someone please share your feelings and give some comfort

[YoungGuy18]

Im sry guys, but im kinda freakin out right now. I just shaved my head to a short buzz and looked under bright lights at my hair. I think i see a bald outline. Like an outline that I will go completely bald. Like almost end up completley bald, like nw6, not 7 thought. I havent lost any hair in my crown and never thought that i would considering nobody in my family has lost hair in the crown on all sides. I didnt lose any hair but i think i can see the outline of the circle in the back and the front. WHen i looked in the mirror with bright lights i could see that i will prolly end up getting the george costanza outline, how he had the circle loss in the back , the little scrap line of hair in the center and completle loss in the front.

Now how comforting can that be? Im about to turn 19 and i have to deal with this sh*t. (excuse my launguage saying sh*t makes me feel kinda better)

I mean gosh my hair is about a nw2 right now but this is just telling me what direction my future is heading.

Its especially hard considering with hair i was such a stud. I dont mean to sound shallow or anything but my life would be great if i wasnt losing my hair. I mean i get checked out by girls all the time with my hat. When i wear my hat i get a lot of looks. My whole life people would tell me i should be a model and how good looking I was. I had the long blonde hair with natural highlights and all my friends would call me a pretty boy. But we all know that you cant wear a hat all the time and u have to accept how you look with your hair, and my hair looks terrible now. I just dont understand how a year ago my hair was looking GREAT and now it looks like sh*t. I am scared because i just noticed this today and I actually think the duasteride is doing this.

I matured a lot and i am not going to complain about this just accept my situation. But really who wants to accept that your going bald? especially at 19. I mean really i am not going to even try to get girls anymore because i feel like such a loser to be going bald at 18. In a way im actually a little relieved considering i know whats probley going to come instead of thinking will i go bald? thats what kills you , not knowing. I thought i should stop at a nw3 which is still possible but i really cant tell at this point in time. Its really comforting to know that you guys feel my pain. I mean there is no way im gunna sport that monk sh*t im going to shave my head however i dont look good with a shaved head which sucks. Really before i was losing my hair and still today i dont think there is anything wrong with guys who are completely bald but i always felt that the bald look wasnt me and never will be. I just think this has to be a mistake, but i know its not. How can this be? Guys please give me your thoughts it could really help.

Thanks YG

 

[Gilgamesh]

surgery can save you IMO (not yet though)

dont lose hope

 

[wangho75]

Im sry guys, but im kinda freakin out right now. I just shaved my head to a short buzz and looked under bright lights at my hair. I think i see a bald outline. Like an outline that I will go completely bald. Like almost end up completley bald, like nw6, not 7 thought. I havent lost any hair in my crown and never thought that i would considering nobody in my family has lost hair in the crown on all sides. I didnt lose any hair but i think i can see the outline of the circle in the back and the front. WHen i looked in the mirror with bright lights i could see that i will prolly end up getting the george costanza outline, how he had the circle loss in the back , the little scrap line of hair in the center and completle loss in the front.

Now how comforting can that be? Im about to turn 19 and i have to deal with this sh*t. (excuse my launguage saying sh*t makes me feel kinda better)

I mean gosh my hair is about a nw2 right now but this is just telling me what direction my future is heading.

Its especially hard considering with hair i was such a stud. I dont mean to sound shallow or anything but my life would be great if i wasnt losing my hair. I mean i get checked out by girls all the time with my hat. When i wear my hat i get a lot of looks. My whole life people would tell me i should be a model and how good looking I was. I had the long blonde hair with natural highlights and all my friends would call me a pretty boy. But we all know that you cant wear a hat all the time and u have to accept how you look with your hair, and my hair looks terrible now. I just dont understand how a year ago my hair was looking GREAT and now it looks like sh*t. I am scared because i just noticed this today and I actually think the duasteride is doing this.

I matured a lot and i am not going to complain about this just accept my situation. But really who wants to accept that your going bald? especially at 19. I mean really i am not going to even try to get girls anymore because i feel like such a loser to be going bald at 18. In a way im actually a little relieved considering i know whats probley going to come instead of thinking will i go bald? thats what kills you , not knowing. I thought i should stop at a nw3 which is still possible but i really cant tell at this point in time. Its really comforting to know that you guys feel my pain. I mean there is no way im gunna sport that monk sh*t im going to shave my head however i dont look good with a shaved head which sucks. Really before i was losing my hair and still today i dont think there is anything wrong with guys who are completely bald but i always felt that the bald look wasnt me and never will be. I just think this has to be a mistake, but i know its not. How can this be? Guys please give me your thoughts it could really help.

