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Hi all,
I'm worrying about how people will react once I have the system fitted. How did people react with you?
I'm worrying about how people will react once I have the system fitted. How did people react with you?
How Did Everyone React After You Had It Fitted?
- Thread starter Stubilaroo
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If you are open about it and tell everyone then it'll mostly be OK. The reason is that you won't have any anxiety or fear about it.
If you hide it then people will think WTF has changed in this guy and a lot of them will work out that you're wearing a system... except they will know it as that dreaded word : "wig". They mostly won't say anything. And you'll constantly be looking out for that reaction from people, like are their eyes darting up to your hair every few seconds while they are talking to you? Are they thinking wow what lovely hair or are they thinking that it looks like a doll's wig?
Some people won't even notice. Maybe if you have an awesome system and one that isn't a huge leap from your current hair, then no one will notice - that's the ideal result.
The question really should be: how will you react when you have the system fitted? If you're comfortable and if it looks/feels natural, then likelihood is that others won't even notice.
If you hide it then people will think WTF has changed in this guy and a lot of them will work out that you're wearing a system... except they will know it as that dreaded word : "wig". They mostly won't say anything. And you'll constantly be looking out for that reaction from people, like are their eyes darting up to your hair every few seconds while they are talking to you? Are they thinking wow what lovely hair or are they thinking that it looks like a doll's wig?
Some people won't even notice. Maybe if you have an awesome system and one that isn't a huge leap from your current hair, then no one will notice - that's the ideal result.
The question really should be: how will you react when you have the system fitted? If you're comfortable and if it looks/feels natural, then likelihood is that others won't even notice.
I got almost busted because of the bad first haircut and bulky hair. Still I went out to people thinking it's OK... can't believe myself now. Everyone notices, everyone ask questions, if you were balding, it's just how people remember you. I fxed my haircut and the questions kinda stopped, but I still often get "damn, you suddenly got so much hair, what the hell!" I told one of my friend that I'm taking finasteride and my hair is more full.
Anyways, the people that know me are kinda used to the "new" look now, I'm used to it too, I don't remember myself balding anymore. And yes, you take it off for maintenance every 2 weeks or so, but it's just like 2 hours and doesn't really stick in your mind.
Anyways, if you see people non stop, and you're visibly balding, I don't think you can hide it. If you see others less often, or maybe your balding isn't that severe, you get away with the switch.
Anyways, the people that know me are kinda used to the "new" look now, I'm used to it too, I don't remember myself balding anymore. And yes, you take it off for maintenance every 2 weeks or so, but it's just like 2 hours and doesn't really stick in your mind.
Anyways, if you see people non stop, and you're visibly balding, I don't think you can hide it. If you see others less often, or maybe your balding isn't that severe, you get away with the switch.
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I was not about to go from totally shaved to Viking without letting the people close to me know about it, beforehand.
It all depends on how much of a transition it is.
After I stopped wearing the first unit, due to "configuration" issues, I was without hair for about a month. I just came into work, as if nothing happened, totally bald, again. Some people said "OMG you cut your hair", some didn't say anything. Then I started wearing hair again, and... no one said anything. It doesn't mean that they didn't think anything.
My situation is not usual, many guys opt for a hair replacement long before you are a cue-ball. For me, it's more a fashion accessory than, a "prosthesis".
It also depends, I think, on how good it looks. If you are a newbie, and order a unit off Aliexpress or eBay, you are most probably going to look like sh*t. If you take the time, work with a salon, or someone you trust and get a custom unit, properly fitted (or are lucky enough to get away with a stock unit), you should be fine.
Just walk in with confidence, and have a huge smile on your face. If someone asks anything, they don't need to get a whole story.
It all depends on how much of a transition it is.
After I stopped wearing the first unit, due to "configuration" issues, I was without hair for about a month. I just came into work, as if nothing happened, totally bald, again. Some people said "OMG you cut your hair", some didn't say anything. Then I started wearing hair again, and... no one said anything. It doesn't mean that they didn't think anything.
