Hair needs to look good routine=Loss of confidence(+tips)

recognition2 · Jan 12, 2008

Ok, let's make it easy :

When I wake up in the morning I'm kind of confident. But as soon as I start spending too much time on my "hair needs to look good" routine, I lose this confidence not because of my hair, but more because I know that I judge myself too much doing this routine. Which makes me judge myself even more when I meet other people(our other mirrors)=loss of confidence.

However, when I don't spend too much time time on this "hair needs to look good" routine, I feel more confident because I care less.
So here is my question:

Are there people here who are able to spend lots of time on their hair in the morning and still feel confident during the day?
Would you have any psychological tips about this?

(As a Buddhist, my tip is when I look in the mirror to try to think that "I am not this body, I don't own this body, but I'm the soul who inhabits this body")

RAKBS · Jan 12, 2008

I go through the same thing every morning...I spend about 15 minutes making sure my hair is perfect (perfect meaning as best as possible, given the situation). It doesn't seem like much, but it's about ten times as long as I used to have to spend on it.

My tip is to do your hair however you want to in the morning, and then once you go out, just stop thinking about it: don't touch it, don't look at it in a mirror, and try your best to not think about it. Just remember that for the most part, people will treat you exactly the same as if you had all the hair in the world: that helps me to not stress about it. If it continues to stress you out, just convince yourself that stress will make your hair fall out faster.

der29 · Jan 25, 2014

recognition2 said:
Ok, let's make it easy :

When I wake up in the morning I'm kind of confident. But as soon as I start spending too much time on my "hair needs to look good" routine, I lose this confidence not because of my hair, but more because I know that I judge myself too much doing this routine. Which makes me judge myself even more when I meet other people(our other mirrors)=loss of confidence.

However, when I don't spend too much time time on this "hair needs to look good" routine, I feel more confident because I care less.
So here is my question:

Are there people here who are able to spend lots of time on their hair in the morning and still feel confident during the day?
Would you have any psychological tips about this?

(As a Buddhist, my tip is when I look in the mirror to try to think that "I am not this body, I don't own this body, but I'm the soul who inhabits this body")