I know my brother is thinning, How do i tell him?

Roopp

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i'm a 23 year old guy, having male pattern baldness myself trying treatments

propecia already on 1 year 2 months, i didnt think it did much, but i cant say it did not do much, since i had massive losses previoulsy.

minoxi i used since mid jan, once per day, stopped in may, had terrible itch, in fact i dont even know why i could last for 5 months, its crazy, i think it did more damage in terms of dandruff and itchiness, no improvement, i attribute to that and maybe cause i applied once per day application

order minoxi without proplyene glycol from dr lee since 4th june, into start of my 4th week now, pretty obvious decreased density this week (cause when i stop minoxi with ppg during end of may was only around 10, now the shed is near 30. i dont think the '100 loss per day is normal' theory applies to everyone) and most importantly, the lowered density at the centre vertex of the head recently is quite obvious

so the above is really just saying im still trying out the best treatment for myself, and hanging on, that's an essential barrier to tell my brother he's thinning. some issues its not easy because :

1) i have been on so much treatments yet and im still trying to get a good one. spent $5k over the past 3 years. Everyone at home knows im trying alot of things,in that sense, it's hard to convince him of the treatment im using, propecia and minoxidil if i decide to tell him. How do i tell him when im not there yet?

2) he knows im having this treatment, and he kind of encourages me in some way by being sensitive in this area. I noticed he combs his hair, (which would prompt me some concern over the top area) but it seems to me that he doesnt feel there is any issue. perhaprs he combs the way he combs his hair. he is in the early stages. but it is easy to see the hair weight down at the centre portion of the hair

3) There was once we went to see our biological grandfather once some year ago in another country, and he has a horseshoe shaped, (fyi my dad's thinned(not totally)) my brother has some knowledge of genetic things but there was once i asked if he remembered the hair of biological grandfather, he forgotten about it, so i doubt he'll remember any genetic reasons to caution himself

4) when he has issues, it can affect him much, he has some issues of late for his work and his house renovations, duties and marriage coming at the end of the year, there's alot of planning involved and it gets rough on him, i had thought of telling him at a later date:

5) i just want to prove the treatment works

6) and I'd hate to be the one to burst his bubble

hope to read your advice thanks
 

dresden

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Just tell him without making a big deal out of it. Be casual and dont push him into anything. Maybe you could give him the address to these forums were he can see the success stories and learn about treatments, as he might worry about his hair and be embarassed to talk about it with someone. After that, its up to him.
 

s.a.f

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If he's losing his hair then he'll have noticed it himself and if he knows you're on treatments he'd have asked your advice if he wanted it. :roll:
Newsflash: some people accept hairloss and it does'nt worry them. :shakehead:
 

Avery

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If he's losing his hair then he'll have noticed it himself and if he knows you're on treatments he'd have asked your advice if he wanted it.

I disagree. I notice other guys' hair loss when they're in the very early stages of it, before they would even suspect it. I have looked back to pictures of myself from 2-3 years ago and can spot the beginnings of it, but when I was that age I assumed I'd have a full head of hair until my 50s like my father. So it's very possible he hasn't noticed and there's nothing wrong with a polite heads up to your brother. Mention it and change the subject; don't harp on it, he'll get the message and do something if he chooses to.
 

Norsk

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I'd estimate my hair loss to be the equivalent of about NW3.5 (hairline 2.5 or so, the rest diffuse) when I finally realized what was going on. I admit I would have found it out much quicker if I had really cared a lot about having pretty hair, but that doesn't mean I feel like accepting my NW6-7 fate.
 

ITNEVERRAINS

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I agree s.a.f. I've got friends who know what I;ve done and they think I'm retarded. It is not an issue for every man, I know thats hard to accept because if you are here, its obviously an issue and you can't understand how it wouldn't be, but it isn't. It genuinely has no affect on some people whatsoever.
 

ali777

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He is probably aware that he is thinning but it's not an issue for him (yet).

I've known I was receding for sometime, but it never bothered me. I had other external triggers in my life that made me feel a bit insecure. I'm much better now, if I have a choice I would like to have full on hair, but I have accepted the situation I am in.

Since I started paying more attention to my hair I noticed that my brother who is 7-8 years older than me has receded as well, but not as much as me. I told him that I am unhappy with my hair, he didn't care. He made a joke about it, and changed the subject.

I had a similar conversation with couple of my close friends, one of them has the Zidane like hair. He's not shaved yet, but I bet in a year or two he will have nothing left on the top. The other guy has deep temples, but he doesn't care neither.
 

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You can say something like "you should really wear a hat outside - the top of your head is really sunburnt."
 

malibujoe

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s.a.f said:
If he's losing his hair then he'll have noticed it himself and if he knows you're on treatments he'd have asked your advice if he wanted it. :roll:
Newsflash: some people accept hairloss and it does'nt worry them. :shakehead:

X2. did u need someone to tell you to join this forum?
 

Hans Gruber

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ITNEVERRAINS said:
I agree s.a.f. I've got friends who know what I;ve done and they think I'm retarded. It is not an issue for every man, I know thats hard to accept because if you are here, its obviously an issue and you can't understand how it wouldn't be, but it isn't. It genuinely has no affect on some people whatsoever.


i agree,it affects some people in different ways,my close friends know it irks me and so they are pretty cool about it in that they dont constantly take the piss.It does bother me to a degree and i guess maybe more than i admit to myself cos im really quite intent on getting a hair transplant,still watch one news broadcast and it puts it all into perspective.

oh yea as for OP

just tell ya brother about the big three and let him make his own mind up
 
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