21yo Desperately Needing Advice! Hairloss Has Affected Me Badly.

[AlexAlex97]

Hi guys, this last year's has been a though ride for me. I have been receding since being 18 years and a half, but now being 21 I am reaching the point of now return quickly.

Personally, since I have been losing my hair people, people treat me different, I am not a very attractive guy but I managed to get a girl interested, we kissed a few times but the day she noticed my hair loss she immediately was turned off... I study really hard at university for someday hoping to graduate, get a girl and you know the dream but every day that seems so far fetched and I am getting more desperate every day, as my hairless progresses to that point were is noticeable to others (maybe the always knew but now is very evident). So to be a little bit more optimistic, I have two solutions that I can easily get my hand on: (a)Minoxidil and (b)Propecia.

(a) I can not take Minoxidil because since I was little I had a minor benign arrhythmia (lucky me !), so that absolutely out of the question unless I want to have a future heart problem(maybe I am overreacting).

So, the only option left is (b), but I have two issues: I am a virgin and if I have side effects from the medication I want at least one good experience in my memory (so if I have no gf and a very low chance of getting one balding, I will need to go to an escort, that will expose me to STD's ( thoughts on that, how safe is it , in my country is legal but still is something I wouldn't do if this wasn't happening) really need you guys to help me in this thought process because maybe I am overreacting to Finasteride, and the probability of this is very low/or maybe I am acting accordingly and the chance is real. Apart from that, I know that for some individual the effects are permanent but which is the probability of that (1/100?, 1/1000?). Do you see another solution to my problems? Is it any lifestyle/diet/something that I can make to lower the chances of side effects. I just want to life the life I always work hard to get, life has not been easy for me I worked my *** off and I was tasting a little bit of the sweet life and this happens.. But I promise I will not be defeated and I will fight my hair with all the tools I have and maximize my outcome, but I need your guys insight.

P.S: Lately I have been dealing with some depression for this I am a mentally centered person but this has been getting the best of me. And also my mom has the obsession to make comments like : ' I will never date a bald guy they look so ugly, etc' , which make me wish I was adopted and also deeply hurt. If you can send me some tips to improve my mental game because I am struggleing also in that department, I have been also very physically inactive lately and I tell you I will not look good bald. Thanks guys!!!!

 

[Mandar kumthekar]

A good hair specialist is must . try to coverup until you get enough hair back. Best luck and big love from India.

 

[AnxiousAndy]

Suck it up and get on finasteride, probably better to use dutasteride. Maybe you'll get side effects but surely it has to be better than being a cue ball in your early/mid 20s?

 

[recedingornot87]

Your mom actually said that? Didn't she marry a bald guy though? Post pics of your hair.

 

[4hair4him]

Hi guys, this last year's has been a though ride for me. I have been receding since being 18 years and a half, but now being 21 I am reaching the point of now return quickly.

Personally, since I have been losing my hair people, people treat me different, I am not a very attractive guy but I managed to get a girl interested, we kissed a few times but the day she noticed my hair loss she immediately was turned off... I study really hard at university for someday hoping to graduate, get a girl and you know the dream but every day that seems so far fetched and I am getting more desperate every day, as my hairless progresses to that point were is noticeable to others (maybe the always knew but now is very evident). So to be a little bit more optimistic, I have two solutions that I can easily get my hand on: (a)Minoxidil and (b)Propecia.

(a) I can not take Minoxidil because since I was little I had a minor benign arrhythmia (lucky me !), so that absolutely out of the question unless I want to have a future heart problem(maybe I am overreacting).

So, the only option left is (b), but I have two issues: I am a virgin and if I have side effects from the medication I want at least one good experience in my memory (so if I have no gf and a very low chance of getting one balding, I will need to go to an escort, that will expose me to STD's ( thoughts on that, how safe is it , in my country is legal but still is something I wouldn't do if this wasn't happening) really need you guys to help me in this thought process because maybe I am overreacting to Finasteride, and the probability of this is very low/or maybe I am acting accordingly and the chance is real. Apart from that, I know that for some individual the effects are permanent but which is the probability of that (1/100?, 1/1000?). Do you see another solution to my problems? Is it any lifestyle/diet/something that I can make to lower the chances of side effects. I just want to life the life I always work hard to get, life has not been easy for me I worked my *** off and I was tasting a little bit of the sweet life and this happens.. But I promise I will not be defeated and I will fight my hair with all the tools I have and maximize my outcome, but I need your guys insight.

