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Most guys tend to think that the magnitude of pain caused by hair loss is closely related to how old the sufferer is.
They are right.
An 80 year old man should not care about being bald.
What I disagree with is the way the pain of 30-something men is discounted.
The thirties are the years you can still look good if you look after yourself, protect your skin from damage and yes, keep your hair.
The thirties are also the years when perception of age starts to matter. You'll always look young in your early-twenties, even if you go bald. In your thirties you have to start making an effort, and you have to hope you have favourable genetics, particularly with hair and skin.
In their thirties: Looking older or younger by only a few years can make or break a man, socially and especially romantically. A 35 year old man who looks 25 is still hot, in demand, young, virile, not so is the 35 year old man who looks older than his age, say by only a few years. Looking older than 35-36 is a big barrier to pass (the start of middle age). It changes how people see you. You are no longer considered "young".Notice how I said "look", a 29 yo. bald man who spends all day in the sun who looks 40 is in the same boat.
I remember reading a Daily Mail article recently about Ryan Phillippe. The actor.They showed him exercising with his shirt off and in various poses. All the girls said he was hot. Many of the girls talked about how they would still date him, despite him being "ten years older than themselves", because "he still looked young" (he is 38 - full head of hair, nice skin, fit). That's women expect when they talk about attractive older men, those men still have to look young and hot. Unless you are really rich, which is beyond the scope of 99% of men to achieve, you'll never get away with being a bald, unfit 30-something who still wants to date cute 20-something women.
I've noticed that all the Hollywood actors who look good in their thirties have this trio: good skin, good hair, lean body. Almost without exception. The good news is body composition and skin are largely in your control. Hair not so for many of us.
I've found a new level of respect for older posters here. I've realized how quickly time passes, and that I too will be 30-something before I know it. I feel for you lot, having your youth taken away from you prematurely, the dream of being THAT hot 30-something man with his **** together gone. Knowing now you'll never be the leading man, like Richard Gere, HOT, & successful, now you can only be successful, now women will only date you for your money or status, never who you are.
Face it, we live in a youth obsessed world. There are studies showing that age discrimination begins, in the workforce, as early as 40. If you think that at 23 losing your hair is bad, you've only just begun to see the repercussions of this disease. I know many of you are against ageism but, youth = value and bald men don't look young. Society says so and there's nothing we can do to change it.
My rant for today, sorry for the semi-lengthy post, I just had to get something off my chest. I get really peeved seeing these "full-package" older men I aspire to be when I might not have the chance to emulate them, thanks to something out of my control. I don't want to resort to gold diggers. I want to be handsome AND successful. Not just successful.
They are right.
An 80 year old man should not care about being bald.
What I disagree with is the way the pain of 30-something men is discounted.
The thirties are the years you can still look good if you look after yourself, protect your skin from damage and yes, keep your hair.
The thirties are also the years when perception of age starts to matter. You'll always look young in your early-twenties, even if you go bald. In your thirties you have to start making an effort, and you have to hope you have favourable genetics, particularly with hair and skin.
In their thirties: Looking older or younger by only a few years can make or break a man, socially and especially romantically. A 35 year old man who looks 25 is still hot, in demand, young, virile, not so is the 35 year old man who looks older than his age, say by only a few years. Looking older than 35-36 is a big barrier to pass (the start of middle age). It changes how people see you. You are no longer considered "young".Notice how I said "look", a 29 yo. bald man who spends all day in the sun who looks 40 is in the same boat.
I remember reading a Daily Mail article recently about Ryan Phillippe. The actor.They showed him exercising with his shirt off and in various poses. All the girls said he was hot. Many of the girls talked about how they would still date him, despite him being "ten years older than themselves", because "he still looked young" (he is 38 - full head of hair, nice skin, fit). That's women expect when they talk about attractive older men, those men still have to look young and hot. Unless you are really rich, which is beyond the scope of 99% of men to achieve, you'll never get away with being a bald, unfit 30-something who still wants to date cute 20-something women.
I've noticed that all the Hollywood actors who look good in their thirties have this trio: good skin, good hair, lean body. Almost without exception. The good news is body composition and skin are largely in your control. Hair not so for many of us.
I've found a new level of respect for older posters here. I've realized how quickly time passes, and that I too will be 30-something before I know it. I feel for you lot, having your youth taken away from you prematurely, the dream of being THAT hot 30-something man with his **** together gone. Knowing now you'll never be the leading man, like Richard Gere, HOT, & successful, now you can only be successful, now women will only date you for your money or status, never who you are.
Face it, we live in a youth obsessed world. There are studies showing that age discrimination begins, in the workforce, as early as 40. If you think that at 23 losing your hair is bad, you've only just begun to see the repercussions of this disease. I know many of you are against ageism but, youth = value and bald men don't look young. Society says so and there's nothing we can do to change it.
My rant for today, sorry for the semi-lengthy post, I just had to get something off my chest. I get really peeved seeing these "full-package" older men I aspire to be when I might not have the chance to emulate them, thanks to something out of my control. I don't want to resort to gold diggers. I want to be handsome AND successful. Not just successful.