Thanks YG

Listen Young Guy, some girls like the gay spiked hair and straight across hairline, and the other half thinks those guys look gay and that half likes the more manly and masculine hairline with the higher temples. For that thinning in the front look, my advice is take your medicine and get to the gym, chisel that face!!

That really does cut down on the balding and makes it less noticeable. If you have a fat, round face, it's gonna make your hair look more thin. Eat right, get on a stationary bike and burn about 400 to 600 calories a day, and lift weights. You'll look like a stud type 2. Don't worry though, most guys are gonna lose the punky gay hairline as well.

 

[YoungAndThin]

Hey YoungGuy I can totally relate to you. I'm only 20 and for the past 8 months male pattern baldness has kicked the crap out of my hair.

I literally went from thick to thin in 8 months. Everytime I look in the mirror and see parts of scalp glaring back at me my heart just sinks. And everytime I look at my father and older brother who have all their hair makes me feel even worse.

I often ask myself, why did this have to happen to me? Why at 20?!? This is supposed to start when I'm 35 or 40? But 20?!? damn that's f*****g unfair. I often wonder how much happier and self-confident I would be if male pattern baldness never started. This is just something I just have a very hard time trying to accept. I just push through the day now, getting now enjoyment or happiness out of it. I find myself staying home by myself alot instead of going out like I used to.

It's just killing me inside and not having anyone to talk to about it is even harder. Everyone I've tried to approach about it just laughs at me and calls me paranoid. No one understands.

What I wouldn't give for just 10 more years of worry free hair. This really sucks.

 

[YoungGuy18]

Im sry guys, but im kinda freakin out right now. I just shaved my head to a short buzz and looked under bright lights at my hair. I think i see a bald outline. Like an outline that I will go completely bald. Like almost end up completley bald, like nw6, not 7 thought. I havent lost any hair in my crown and never thought that i would considering nobody in my family has lost hair in the crown on all sides. I didnt lose any hair but i think i can see the outline of the circle in the back and the front. WHen i looked in the mirror with bright lights i could see that i will prolly end up getting the george costanza outline, how he had the circle loss in the back , the little scrap line of hair in the center and completle loss in the front.

Now how comforting can that be? Im about to turn 19 and i have to deal with this sh*t. (excuse my launguage saying sh*t makes me feel kinda better)

I mean gosh my hair is about a nw2 right now but this is just telling me what direction my future is heading.

Its especially hard considering with hair i was such a stud. I dont mean to sound shallow or anything but my life would be great if i wasnt losing my hair. I mean i get checked out by girls all the time with my hat. When i wear my hat i get a lot of looks. My whole life people would tell me i should be a model and how good looking I was. I had the long blonde hair with natural highlights and all my friends would call me a pretty boy. But we all know that you cant wear a hat all the time and u have to accept how you look with your hair, and my hair looks terrible now. I just dont understand how a year ago my hair was looking GREAT and now it looks like sh*t. I am scared because i just noticed this today and I actually think the duasteride is doing this.

I matured a lot and i am not going to complain about this just accept my situation. But really who wants to accept that your going bald? especially at 19. I mean really i am not going to even try to get girls anymore because i feel like such a loser to be going bald at 18. In a way im actually a little relieved considering i know whats probley going to come instead of thinking will i go bald? thats what kills you , not knowing. I thought i should stop at a nw3 which is still possible but i really cant tell at this point in time. Its really comforting to know that you guys feel my pain. I mean there is no way im gunna sport that monk sh*t im going to shave my head however i dont look good with a shaved head which sucks. Really before i was losing my hair and still today i dont think there is anything wrong with guys who are completely bald but i always felt that the bald look wasnt me and never will be. I just think this has to be a mistake, but i know its not. How can this be? Guys please give me your thoughts it could really help.

Thanks YG

Listen Young Guy, some girls like the gay spiked hair and straight across hairline, and the other half thinks those guys look gay and that half likes the more manly and masculine hairline with the higher temples. For that thinning in the front look, my advice is take your medicine and get to the gym, chisel that face!!

That really does cut down on the balding and makes it less noticeable. If you have a fat, round face, it's gonna make your hair look more thin. Eat right, get on a stationary bike and burn about 400 to 600 calories a day, and lift weights. You'll look like a stud type 2. Don't worry though, most guys are gonna lose the punky gay hairline as well.

Man did you read any of my post? FYI i have a realyl good build and live a very active lifestyle. I run jog go to the gym and eat really well. I have always been very atheletic and in great shape. Everyone thinks that if you have an amazing build that girls are going to flock all over you. It does help a lot but really hairloss takes away from your self image in a way. Honestly hairloss realyl doesnt bother me as much as it used to but sometimes it still gets to me.