My situation is not usual, many guys opt for a hair replacement long before you are a cue-ball. For me, it's more a fashion accessory than, a "prosthesis".
It also depends, I think, on how good it looks. If you are a newbie, and order a unit off Aliexpress or eBay, you are most probably going to look like sh*t. If you take the time, work with a salon, or someone you trust and get a custom unit, properly fitted (or are lucky enough to get away with a stock unit), you should be fine.
Just walk in with confidence, and have a huge smile on your face. If someone asks anything, they don't need to get a whole story.
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It's indeed AN option, is it the best option for you?
I am not sure of your particular hair loss pattern, and I am an N6/7 so not a good example for you.
I will give you three different, but common scenarios.
1. You have a strong hairline, and your balding is mostly at your crown, you get a crown topper, and as you lose more hair, you get larger units to cover the increasing bald spot. It is likely you will need to replace the unit faster than you will go bald, probably.
2. You have a receded hairline, but the back and sides are strong, you can do a front, partial, and same in #1.
3. If you are losing hair in both areas or experiencing VERY rapid hair loss, you will likely go for a full-sized hair replacement (not to be confused with full cap), which means your bio hair will be shaved down into an N6 or N7 pattern, where most of your hair is now hair system.
Option 3 is the option that I see lots of guys opt for, this way they can get their system redone at a standard interval, and not need to re-measure, with new template and configuration every time.
It's by far the most drastic but will give you the most consistent look. You will just have to get over the initial shock of having most of your hair shaved off.
Noah
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I used concealers up to the point where they were still providing a convincing illusion of hair, but I could see that they would soon cease to look convincing. I think that is a pretty good way. At that point provided you choose a good supplier, get a decent haircut and go easy on the density people will not notice. Most people are surprisingly unobservant. You do have to do those things though, and you only get one chance - if you appear in public with a detectable system the secret is out and there is no way back.
Once you get to the point where you become publicly known as bald, it is very hard to transition to a system with privacy.
Once you get to the point where you become publicly known as bald, it is very hard to transition to a system with privacy.
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What about an option when your whole head and sideburns are falling out? If I wear a hat is still looks like I have a lot of hair. So I'm thinking if I get a full head replacement people won't notice.
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I don't understand exactly what you mean. If you are experiencing something that sounds like telogen effluvium, where your hair is coming out from your entire head, including sideburns... did you see a doctor, since that is not usual male pattern baldness. That is sometimes treatable, depending on the cause.
If it's not, then you have two options (for hair replacement), full cap, and partial, in which you have a severe undercut where the side and back hair is almost completely shaved and faded with the system (like in my avatar pic).
I don't get the hat thing...
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I've been to two dermatologists, one did a biopsy, but they couldn't figure it out. They said it came back negative for male pattern baldness, tellogen effluvium or fungus (although I do have some male pattern baldness at the front I think). So Ive been trying for a year to get an appointment with a hair loss specialist, but it's been tough trying to get it done with my insurance. I bought a handheld microscope and did some testing of my own, and to me it looks like I have problem with way too much sebum production and dermatitis.
Anyway I think the full cap would look better. I look better with some shag/length then I do with a faded undercut. Will be more work and more expensive I'm sure though.
The hat thing I just mean I have long hair, so most people probably haven't noticed it's changed. If I come in with a full head head I'm sure people would think I just got a hair cut.
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For close friends I told them its a hair system and that it's f**king awesome and I am so glad I got it. Tell them to check it out, show it off to them like you are showing off a new car. You have to call out the elephant in the room otherwise it will continuously be on your mind. Own the fact that you want to enhance your appearance just like actors like Ben Affleck do. Own the fact that it sucks losing hair, and you got money and its 2018, so you fixed the problem rather than taking shitty drugs like Finasteride and Minoxdil. You need to have the mentality that it would be completely idiotic to NOT get a hair system. That it's a no-brainer. Women do everything to enhance their appearance (makeup, hair extensions, eyelashes, nails, shapers, push up bras, implants, etc) - why can't a man do 1 thing for his? Especially 1 thing he was born with, but started losing it, and wants it back.
