I hear what you are saying, I really do. I didn't want to take finasteride either, but with the condition my hair was in I really had no choice if I wanted to keep from going bald. Do I think finasteride is 100% safe? No I don't, but I think most that take it will do so without problems. The problem with the internet and fear is that it has a snow ball effect. You get a hand full of guys that initially claimed to have sides, now everybody is getting them when initially this drug was for the most part considered safe. I do believe that sides do happen, but to most guys I just don't buy that. If I were in your shoes I would ask myself how important my hair is to me. If it isn't worth the risk, then don't take it. If it is, then welcome back to the club.