YoungAnd Thin-

I totally relate to you man. I just think life kinda screwed me sometimes. Like why did this have to happen to me at 18? I meen jeez in the prime of my life 2. I mean really i pretty much accepted it now but its still hard sometimes. I just wish i didnt have to worry about going 100 percent bald by the time im 30 and really get my life started. Just sucks. Its comforting to know you guys feel my pain.

 

[wangho75]

hmm, my hair hasn't changed much from 18 to 29 like I am now. I was thinning a bit at 20, but my hair is still manageable.

 

[hardcastle]

YG, I know where you're coming from completely. There isn't a person on this board who hasn't gone through the same thing: initial horror, attempts at denial, gloomy visions of loneliness and ugliness eternal. It sucks. It really does. But there's hope, and you should keep a few things in mind:

(1) You're young. That means you'll still be young when they come out with a fix. The general consensus on HM seems to be that it will be along in five to ten years. Worst case scenario, you'll be in your mid to late 20s by the time you get this fixed once and for all.

Fact is, the hair research industry ten years down the line isn't going to be close to where it is now. Look at the progress being made. Mid-80s, they have Rogaine. Ten years later, there's Propecia. Less than five years after that, you start hearing about dutasteride and other remedies, and now there are companies like Intercytex and Bosley saying they'll have some sort of HM treatment out in four years. And that's not even covering the progress that's already been made in hair transplantation. Given the ongoing research and the industry potential, I highly doubt that you'll have to worry about going 100% bald by the time you're thirty.

(2) Your vision of the future is almost always way worse than the future is actually going to be. You're seeing yourself losing your hair, becoming old and ugly before your time, losing your friends and your ability to have fun, and pushing through the next fifty years of your life hating the way you look. It doesn't work like that.

First of all, it's been said before and I'll say it again: don't get into the habit of convincing yourself that your hair loss matters to everyone else as much as it matters to you. Trust me, it doesn't. A few of my good friends are in their early 20s, and they're losing their hair, but I never really noticed or cared about it until I started losing my own. And when I did care, it was to think: I'm not alone on this.

People are always more accepting of how others look than how they themselves look. Example: if you're in class and you see a guy with a stain on his shirt, you probably aren't going to think twice about it if you notice it at all - assuming it's not a huge, shockingly ugly stain, it's just the way the guy looks and that's all. If you're the one with the stain, though, you'll be thinking: crap, I've got this stain, everyone's looking at it and they think I'm a slob. They probably aren't, but it matters way more to you because you're self-conscious. Same with hair loss.

Second point: personality counts. A lot. This isn't just some trite saying cooked up by bald guys to make themselves feel better - I've seen it in action enough times to know that it works. And I don't mean that you have to be a charismatic social machine before people will stop caring about the state of your hair. One of the guys I knew in college who had fairly noticeable hair loss was pretty quiet and reserved, but one of the nicest people I knew. Girls were always remarking on what a great person he was. No one was making snarky comments about his hair, even when he wasn't around.

I've written a freaking book here, so let me just wrap up by saying that this is something that blows when it's new and gets to be progressively less of a problem as time goes on. When this first hit me, I was a wreck for a good four months. Then I started researching options and the future, and I've got my hopes back. In the meantime, life is going on. You just have to do what you can do until something better comes along. It will, and in the meantime, you have a life to live. Don't spend all your time thinking about how great your life would be if you weren't losing your hair, because even if you weren't, there would be something else.

If you ever want to talk, feel free to PM. We're fighting this one together, and there's hope.

 

[thechampishere]

TRUE, TRUE, AND TRUE to what everyone is saying..... its been 2 months to the year before i starting to notice i was loosing my hair...and im 19 now.....really blows. I have like a N2 but thinning all over....if it wasn't thin all over i woudln't care at all cuz my ahirline wouldn't even bother me if it stayed in place....but i can't stand the diffuse look it looks like a disease. I keep my hair very short and it looks pretty good...but undboutely i would look better with it longer. I've been on rogaine for 6 months and finasteride for another 3.....i'm still sheddding hella hard and finasteride is definately messing with my libido, but i dont really care about that cuz I had to much to begin with, but on top i still shedding hard as hell.

I'm really muscular 5'9 200 with like around 8-9 percent body fat so i mean i can pull my ahri being so short off better than most...but it still sucks terrible balls. I know in teh future i will get a hair transplant when/where/how much i dunno....probobly armani that guy is godlike with hair. I don't go out as much...but that doens't bother me really cuz I wanna keep training to walk on for football at my school.

Point is this sucks, I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. To those who can deal with it, kudos to you, you are a stronger man than me. For those of you like me, I feel what your going through and will continue to battle (yes i mean battle) through this.