(Think of the analogy of a gay individual who's in the closet vs. out of the closet. The individual in the closet may act in ways where he hides it, and people may know and whisper behind his back. The closeted person is always worried about being "busted", "caught", so he lives life with worry and fear. Now compare that to the flamboyant gay guy: Assertive / self-accepting / confident / not giving a f**k what people think. You want to be the flamboyant guy with regards to wearing a hair system. This doesn't mean you have to tell every person on the street - but if someone asks you about it, you are able to own the sh*t out of it and have no shame about getting it)
They reacted positively and told me it looks super realistic. They asked how I maintain it/style it/shower. It was more of curiosity. Tell them it's a part of you now and doesn't even feel like you're wearing one. After that talk, they didn't ask about it anymore. It's almost like people will "test" you to see if it bugs you or not. If it's not a problem for you, it's not a problem for them.
(Think of the analogy of a gay individual who's in the closet vs. out of the closet. The individual in the closet may act in ways where he hides it, and people may know and whisper behind his back. The closeted person is always worried about being "busted", "caught", so he lives life with worry and fear. Now compare that to the flamboyant gay guy: Assertive / self-accepting / confident / not giving a f**k what people think. You want to be the flamboyant guy with regards to wearing a hair system. This doesn't mean you have to tell every person on the street - but if someone asks you about it, you are able to own the sh*t out of it and have no shame about getting it)
They reacted positively and told me it looks super realistic. They asked how I maintain it/style it/shower. It was more of curiosity. Tell them it's a part of you now and doesn't even feel like you're wearing one. After that talk, they didn't ask about it anymore. It's almost like people will "test" you to see if it bugs you or not. If it's not a problem for you, it's not a problem for them.
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You know, that might be the most helpful thing I've heard on this forum. That's some great advice! Thanks for sharing it. I even feel a little less worried about it thinking about it now.
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How bald were you before?
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The reaction from others was amazing. I’m not shy about it. If they ask I’ll tell them it is a system. Now, I work with lots of engineers, conversation always comes Down to explaining how it all works.
Evasive is spot on. Just own it, and I did! I e said for years to. Y coworkers, If women can come to work with new boobs on Tuesday, I can come to work with new hair on Wednesday!
Evasive is spot on. Just own it, and I did! I e said for years to. Y coworkers, If women can come to work with new boobs on Tuesday, I can come to work with new hair on Wednesday!
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Absolutely!
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I was bald and shaving for 15 years...the people close to me knew that I was researching hair pieces. I let my natural hair grow a about one inch (sides and back grow ok) in order to do a good color match and blend. Took the leap and afterwards, all positive comments. I do not tell people unless they ask specificaly if hairpiece. Some think it is a transplant. I have been to funerals, and many just say I have beutiful grey hair and that I should have not shaved all these years.... I reply that greying was bothering me, reason why I shaved .LOL . I play it by ear but do not worry about it. I am very happy and still can't believe how good the hairpieces look when I look in the mirror. I feel like an actor in a theatrical production when I do maintenance, as the transformation is unbelievable.
I did not have to tell work colleagues as I just retired. I go to the gym and folks there can't really tell what the difference.
Medical staff (ie. Dentist, doctor, dermatologist who sells laser cap for hair groth. .) all think it's my own hair or transplant..
The key is to find the right density for your age, hair type...and a good stylist experienced with hairpiece....
I did not have to tell work colleagues as I just retired. I go to the gym and folks there can't really tell what the difference.
Medical staff (ie. Dentist, doctor, dermatologist who sells laser cap for hair groth. .) all think it's my own hair or transplant..
The key is to find the right density for your age, hair type...and a good stylist experienced with hairpiece....