Suicide

[So long Hair]

I know this is a very depressing issue but it is of great concern to me at present. I'm at that stage where I feel that I just can't take it anymore. My confidence has dropped to below zero, my desire to do what I once loved to do for fun has faded from memory, I'm stuck in a dead-end job with crap pay and I'm a 24 year old virgin who has never even got a blow-job. The list just goes on. And it's all down to one thing and I'm sure you all know what it is. At at my absolute wit's end. I just can't see a light at the end of this dark tunnel. Taking my own life is often on my mind and I'm starting to get really scared that I may actually do it one day. I mean, since my problems are caused by hairloss, they can only get worse, can't they? I've been on minoxidil for 2 years now yet my hairline has continued it's way into oblivion. I'm too afraid to try Proscar as my sex drive is incredably low as it is and my erections have only been at the 70% mark for the last 3 years (hence: my fear of losing my virginity). I don't know. I just don't know. Has anyone here ever been on the same boat as me? Has suicide ever crossed any of your minds? Anyway, thanks for reading. I just needed to get that off my chest.

 

[almostbald]

i've been of finasteride for over 4 months; people say the sides go away after a few weeks only. My erections are still very soft with low ejaculate volume.
Consider going on finasteride very carefully my friend. But hey, you may never have any sides from finasteride but the risk, albeit small, is still there.

As for suicide, i've been there buddy, maybe not as bad but many times i've considered my life to be so bad, that i was better of not living.

I have gone through humilliation after humilliation, even having my once upon a time girl leave me for a better looking dude. thats life man. it's a b**ch.

If anyone teases you about your hair, just admit to them, better still ask them for advice on how to deal with it. i find that this helps allot; even though you may secretly be much more knowledgeable than them.

trust me it gets better with time. if you wanna talk just PM me, ill try and help you as much as i can.

so long. Take care

 

[c]

When you talk/think of suicide, that is basically an indication that your concerns have nothing to do with your hair loss concerns.

Suicidal thoughts are brought on by depression and anxiety and that is a disorder of the brain: a brain malfunction, if you will.

Hair loss can trigger thoughts of depression, but depression is a chemical inbalance in the brain, and you must be more susceptible to these inbalances, as a lot of people do loose their hair but do not get suicidal.

I know that you may think that you are depressed because of hair loss, which you obviously believe you are, but to resort to suicide is not the answer, and it obviously will not fix your problem, as you'll be dead and your corpse will be decomposing in a coffin in the ground.

The best thing you can do is find a solution that works. Suicidal thoughts are your brains way of triggering a part of your brain to fight for survival (hence you writing your post).

I don't mean for this reply to be harsh, and i really do know what you are feeling. But you shouldn't kill yourself. Ever.

 

[drinkrum]

I was going through the same period that you're going through now but I was much younger than you at 18 years old. My recommendation: Start making changes in your life beginning with that first dose of finasteride. If you're not in shape, get in it. If you're pale, go to a tanning booth (or do spray-tan if you're paranoid about skin cancer). Also, schedule a meeting with a psychiatrist. They're very helpful and they provide unbiased, confidential advice.

Also feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk to you or have any questions.

D.

 

[socks]

I'm too afraid to try Proscar as my sex drive is incredably low as it is and my erections have only been at the 70% mark for the last 3 years

To be blunt, that is a ridiculous fear. Only 2% of men get any side effects on Finasteride and the rare few that do usually have their side effects subside after continued treatment.


I've been on Finasteride for 10months and not only did I get ZERO side effects my hair never looked better.

You can see my webpage at Sock's Webpage


Look bro, you can either get on an effective treatment that has a chance in saving your hair **or** you can buy into all the negativity that sometimes rears its ugly head here and believe all the psychotic "panic" posts by mentally unstable people.

**FACT**, Finasteride side effects occur in LESS then 2% of people who use it.

If you want to keep your hair I highly suggest you give it a fair go and see what happens in the next 6months to 1yrs.

 

[UnLoopy]

At the End of the Line

Join the army dude. Seriously, if you're stuck, and you aren't too old yet, join the army/navy/air force/marines, noone there cares if you're bald, you can make a whole career out of it. You are depressed because you feel like you aren't going to do sh*t in your life right? And you're too scared to change anything. Having hair didn't do anything for you, and losing it might be good for you.

