kingdomforhair
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It's well recognized that each person has a different way of coping with loss or pain. So why is there such an attempt at dictating what the *proper* response to hair loss is?
I've been across many hair loss forums and I've been often told, very bluntly, that my feelings about hair loss are the "wrong" feelings.
"you should be feeling this way"
" it's not healthy to think like that"
"dude you shouldn't worry about hair loss women don't care"
or as my blithe brother recently said "just cheer up man!" like that gesture is going to do anything, like my mental state is wrong and I should just "snap out of it".
What if I don't like the way I look?
It's not like you can choose what your sentiments are about hair loss, some people may not care at all when they lose their hair, other people care VERY much and I am one of them.
For this reason I think forums like this should be about expressing your own views, not trying to change the views of others, which doesn't work. Either you like the way you look, or you don't. Either other people like the way you look, for example girlfriends, friends, the general population, or they don't. You can't extrapolate and say because you or someone you know is unaffected by hair loss that all men should feel the same. It's insulting to argue this.
It's been a horrific experience, FOR ME, losing my hair so young. My beliefs are colored by this pain, your experiences may be different, I respect that. But don't try and tell me I am exaggerating or delusional for feeling angry, depressed or cynical about this world. My brain is different to yours. Each brain is different. I hate the way I look and there's nothing that can be said to change that. The only cure for my suffering is getting my hair back, which I am in the process of doing, with some success. My cure will be a hair transplant not a psychologist.
I've been across many hair loss forums and I've been often told, very bluntly, that my feelings about hair loss are the "wrong" feelings.
"you should be feeling this way"
" it's not healthy to think like that"
"dude you shouldn't worry about hair loss women don't care"
or as my blithe brother recently said "just cheer up man!" like that gesture is going to do anything, like my mental state is wrong and I should just "snap out of it".
What if I don't like the way I look?
It's not like you can choose what your sentiments are about hair loss, some people may not care at all when they lose their hair, other people care VERY much and I am one of them.
For this reason I think forums like this should be about expressing your own views, not trying to change the views of others, which doesn't work. Either you like the way you look, or you don't. Either other people like the way you look, for example girlfriends, friends, the general population, or they don't. You can't extrapolate and say because you or someone you know is unaffected by hair loss that all men should feel the same. It's insulting to argue this.
It's been a horrific experience, FOR ME, losing my hair so young. My beliefs are colored by this pain, your experiences may be different, I respect that. But don't try and tell me I am exaggerating or delusional for feeling angry, depressed or cynical about this world. My brain is different to yours. Each brain is different. I hate the way I look and there's nothing that can be said to change that. The only cure for my suffering is getting my hair back, which I am in the process of doing, with some success. My cure will be a hair transplant not a psychologist.