Given up hope of ever keeping my hair....

[Fundi]

:sobbing:

I've been on

finasteride since Dec 2008 (Started at 0.25mg, gradually raised it to 1mg)
nizoral Dec 2008
Topical spironolactone March 2009 Once a day
5% Minoxidil February 2010 Once a day

During this time, my hair has gradually deteriorated. I think it has helped to slow the process, as shedding reduced.

But over the past week or two I've noticed thin parts which I never remembered being thin before. - The thinness of my temples is spreading and now the only point of my hairline which looks ok with about 2cm in the very centre.

I never had any sheds, and just feel like I'm not a responder to any medication.

I'll stay on the meds as I'd really like just to slow it down.

Comes at a bad time, I'm getting serious with my girlfriend. Nice girl and very good looking (always has guys after her)...who could do much better than a balding 23 year old....I love her but just want to push her away to avoid being hurt later

 

[toocoolforhair]

I think girls who dump their boyfriends for going bald are in the minority.

 

[Brains Expel Hair]

I think girls who dump their boyfriends for going bald are in the minority.

Tis true, but with the whining that Fundi displays in this post it most likely will be him consciously or subconsciously forcing her to dump him. Noticing thinning when you're single= probably not the best time. Noticing thinning when you're getting serious with a girl= ehh.

 

[rudimentary]

:sobbing:

I've been on

finasteride since Dec 2008 (Started at 0.25mg, gradually raised it to 1mg)
nizoral Dec 2008
Topical spironolactone March 2009 Once a day
5% Minoxidil February 2010 Once a day

During this time, my hair has gradually deteriorated. I think it has helped to slow the process, as shedding reduced.

But over the past week or two I've noticed thin parts which I never remembered being thin before. - The thinness of my temples is spreading and now the only point of my hairline which looks ok with about 2cm in the very centre.

I never had any sheds, and just feel like I'm not a responder to any medication.

I'll stay on the meds as I'd really like just to slow it down.

Comes at a bad time, I'm getting serious with my girlfriend. Nice girl and very good looking (always has guys after her)...who could do much better than a balding 23 year old....I love her but just want to push her away to avoid being hurt later

Hi Fundi.

I feel your pain, I'm 23 as well. But I think you are giving in to self-loathing.

If your girlfriend leaves you, it will likely not because of your thinning hair, but because of your self-loathing issues.

Women love men who fight, who don't give up and have confidence. Please stop it. Grab your balls and fight this b**ch of a problem.

You're not the first, nor last man to go bald. Go to the mall and look at the men there, 20-40% have some kind of hair loss.

1. If Finasteride, spironolactone and Minoxidil haven't helped you (Wow) then I will venture out and say there could be something wrong with you internally. Have you gotten your DHT levels tested? Prolactin? Thyroid? What are your eating habits? Have you considered it being not androgenic related?

2. Have you looked into alternatives like Cetirizine, S-Equol, Keratene, Zix, Crinagen, etc?

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Let me know.

Now, I just want to remind you, that there are people out there that have Cancer, HIV, Diabetes, Gangrene, are Blind, Deaf, Mute. What you are going through is nothing compared to that. Look at the big picture.

Yes, you'd like to have a head full of hair, and you are gonna fight for it, but you shouldn't stress about it and let it consume your life to the point of thinking that you're not good enough for your girlfriend because of your hair loss. Besides, there are women who love bald men.

If worse came to worst you could always shave your head, work out like crazy and get tons of women that way.

Please, cheer up man.

-Rudi

 

[dinosaur_sr]

Don't push your girlfriend away! It's natural that it's upsetting you, she'll appreciate you sharing your concerns with her and want to help you. If it turns you into a depressing, mopy person, who believes others are better than yourself, that's a turn off regardless of how much hair you have.

I don't know your situation, but she may already notice you're losing it, and if she hasn't said anything, she doesn't care. I have friends who have lost a lot of hair, same age as you now, who still have the same nice, good looking girlfriends they had with hair. Baldness is rarely a deal breaker for a woman, there are so many things that go into making somebody attractive. Would you dump a girl if she grew a mole or something?

 

[Hammer]

I am Fundi, but forgot my password hence using this account under the name Hammer.

By way of an update, I am still losing my hair and will be 26 next month. My hair loss is becoming apparent, though only my girlfriend has ever mentioned anything (She made an off the cuff comment once a few months ago that I was receding in a joking manner).

I added 1mg per dutasteride a week back in October 2012, and have recently swapped Prox-N for Capillogain. My hair loss continues slowly however.

I have considered that my hairloss is not androgen related. My dad's not bald and my younger brothers have great heads of hair. Even my 82 year old grandad has good hair. But I also have another balding grandad and two balding uncles. My hairloss is happening in a classic male pattern baldness manner with thinning, receding temples spreading to the centre of the hairline. If my hair loss wasn't male pattern baldness I would expect it to be occurring at random areas of my head.

I think the treatments simply haven't worked because the temples are the hardest place to maintain/re-grow hair.

I am a vegetarian, don't get as much exercise as I used to but I do not think that this is a factor, I just have male pattern baldness.I do remember my hair being better when I was going gym and taking protein shakes, but that it probably just because naturally my hair was better two years ago than it is now.

On a personal note, still with my girlfriend, we have moved into together and are expecting our first child in September 2013. I have learned that I actually look ok with very short hair (not shaved) and continue this style which keeps my hair looking tidy.

I'm getting to an age that it's feeling more 'acceptable' to be balding. I'm not 18 anymore and I now have quite a few friends balding/receding so don't feel so much of an outcast.

All in all, things are fairly good.