P.S: Lately I have been dealing with some depression for this I am a mentally centered person but this has been getting the best of me. And also my mom has the obsession to make comments like : ' I will never date a bald guy they look so ugly, etc' , which make me wish I was adopted and also deeply hurt. If you can send me some tips to improve my mental game because I am struggleing also in that department, I have been also very physically inactive lately and I tell you I will not look good bald. Thanks guys!!!!

You could get on finasteride.

Or shave your head and hit the gym. Believe me, that with the right personality you could get every week another girl, especially college girls.
Look around and aks yourself. With your actually mindset, would you want to be with a person like you? Yeah, nobody will say Oh look, this guy is hot because of balding. But people will say you are hot, cause of your person or your body. So either use drugs (that could work very great) or shave yourself and work on mindset and body. These are you two options and non option is worser than the other.

And you always can get yourself a wig if hairloss is bothering you too much.

 

[CrownBalding]

Post pics of your hair. If your mom makes those comments you must not be balding as bad as you think. That means finasteride can hopefully help you out a great deal if you get on soon enough.

 

[BetterLivinThruChemistry]

Your reason not to use topical minoxidil doesn't seem rational to me. Besides, I wouldn't worry about my heart if something as big as my hair (and in elongation of my reasoning, propagation), is on the line. Ask a MD about it. Finasteride you should of course start with as well as some medicated shampoos. Your life and your decision, of course, but since you wanted feedback on a forum, I say no time to lose...

 

[4hair4him]

Besides, I wouldn't worry about my heart if something as big as my hair (and in elongation of my reasoning, propagation), is on the line.

-> Are you retarted ?

 

[BetterLivinThruChemistry]

No, not retarDed.

 

[4hair4him]

No, not retarDed.

You are. Without you heart you can´t live. Without you hair you can live great. And if it bothers one that much, get a wig. But recommending minoxidil to someone who had massive heart problems with trying it, is insane.

If you hair is more important than you heart, please visit a good psychologist. Cause there is no bald man, that could not get himself a decent gf and have a happy life, if he has the right mindset.

 

[BetterLivinThruChemistry]

My advice to him was to ask a MD about it. It could very well be that it's not a problem with topical minoxidil.

But maybe I shouldn't have told him how I would've reasoned if I were in his shoes. It could be that I'm crazy - I'm definitely not rational when it comes to hair, but I'm not retarded.

 

[BetterLivinThruChemistry]

Cause there is no bald man, that could not get himself a decent gf and have a happy life, if he has the right mindset.

I wish that were true, but I personally don't believe it is.

 

[4hair4him]

but I personally don't believe it is.

"If he has the right mindset." And here we go. This is a vicious circle.

I am original from Poland and you know what? I think there aren´t more balding young men than in poland,czech. They simply dont care in majority or just accept it as masculine. Same with women regarding men baldness.Polish women wouln´t date 90% of men here, not because they are bald (as opposite, this is for some girls there a plus), becaus they act like girls or little boys. And polish girls are hot. But they had the right mind set. Here in the west, hollywood, insta has done its damage. But you also can see an increasing amount of young men that just shave there head and go on in the last years. Also thanks to migrants from less pussy countries.

I am here, cause the last years I was weak. I had some serious life issues and and withdrew socially (allthough I had nice hair). This recovering process for me is new and so I started last may with finasteride (but only 0.25mg eod) and first in september I went with 1mg. I dont know what the results will be but more and more I think that I have just throw it away, independently it will work or not.
start working my body again (cause it looks better with baldness) and just move on.

I never had less hair than now, but I also never was as confident as now. Doing all this sh*t and than I see a short, balding young men, with a ugly face but with a beautiful gf and thinking myself. What am I doing to my body with finasteride, minoxidil and this all. And for what? Real for me or is it cause I had a bad mindset and think that society does "like" me more with headhair.
I will have to find out. Is it me, who want to have hair? Than I will go on with medics or buy a wig. Isn´t it me, I just dont care. Than I will shave as soon as possible.