Hey guys, this is my attempt to maybe put balding into perspective.
I'm 27 years old an propably a Norwood 2,5. Balding temples and a thin spot (though not bald) on my crown.
For the last couple of years I am battling hairloss sucessfully with finasteride and minoxidil, but it never regrew to the point where I'd say "It's not noticable". I was always paranoid about people, and girls especially, noticing my hair loss, which for me was painfully obvious. How could someone NOT see it?
Anyway, the last couple of weeks and months I've developed the courage to ask friends and family about how they see my hairloss. I've got my hair short to medium length, since I've always felt that it looked best for my headshape, and my biggest fear was being one of those oblivious guys who grew their hair out even though they were going bald.
So I've asked about 8 different people, 6 of them girls, about how they perceived my hairloss. Two of these women were some I had been intimate with, who have seen me in the shower, without any styling, or whatever. To my big suprise, every one of them said something along the lines of "What hairloss? Oh, yeah it's a bit thin on top, I guess", and everyone told me that it looks fine and that they propably wouldn't have noticed if I hadn't told them. This included girls who were with guys who were balding themselves, or had family members who are balding.
To me this was really suprising and quite encouraging. For years I thought my hairloss was clearly noticable, and slighty disfiguring. It turns out, many people don't even notice it, and the old saying that you yourself are your biggest critic seems to hold true.
As a side note, I've been talking a lot with female friends about what they find attractive in a man, and which men they found attractive. It appears that hair is often not really that big of an issue. A good looking girl I talked with was with a guy who wore a hair piece, and she said that it was really suprising at first, but because he handled it with confidence, she didn't mind at all.
I have no idea if this helps anybody, but for me it was a huge revelation.
I'm 27 years old an propably a Norwood 2,5. Balding temples and a thin spot (though not bald) on my crown.
For the last couple of years I am battling hairloss sucessfully with finasteride and minoxidil, but it never regrew to the point where I'd say "It's not noticable". I was always paranoid about people, and girls especially, noticing my hair loss, which for me was painfully obvious. How could someone NOT see it?
Anyway, the last couple of weeks and months I've developed the courage to ask friends and family about how they see my hairloss. I've got my hair short to medium length, since I've always felt that it looked best for my headshape, and my biggest fear was being one of those oblivious guys who grew their hair out even though they were going bald.
So I've asked about 8 different people, 6 of them girls, about how they perceived my hairloss. Two of these women were some I had been intimate with, who have seen me in the shower, without any styling, or whatever. To my big suprise, every one of them said something along the lines of "What hairloss? Oh, yeah it's a bit thin on top, I guess", and everyone told me that it looks fine and that they propably wouldn't have noticed if I hadn't told them. This included girls who were with guys who were balding themselves, or had family members who are balding.
To me this was really suprising and quite encouraging. For years I thought my hairloss was clearly noticable, and slighty disfiguring. It turns out, many people don't even notice it, and the old saying that you yourself are your biggest critic seems to hold true.
As a side note, I've been talking a lot with female friends about what they find attractive in a man, and which men they found attractive. It appears that hair is often not really that big of an issue. A good looking girl I talked with was with a guy who wore a hair piece, and she said that it was really suprising at first, but because he handled it with confidence, she didn't mind at all.
I have no idea if this helps anybody, but for me it was a huge revelation.
