Hi, I'm new here and I joined to ask questions about Avodart. I'm a woman, age 27, and thinning for a year and a half (it's obvious now), but I'm posting mostly from my pre-loss experience.
I've read many posts by guys who struggle with the emotional impact of Androgenetic Alopecia. I can only say that for me, hair didn't play a role for me in dating or attraction. Before I started losing, I was really attractive, had my pick of dates, and never discriminated based on hair. (You'll have to take my word for this because I'm not posting a picture of me NOW.)
When I was 24, I almost married a 27 year old NW6 or NW7 (he shaved his head). We split because he was/is a career-military man and our lifestyles weren't compatible. He instigated the split, and it had nothing, NOTHING, to do with hair. In fact, he cared (minimally) about his lack of hair WAY more than I did. Call me crazy, but before my loss, I honestly hardly ever noticed guys' hair. All I knew is that lots of guys went bald and to that end I thought "so what" (if even that).
At 25, right before my Androgenetic Alopecia began, I met and fell in love with another man, came close to marriage, but he left on account of my hair loss (the fact it is Androgenetic Alopecia, genetic, progressive and permanent and not some transient problem). He was 16 years older than me and had (still has) more hair than any human should reasonably be allowed to have, and before my loss, made (what he thought were "subtle") comments that he had more hair than most 20 year old men. That habit, which was so ingrained in his psyche it actually became a subconscious reflex, actually did not place him in a good light with me. I just found it conceited and a little bit ridiculous coming from an otherwise mature-presenting man. Anyway, I ask why on earth did that happen to me, as if Androgenetic Alopecia in a woman wasn't bad enough already, when I NEVER discriminated on a man based on his hair?
Bottom line, guys' hair doesn't matter to a lot of women. Before I ever conceived of Androgenetic Alopecia in a woman, I thought hair loss in a guy was no big deal. Sure, there are some women who place too much emphasis on it and that is not your loss...those women will experience hardships later in life and then they won't care about something as superficial as guys' hair anymore. I come from a place of understanding (there is little more devastating than Androgenetic Alopecia in a young woman. It's almost like losing a breast or a limb). But what they say about confidence, carriage, and success in a man being more important than hair is absolutely true.
I've read many posts by guys who struggle with the emotional impact of Androgenetic Alopecia. I can only say that for me, hair didn't play a role for me in dating or attraction. Before I started losing, I was really attractive, had my pick of dates, and never discriminated based on hair. (You'll have to take my word for this because I'm not posting a picture of me NOW.)
When I was 24, I almost married a 27 year old NW6 or NW7 (he shaved his head). We split because he was/is a career-military man and our lifestyles weren't compatible. He instigated the split, and it had nothing, NOTHING, to do with hair. In fact, he cared (minimally) about his lack of hair WAY more than I did. Call me crazy, but before my loss, I honestly hardly ever noticed guys' hair. All I knew is that lots of guys went bald and to that end I thought "so what" (if even that).
At 25, right before my Androgenetic Alopecia began, I met and fell in love with another man, came close to marriage, but he left on account of my hair loss (the fact it is Androgenetic Alopecia, genetic, progressive and permanent and not some transient problem). He was 16 years older than me and had (still has) more hair than any human should reasonably be allowed to have, and before my loss, made (what he thought were "subtle") comments that he had more hair than most 20 year old men. That habit, which was so ingrained in his psyche it actually became a subconscious reflex, actually did not place him in a good light with me. I just found it conceited and a little bit ridiculous coming from an otherwise mature-presenting man. Anyway, I ask why on earth did that happen to me, as if Androgenetic Alopecia in a woman wasn't bad enough already, when I NEVER discriminated on a man based on his hair?
Bottom line, guys' hair doesn't matter to a lot of women. Before I ever conceived of Androgenetic Alopecia in a woman, I thought hair loss in a guy was no big deal. Sure, there are some women who place too much emphasis on it and that is not your loss...those women will experience hardships later in life and then they won't care about something as superficial as guys' hair anymore. I come from a place of understanding (there is little more devastating than Androgenetic Alopecia in a young woman. It's almost like losing a breast or a limb). But what they say about confidence, carriage, and success in a man being more important than hair is absolutely true.