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I think the #1 thing I wanted in life was good hair. And I never had it. I always had longer hairstyles but my hair was very fine, and after washing it if I didnt style it would look like a birds nest on my head. Had good facial features that I've always been complemented on but a very high forehead which was part of the reason I wore my hair long. Pretty much not long after I hit puberty my hair began to thin out in a diffuse pattern. By 16 it became very noticeable that my hair was really thin and even though I had it long and had pretty bad anxiety since I was young I would easily pull girls with my looks, became outgoing and had fun in life. Looking back I wish I had made more out of it because I was always self conscious and shy and missed a lot of opportunities. I was in denial about hair loss for a while, thinking I got blessed with my mothers nice hair, and then when it thinned out a bit I figured it would stop because my dad (who is the only person in my family besides his mom who had hair loss) had thin hair when he was young but maintained it for a good 20-30 years and even 40 years later still isn't bald but just very diffuse all over. By the time I graduated and finished my first year in university I was constantly wearing hats, and managed to look good even though my long hair underneath was really thinned out. I always knew how bad it looked underneath though so I cut it short when I was 19 or so and sported shorter hairstyles or just buzzed it off. When I styled my hair into a faux hawk with lots of hairspray it concealed the extent of my hair thinning but I never liked how I looked bald/with short hair. Didnt go with my self image and my temples had recessed a bit too (never had a pefectly straight hairline to begin with..) so I became less outgoing, lost the confidence I gained in my last years at highschool, avoided people/situations etc. Began smoking lots of pot daily and sitting at home being on the computer, didnt bother going out trying to get girls, stopped caring/going to university and dropped out in my second year. I did brief stints with finasteride and I'm currently taking it now (EOD to reduce sides) but realistically I will never expect to get the hair I want from it.
I always struggled with depression because of my anxiety and other reasons since I was 12 or so but it's gotten worse and worse as I grew older. I worked for a year and made enough money to pay for my way back into university with enough left over, and was doing alright because I was avoiding my problems being constantly high, felt more financially secure and didnt give a damn about feeling self conscious at work. I knew it wouldn't last tho and now that I'm back in school I'm basically at a crisis point. Just turned 21 this summer, have diffused thin hair in a nw5 pattern and feeling like **** being back in school seeing 95% of people with better hair than me, and people who are ahead of me in life because I havent made any progress in the last 2 years in my education. In the last several months my hair definately took a hit and scared me back on meds, my scalp is pretty visible through my thin fine hair. I really thought during a stage in my life, when I was 16-17, that despite all my problems as a teenager that things were looking up and I was gonna turn out fine, but this hairloss has pretty much completely ruined my life. The only option I have left is to get a hair system and hold out til I get it by concealers/hats or just **** it and kill myself like I probably should've years ago. Im not completely secure with the idea of wearing hair that's not mine (even if my own is crap) and think the maintenance will be an absolute pain in the *** but I don't want to be sporting a buzzcut/thinning look for the rest of my life.
All you people who have slightly receding hairlines/maintain their hair until at least their 30s don't know how lucky you've had it. This hairloss has impacted me on every area in my life and I do not want to stick around through my 20s just holding on and not looking the way I want and not being able to have the life I wanted. I don't think I deserved this at all i've tried to be a great person to people and have wonderful friends and a loving family but they cant understand the suffering I'm going through and knowing it will only get worse and I'm finding it hard to maintain even an outward persona of positivity now. I know lots of people have worse problems but this feels like the worst thing that can happen to a shy insecure young teenager, like I've been afflicted by a terminal illness or something. Seriously considering if I can handle wearing hair for the rest of my life or should just start writing a note explaining to people why I won't be able to make it to my 22nd birthday
Sorry for the depressing rant I'm not looking for any sympathy or anything just really needed to get this off my chest. To all the people who lost their hair early and rock the shaved look I respect that since I would never envision living the rest of my life this way especially this young. Peace.
I always struggled with depression because of my anxiety and other reasons since I was 12 or so but it's gotten worse and worse as I grew older. I worked for a year and made enough money to pay for my way back into university with enough left over, and was doing alright because I was avoiding my problems being constantly high, felt more financially secure and didnt give a damn about feeling self conscious at work. I knew it wouldn't last tho and now that I'm back in school I'm basically at a crisis point. Just turned 21 this summer, have diffused thin hair in a nw5 pattern and feeling like **** being back in school seeing 95% of people with better hair than me, and people who are ahead of me in life because I havent made any progress in the last 2 years in my education. In the last several months my hair definately took a hit and scared me back on meds, my scalp is pretty visible through my thin fine hair. I really thought during a stage in my life, when I was 16-17, that despite all my problems as a teenager that things were looking up and I was gonna turn out fine, but this hairloss has pretty much completely ruined my life. The only option I have left is to get a hair system and hold out til I get it by concealers/hats or just **** it and kill myself like I probably should've years ago. Im not completely secure with the idea of wearing hair that's not mine (even if my own is crap) and think the maintenance will be an absolute pain in the *** but I don't want to be sporting a buzzcut/thinning look for the rest of my life.
All you people who have slightly receding hairlines/maintain their hair until at least their 30s don't know how lucky you've had it. This hairloss has impacted me on every area in my life and I do not want to stick around through my 20s just holding on and not looking the way I want and not being able to have the life I wanted. I don't think I deserved this at all i've tried to be a great person to people and have wonderful friends and a loving family but they cant understand the suffering I'm going through and knowing it will only get worse and I'm finding it hard to maintain even an outward persona of positivity now. I know lots of people have worse problems but this feels like the worst thing that can happen to a shy insecure young teenager, like I've been afflicted by a terminal illness or something. Seriously considering if I can handle wearing hair for the rest of my life or should just start writing a note explaining to people why I won't be able to make it to my 22nd birthday
Sorry for the depressing rant I'm not looking for any sympathy or anything just really needed to get this off my chest. To all the people who lost their hair early and rock the shaved look I respect that since I would never envision living the rest of my life this way especially this young. Peace.