Living your life as a loner is the "easy way out". No conflicts, no judgements, no confrontations, no rejections, no disappointments and you can be who you want to be. Do you want to be a loner all your life? I have been a loner on and off and its a very sad life to live. However, it is a very comfortable life. My childhood scars have definitely caused me to become a loner. I was "stabbed in the back" so many times by people who I trusted with all my heart. I have trust issues and paranoia. I think alot of you people have paranoia too that people will not accept you the way you are. Hair loss is just another trait that induces paranoia. There are a few descent people in this world that will accept you the way you are. Alot of posters on here seem to be some of those descent people.
LooseItAll, making friends you can trust is not very easy. Your paranoia that no one will like you because you an aspie guy is something you have to learn to control. I don't drink, I don't like sports, I am not an outdoors type guy, and I think I could be a pretty boring person if my paranoia gets the best of me. I believe sometimes I am a loser too since I have almost no friends and who really wants to be around a person like me who doesn't like sports or do things outdoors. Its all paranoia. Most of the people my age are already married too. At least you are at the age most people your age are still single. You think your life sucks. Well I got news for you mine does too. You know why, because I let my paranoia win out. I have BDD and it tears me apart. I can control my paranoia at times but with crappy scars from childhood, it sometimes because impossible. I know I need to see a shrink. The only thing the shrink can do for me is show me how to change my perspective on how I look at thinks. However he can not erase my scars or my past. I feel for all you guys that are going thru what you are going thru but if you can snap out of your paranoia eventually before you are 40, then you have accomplished something I only wished I had be able to do. Career wise, I never let my paranoia destroy my career path. I am successful at that and make good money so I can enjoy all my electronic gadgets and afford to buy all kinds of arsenal to save my hair which is one of my biggest paranoias. Yet in reality no one on this forum would even think I have a hair loss problem abnormal for my age.
Don't waste your life living like a loner as I have. I have never had any problems attracting women but my paranoia sets in and I don't want to be bothered with a relationship that can end in heartbreak and cheating. I have a paranoia that women always will cheat on you if they find you boring. I don't think I would be able to entertain a women 24/7.
Without rambling on anymore, LooseItAll, you have no friends simply because you really find it easier not to have any. Slipy you are in the same boat. And trust me slipy, there are many people that have it way worse than you do. And those people manage to have a family and friends. We chose to be loners because its the only way we can live a nonjudgemental rejection free life. However, is being a loner really a life you want to live. I really don't want to be a loner. I know the two of you don't want that either. Welcome to the Lonely Hearts Club, my friends.