You look much, much better with a shaved head. And I'm not just saying that because I'm also rocking the shaved head. In the nicest possible way, I just don't think having all that hair suits you. You've got a good head shape and sharp features which stand out way more without the hair.
And no, you don't look an "intimidating badass" and, based on what I've written above, I can't imagine your luck with the ladies has really changed purely based on losing your hair. The only thing losing the hair has done for you is shake your confidence. I don't know what it is about girls but they seem to have an innate sense of how confident men are. It's like they can smell it. If you can accept your hair loss and get over your hangups I'm positive things will go back to the way they were.