 

[SLD]

Man i can understand how you are feeling, i started loosing hair when i was 16 also lost my confidence... my purpose for living at that age was my girlfriend and i lost her because of my obsecion with my hair, i've even refused twice invitations to be a male model because of my lack of confidence.
There was a time when i thought of suicide but then if you just think about it for a while you'll see that there are a lot of good things about life Just do what makes you happy if you dont like your life change it, aim for something high anything is possible.
I think its normal to get depressed once in a while you just have to learn how to get around it.
Hair loss sucks but dont let it control your life.

 

[Wezz]

think positive.

 

[elguapo]

My advice is related to what Unloopy suggested.

The way I see it, there are many levels of happiness in life. You can be happy, so-so, unhappy, unhappy to the point where you feel like you have nothing to lose, and finally, suicidal, at which point not only do you feel like you have nothing to lose, but you want to "self-destruct" and give up everything. So given those levels, if you are worse off than the people who have "nothing to lose", then just do whatever the f*** you want! The armed forces is one option. Another would be to just write down what it is you want to do, forgetting about hair loss, and just go do it.

I'm in a rut as well. Not really hair loss related. I saw a psychiatrist for the first time in my life, and she said I am suffering from depression, and it's pretty bad. My deal is, I'm not meeting any girls where I live because of hte shitty demographic- there are just no girls my age around here. So I want to move to a bigger city, but it isn't easy to get a job, I have credit card debts to pay off, all that good stuff. But I thought about suicide for a second the other day, and I figured if I'm at such a low point of dispare that I want to end it all, why not just f*****g move to wherever I want to go, and see what happens.

It will work out man. You will find what you are looking for. Hang in there.

 

[Johnnyboy7]

Its not the end of the world! You can be bald and have a happy life. Just because yu are balding doesn't mean you will never find love or a good job.

 

[Wezz]

I've been there asking myself , why me why i cant be like this guy why i got this problem why he got full head of rich thich hair and i dont but i dont do that anymore, you know why it makes my life sh*t and it will make you have no friends at all just be social with other people obviously people with full of hair will like your personality. Also hairloss is a very small issue near some problems that other special people have , i mean what happened if you were crippled or on wheelchair for your life ??? think about those people, and you will defo feel stupid and sorry about your situation. I mean come on you have 2 ears, 2 eyes, working brain, just because you have less hair then other people on your head doesnt mean sh*t, keep on your regimen and think positive. Stress causes hairloss as well, so enjoy life because it doesnt last forever


Thats my 2 cents, hope it helped.

 

[The Dude]

As for finasteride, I had some really mild side effects that went away after a month or two. Barely noticable at first, then gone. It made me about 10 seconds slower to get hard, but there was a positive side effect too. Maybe it's just me, but my performance went from 'pretty good' to 'olympian'. I was always a little too horny for my own good, so going on finasteride took the edge off just a bit, and let me chill out and enjoy sex more, if that makes any sense.

Another thing though, for a month or so I noticed a little bit less energy on finasteride (a bit lethargic), then I was back to my old self.

 

[Odelay]

Find a psychiatrist in your area and make an appointment, very soon.

 

[20sometingtoo]

I think most people have been there, I have. Dont let it beat you.

When those thoughts pop into your head, think about your family - you might think its an easy way out for yourself, but what about the fact that they will still be around, sad that you're gone. Not fair.

Anyway, chin up man, there's more to life than hair. Feel better.

 

[blue]

Well tell me everyone hasnt thought it once or twice before..its normal to think of suicide....but its not normal to try it!

 

[Withnail]

Been there, we probably all have!

I find that you might feel sh*t one week and feel great for the next six!

We're all going to have low times but you've just got to ride it out. In a few weeks, chance are you're going to think "Why did I write that post? I feel (and look great)".

For the the past good ten years I've been rock bottom worrying about hairloss and then having times when I just don't care"

This time will pass!

