Why do Hair pieces invite sneers, sniggers and jeers ?

[hairaisinglyhairy]

People can spend a lot of money on dress materials and contact lens and invite no negative commnents but same usually does not seem to work for hair pieces. I wonder why ? Is it more in the mind of a guy who is having hairloss or is it in the society?.

I personally wont judge a guy bad becuase of this. So why this resistance to use good hair pieces ?

 

[hairwegoagain]

Having the perceived need for a hairpiece is in the guy's head, IMO. There may be some good ones out there, but it's still an attempt to deceive that most of the time is discovered by others, even if they don't let on. That's where the jeering comes from - often behind the guy's back. He's bobbing along, ignorant to the fact that he's not fooling anyone. We all know "that guy." In the meantime, he could be free of worries and anxiety by simply being himself.

People can spend a lot of money on dress materials and contact lens and invite no negative commnents but same usually does not seem to work for hair pieces. I wonder why ? Is it more in the mind of a guy who is having hairloss or is it in the society?.

I personally wont judge a guy bad becuase of this. So why this resistance to use good hair pieces ?

 

[Johnny24601]

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Hairpieces are frowned upon because it is a clear sign of weakness and a statement that you are not comfortable with who you are.
Clothes are a little different because they are a part of almost every human being's life, unlike hairpieces. However, I am not attracted to women who spend all their time and $$ on clothes for the same reason why women are not attracted to men with pieces, because they are fake (figuratively and literally).

 

[baldguy28]

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I think that it is a catch 22 situation. Obviously most people aren't going to be comfortable with having a horseshoe baldness pattern or looking like George Costanza and it certainly isn't viewed as attractive by most women. Everyone wants to look the best that they possibly can and hairloss can detract dramatically from one's attractiveness to the opposite sex. If you walk around with the horseshoe pattern, you are going to have people laugh and be the butt of jokes. If you walk around with an obvious toupee, you are going to be laughed at and be the butt of jokes. Even if you decide to be bold, say "f*ck it" and shave your head slick bald you are still going to be the butt of jokes. Why? Likely because hair or how much of it you have is so visible to everyone and it seems to represent so much. That's why it sucks so much to go bald. For some reason, many people act like hair is everything and that you are less of a person if you are losing yours even if you may be in great shape and the person judging you might be obese.

 

[Johnny24601]

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I concede that there are plenty of people who laugh at balding guys or guys who shave their heads, but a majority of our society does not. A majority of the society does laugh at a toupee. I just think it is sort of foolish. You are bald because of your genetic make up, if someone is too ignorant or vain to appreciate the situation then they can go f*** themsleves. Wearing a toupee is like wearing a fake mustache because you are one of those guys who are genetically predisposed to never grow a beard and instead only being able to grow fuzz. In a way, I am a bit of a fake for taking finasteride to battle my genetic imperfection

 

[Siberian]

Hmm, interesting question.

It's curious that I could colour my hair, wear colored contacts, get a fake tan... heck, we even shave our faces every day to pretend we're still pre-pubescent boys... and yet no one cares. We might even receive compliments.

But use a hairpiece? Laughter all around.

Right or wrong, I think society DOES see hair loss as a weakness. A flaw. And when someone tries to cover it up, it's much the same as a short person wearing platform shoes.

But I dunno, I can't quite find the common threads between these things. It's odd certain "deceptions" are tolerated, and even encouraged, while others provoke humiliation.

 

[techprof]

I disagree with why people should laugh at hair piece or combovers.
Stuffed and push up bras, plastic surgery are accepted these days.
Girls can use 10 inch shoes to compensate for their lack of heigh.
I believe these days they stuff their booties too. Women can have very thin hair and use hair pieces. that is somehow acceptable.
We baldies got it bad. It is really sad.

 

[hairaisinglyhairy]

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Hairpieces are frowned upon because it is a clear sign of weakness and a statement that you are not comfortable with who you are.
Clothes are a little different because they are a part of almost every human being's life, unlike hairpieces. However, I am not attracted to women who spend all their time and $$ on clothes for the same reason why women are not attracted to men with pieces, because they are fake (figuratively and literally).

One can accept the desire for contact lens , expensive dresses , nose fixes without laughing out loud but a guy who desires hair piece is the vainest creature on the earth who is exhibiting a ¨clear sign of weakness¨. There is indeed a strange atitude.

 

[Siberian]

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One can accept the desire for contact lens , expensive dresses , nose fixes without laughing out loud but a guy who desires hair piece is the vainest creature on the earth who is exhibiting a ¨clear sign of weakness¨. There is indeed a strange atitude.

Yea, I think you're onto something. It comes back to the fact that men aren't allowed to be "weak" or vulnerable in our society. I guess wearing coloured contacts or changing hair color is actually an assertive, expressive gesture... but "needing" a hairpiece is viewed as trying to be "pretty," a public display of a supposed feminine characteristic.

 

[Johnny24601]

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It is very strange and unfair, but I think that there is a difference when we talk about female cover ups (make up, big fake boobs, high heels) and men's cover ups (platform shoes, fake tans and toupees). I guess it has to do with old notion that men are not supposed to show weakness and emotion and women are allowed to express these things. Times are changing as the world accepts metrosexuals.
With age, I become less attracted too and less comfortable with women who have fake tits, *** or face (L.A. may be the most horrible place on earth, do not go there). These are trends, remember the tatoo spike of the early to mid 90's, and hopefully will slow down. In the end, bald guys have it tough in western society (or any society I am sure). Have the strength to stand proud and think of yourself as a better man for not expressing the same vanity and ignorance that many in this world are constantly spewing.

 

[hairaisinglyhairy]

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I think people laugh not at the attempts of looking ¨pretty¨ but the attempts ( often unsuccesfull) to HIDE baldness using the hair piece. I wonder how it will be if people are open about wearing a hair piece instead of trying to keep it a secret.I feel there is less chance of ridicule then.

I think a proper hair piece is the best solution to a hairloss unlike the cumbersome and costly regimen and the best way to go about it is to be open about it and acknowledge it if the topic comes up. It is just a part of your grooming and is about as vain as styling your hair or moisturizing your face. Just avoid the fear of being ¨caught¨ and be open about it.