Stay Positive My Hairless Brothers

[Mr. Henderson]

I, like many of you, have read through many of the posts on this forum. I read a lot about how awful people feel losing their hair, how depressed it makes them feel, etc. etc. I too have felt awful about the realization that I am losing my hair, and I totally understand how terrible it can make you feel. However, I suppose in a way we are a part of a fraternity of the hairless. I walk down the street and see someone balding and feel like we have exchanged the secret handshake because we both know what its like. This is not some hideous disease, were not going to infect other people. Were losing our hair, like our fathers and their fathers before them. Its not ideal, but life goes on. My point is that for any of you who have just read a number of the negative posts, just remember that we control our lives, not our hair. Go out, mingle, live life, and don't let this hold you back. Ill be trying to do the same and will come back here when I need a lift.

 

[uncomfortable man]

I too feel encouraged when I see another bald man. It makes me feel less alone. But most of the time I feel alienated from the rest of humanity. I wish for an end to baldism. I just want to be treated like a normal human being and not some leper. I know I shouldn't focus on the hate and try to stay positive but it just brings me down so much.

 

[Mr. Henderson]

Yes, and end to baldism would be much better than just thinking positive. And hopefully its coming. I simply am encouraging everyone to stay optimistic, and remember you are not alone. Uncomfortable man, if anybody treats you like a leper I doubt they were a person worth spending much time with anyway. The people I want to know share the same interests as me and will hold a conversation with me no matter what I look like. People who want to bring me down don't have a place in my life.

 

[WhereDaHair]

Thanks for posting this. I try and stay positive and not let me bother me so much. I knew I was balding but it was slower and maybe a result of discontinuing finasteride but it's on the fast track now. I just turned 30. I'm diffuse thinner. That really sucks because it just looks sickly. I wish it was receding or another way instead. I don't think that would be as bad. Anywhere I go now the only thing i'm paying attention to are others peoples hair. Just to see that 9 of 10 people have far far far more coverage. I used to surf and was known for it. Ha! That's done. Going anywhere without a hat is done and if it's not on, it's within arms reach at all times. My biggest fear is someone walking up on me without me being prepared to hide it. I have successfully kept it hidden from everyone I know and now that's it's much worse, I have even more incentive to. Even my own father doesn't know and I see him everyday. My significant other is the only one and i'm scared all this "don't worry about it" she tells me is a cover because she doesn't want me to feel bad.

I basically just look like **** and have no confidence in myself. If that's the side effect of balding then maybe I should have just stuck with finasteride. It all sucks, the only thing that gave me any results also took my manhood from me. Give me a break.

Let's not forget that there's so many people here posting frantically concerned about their hair loss and you're like "Man, I feel for this guy, I can relate to what he's going through," only to click on one of the pictures he posted and you can barely even notice anything. I hate that. :crazy:

Welp, there I go. Came in here to try and contribute to a positive vibe and look what happened. All in all though, i'm alive and I can observe the beautiful world we live in and be a part of it, just wish I didn't stick out like a sore thumb. There I went again. Positive damnit.. positive.. ahh forget it.