Cornholio
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When I find myself thinking of hair loss too much, I know that I have lost perspective. Thinning hair and receeding hairlines are difficult because they demonstrate that I am not in control of all things and will change with time (not always for the better). This is a lesson that everyone will deal with eventually as arthritis, wrinkles, graying and other diseases inevitably crop up.
When I feel that others are blessed with a more charmed life than me (beauty, wealth, happiness, and a bushy mane) it is usually because I am not looking close enough, or dont know the details. Of people I know well every single one has had their challenges... (My sister is overweight and has psoriasis, my brother-in-law is balding, my father has been depressed for a few years and is dealing with prostate cancer, my mother has to work 60 hours a week at age 68, my best friend is addicted to narcotics, his parents have him living in the basement to put up with, my dad's best friend has muscular dystrophy)... If you didnt know these people well you would think they lead charmed lives. That is an Illusion. All of them have accepted hardship and challenges and got on with their lives, as I hope to. Realizing that other people's perfection is an illusion helps me do that.
I think that when I become mature enough accept my changing (37 year old : ) body and life as it is, and not as I imagined it should be, I will be happier, and better able to accept thinning hair (and whatever else is waiting for me).
Here are a few more quotes that help me (when I remember them)...
Difficulties along the way are opportunities
in disguise; they reflect your expectations.
Facing them with surrender helps you follow
a more peaceful and perceptive life.
- Carl Abbott
We can hold back neither the coming of the flowers
nor the downward rush of the stream;
sooner or later, everything comes to its fruition.
~Loy Ching-Yuen
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
__________Desiderata ... http://www.fleurdelis.com/desiderata.htm
I post this not becaue I believe it, all of the time, but because I think that when I believe it and remember it, hair loss will not matter.
When I feel that others are blessed with a more charmed life than me (beauty, wealth, happiness, and a bushy mane) it is usually because I am not looking close enough, or dont know the details. Of people I know well every single one has had their challenges... (My sister is overweight and has psoriasis, my brother-in-law is balding, my father has been depressed for a few years and is dealing with prostate cancer, my mother has to work 60 hours a week at age 68, my best friend is addicted to narcotics, his parents have him living in the basement to put up with, my dad's best friend has muscular dystrophy)... If you didnt know these people well you would think they lead charmed lives. That is an Illusion. All of them have accepted hardship and challenges and got on with their lives, as I hope to. Realizing that other people's perfection is an illusion helps me do that.
I think that when I become mature enough accept my changing (37 year old : ) body and life as it is, and not as I imagined it should be, I will be happier, and better able to accept thinning hair (and whatever else is waiting for me).
Here are a few more quotes that help me (when I remember them)...
Difficulties along the way are opportunities
in disguise; they reflect your expectations.
Facing them with surrender helps you follow
a more peaceful and perceptive life.
- Carl Abbott
We can hold back neither the coming of the flowers
nor the downward rush of the stream;
sooner or later, everything comes to its fruition.
~Loy Ching-Yuen
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
__________Desiderata ... http://www.fleurdelis.com/desiderata.htm
I post this not becaue I believe it, all of the time, but because I think that when I believe it and remember it, hair loss will not matter.
