley Cooper - often gets from girls we don't know ''Ohh! Who's he ? '' from photographs or if they see him. Yet he has no confidence at al. He walks into a pub/bar looking down at his feet and if a girl talks to him he gets extremly nervous and never gets a date. He is a handsome guy, keeps in good shape but just has no social skills.

Friend 2, has a NW4 keeps it short but it's diffuse, it's similar to Arjen Robben's almost. He's been told amongst many things he looks like 'Skeltor', 'Bonesy', and on his football team he's known as 'handsome from the neck down'. He is by no means ugly, but he is not that attractive either. He has women all over him when we go out. If friend 1 and 2 both walk into a place, maybe friend 1 will get the first looks, but friend 2 would be the one with the phone number and the last looks from her.
He sucks up the jokes, he just doesn't care and he's outgoing.

Not saying you have to be outgoing, but if you show confidence and pride in yourself.

 

[HairPieceMan]

the philosophical debate over hair systems and being "secure" in yourself has been debated for quite a while.

if you lost your hair by being in a fire when 24, would it be ok to wear a system, how is this different to genetically losing it? what if you had a unsightly birthmark on your head, is it ok then becuase you don't have the same clean head as other bald people?

at the end of the day you need to be either slybaldguy, or a system guy, i think if you wear a system you are secure in the fact that you don't look good bald, you are perfectly aware of that and have found a solution that works, it's way better than living in denial, we have seen people like brad pitt being destroyed by male pattern baldness, so at the end of the day if you look BAD bald just get a system and move on with your life, especially if your in your 20s, you dont want to look back at your life in your 40s and regret that you were "afraid" of wearing a hair system, that is sad...real sad, nothing worse than living a sad life bald, i see soo many bad looking bald people in the street and i just think it's sad to see when they can have hair.

on the hair system forums, pretty much every women that a guy has said he wears a system to has been 100% supportive and uncaring of the fact that the guy wears a system for M.P.B, i have asked some girls as well and they say they wouldn't care....in fact if anything if i was a girl i'd wonder why other guys aren't wearing a system, as at first it appears to be a very good cure!

at the end of the day being slybald is still a style,you can choose to stop wearing and be bald as a style, a few people are actually like that.

it's the horshoe people you neeed to look out for, those people are nut jobs waiting to crack at any moment!

 

[uncomfortable man]

the philosophical debate over hair systems and being "secure" in yourself has been debated for quite a while.

if you lost your hair by being in a fire when 24, would it be ok to wear a system, how is this different to genetically losing it? what if you had a unsightly birthmark on your head, is it ok then becuase you don't have the same clean head as other bald people?

at the end of the day you need to be either slybaldguy, or a system guy, i think if you wear a system you are secure in the fact that you don't look good bald, you are perfectly aware of that and have found a solution that works, it's way better than living in denial, we have seen people like brad pitt being destroyed by male pattern baldness, so at the end of the day if you look BAD bald just get a system and move on with your life, especially if your in your 20s, you dont want to look back at your life in your 40s and regret that you were "afraid" of wearing a hair system, that is sad...real sad, nothing worse than living a sad life bald, i see soo many bad looking bald people in the street and i just think it's sad to see when they can have hair.

on the hair system forums, pretty much every women that a guy has said he wears a system to has been 100% supportive and uncaring of the fact that the guy wears a system for M.P.B, i have asked some girls as well and they say they wouldn't care....in fact if anything if i was a girl i'd wonder why other guys aren't wearing a system, as at first it appears to be a very good cure!

at the end of the day being slybald is still a style,you can choose to stop wearing and be bald as a style, a few people are actually like that.

it's the horshoe people you neeed to look out for, those people are nut jobs waiting to crack at any moment!

WTF? I can't even dignify ^ this with a well thought out reply other than WTF?

 

[HairPieceMan]

that's terrible man, i feel for you, since we are both as bald as each other in early 20s.

i know your scar situation, the only thing i can think of besides the 10K scar correction surgery is that stupid tatoo thing, i know that coveres scars really well, if you can still grow whispey hair on top you can buzz it to a #1 and when someone feels your head they will feel the stubble.

but yeah i know it's been discussed before and it's not great but that is the only thing i can think of to get rid of scars,and it also has the benefit of having a youth front line as if your 20 again.

oh wait how about a bald cap, like the movie stars wear, im sure that's perfect, try searching youtube for bald caps, i once saw a comedy internet clip and the guys were bald, and they had a tutorial on how to be bald using the bald caps, yeah check that out!


and yeah on the piece i can tell it's a top piece...best going for full cap, top piece is good for high density hair, this one doesn't blend so well.

if your unsure you can go for the long hair look like johnny depp or kurk hammet, in this case you don't need to worry so much about the sides or the hairline, or even dave grohl type look where you can't see scalp appearance.

at the end of the day it's just hair, human hair, the actual hair itself looks like hair, the only challenge is the style you have & the scalp apperance, if your unsure then do dave grohl type look, so you dont have scalp appearance and dont have to worry about the bits in front of the ears.


your best checking out hair direct, all the ones there look great, can see videos to!

tbh a good hair system is way better than a body hair transplant, those guys are nuts the hair looks totally stupid and never mind the price!

 

[CaptainForehead]

Today I saw a picture of a guy I hadnt seen in 7 years. Last time I saw him, he was in early 20s. Very nice guy, brilliant, boyish charm and good looks.

In the pic now, he is bald!!! NW5.5 bald. Boyish good looks gone! And he is still in his 20s. My first reaction in my head was "dude, what happened to you". I guess this is how other people feel when they encounter baldies.

I am feeling a bit bad for him (even though with his intellect, he is doing very well professionally, and will continue to do very well). But he is such a nice, non-arrogant guy, that I wanted him to have everything.

 

[s.a.f]

at the end of the day it's just hair, human hair, the actual hair itself looks like hair, the only challenge is the style you have & the scalp apperance,

Just out of interest how did you make the transition from being bald to being a NW1. How did you face freinds, work colleagues ect?

 

[HairPieceMan]

meh, id rather not discuss the transition.

i - personally - was open about it, people just accepted it, as long as you act like it's normal then it will be normal.

it's discussed quite a lot whether to be open about it or not.

however there were like 2 or 3 other bald guys at my work, i think they were about 35, both looked like sh*t bald, like as i did, in fact one of them looked worse bald than I did, and he worked like right beside me.

we both looked like absolute tits, 2 bald guys working beside one another, he was 10 years older though but had wieght issues and other things, its likely hes been like that for 5 years at least.

people did ask things like how old i was, and just general things like "how did you get your hair back", "you look a lot better with hair" (which is actually quite offfensive and they just basically slagged off every bald person on the planet, and also how i used to look for 2 years solid).

hell, maybe they all think "wow, he found a cure for baldness, maybe every bald/balding man should fix himself since they all look like sh*t" or maybe they thought "what a twat, he should just accept himself for who he is, lets laugh behind his back for all of eternity".

anyway at that workplace i had hair, then i started thinning and shaved bald, so that was a big transition as people were asking me why i shaved my head when i had hair, buti knew i was balding and hated any form of balding and so was bald, so basically it was like going through another thing again.

either way i don't really care. i don't work there no more.

oh dudemon, i have another sugestion for you, why dont you get a transplant for the front line, and make the rest of the hair a hair system?

that way people will only see real hair in your front line and the rest being the hair system, would be perfect since your tall.

i think that would be best, give it some thought!