 

[youngguy_uk]

your sex drive being low, and your complaints about your job and life etc, i think a lot of it is down to confidence. i know you must pin a lot of confidence to your hair, but heres some things to think about...

firstly, get on finasteride. really, few people experience serious side effects, which will go away pretty much always if they stop taking finasteride. the vast majority of us see no side effects, or like me, see some side effects at the start of treatment that are negligible, and last like 2 weeks (only a little bit of a softer erection), and then go away. of course, youre going to experience sides sometimes, youre altering your bodys hormones!! the body take a little bit to adapt to this, but adapt it will.

finasteride is so well proven to combat hairloss. get on it. it will buy you a LOT of time. youre 24, come on, some people here started balding when they were 16, some have terrible hairloss by 18, etc. if you get on the big 3, finasteride, minoxidil 5% and nizoral, and strick to it, youll be fine for a long time to come most probably.

getting on these 3 of the best treatments you can have should firstly boost your confidence. then, you have to prepare yourself for the sheds, and just stick to your regimen religiously. TRUST in your regimen. come on, finasteride is proven to work in 83% of men, and the fact that youll be using minoxidil (now with the support of finasteride) will do you even better.

get a decent, presentable hairstyle. and go from there. all hair can look good in someway, no matter what your stage of hairloss is. go to a good stylist the first time, ask for advice, somewhere out of town maybe so youve got no embarassment worries.

its true, everyone attaches some confidence to the way they look - its only natural. but you can take control and as long as youre doing THE BEST YOU CAN for your situation, thats all you can ask of yourself.

go to the gym regularly, get a structured weights and cardio programme, and stick to that too. eat well, get a tan, life will be so much better. your discipline in these aspects will help you for work too, and youll feel more relaxed and good about yourself in general. its true, working out etc releases endorphins and whatnot (ok, my science is a bit hazy on this!!) but youll feel a lot better.

your hair situation will take care of itself. try and dettach yourself from your hair in someways. do it in the morning, and apply the minoxidil 2x a day, then dont look at it too much. your hair will be better if you just stick to the regimen and dont worry. trust me, a happy face and confidence are so much more attractive. take care of your skin, your body, get it all sorted. the big 3 will sort out your hair.

look up. youre young, youve got a lot to offer. be more confident with the girls. you can sort your hair for a long long long time to come. get on the big 3.

pm me if you like. good luck, you wont need it.

 

[hairwish]

I was in a similar situation. let me tell you that the soft erection is all in your head because you're depressed. I was very depressed at 17 and lasted through my early 20's because of hairloss and an undiagnosed disease I had for many years which had nothing to do with my hairloss. I also lost absolutley all interest in sex and women because of the depression. you say you have some erection well I had almost none and most importantly because my mind was in other places except down there.

eventually I was diagnosed and had it all taken care of and I'm totaly ok from it now but was now left with hairloss. when propecia first came out I waited a year before I began to use it because I was too scared because of the sexual side effects I heard about. one day I found a hairloss book in a bookstore saying how there's absolutely no sexual side effects for 98% of the men using it. also mentioned that many of that 2% were old men who already were having somekind of sexual disfunction to begin with but only temporary if any for the small percentage of young guys who do. so heck I tried it and holy cow did it work almost like a small miracle. trust me it's the best weapon out there today.

the punch line here is that once I saw that there was hope I began to finally but slowly get out of the depression and slowly gaining interest in girls again and a 100% erection along with it! =) I felt normal again.

funny thing is that after I took control of my hairloss with propecia, minoxidil and nizoral/T-sal I still didn't get laid for many years after that and it didn't bother me! lol also even if I didn't have success with my treatment I would've shaved my head like I've done a few times before and felt really great about it. eventually I met someone very special and am as happy as can be and it was all worth the wait. now that I look back at what I call my dark years I feel like I over reacted to the whole thing.

hang in there buddy we've been there too and there is hope, find it!




keep me updated I'd like to hear about it

 

[Kevin fretwell]

Been there done that . I'm 31 now and I can say that all of my 20's have been dismal because of fear of hairloss . I gain control of my psych and emotions using Dr. Wyne Dyer books . Take a look at them at your local book store . This hairloss stuff is entirely to damaging to a mans psych for it not to be considered a disease . Maybe an accute depression

 

[Hpower]

I also had errection problems before and after finasteride, then I realized it wasn't finasteride, it was me. Don't focus on your errection, focus on what makes your errection, girls, porno, ect. Don't masterbate for 2 weeks, and let your body reset. This site might help,

http://www.impotence.org.uk/

Hair loss sucks, and is very depressing, but not worth the loss of a life.
Seek help in your area, open up, and talk with your family or freinds, but don't think life is over, let that come naturaly!