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this is my 2nd post on this forum, after having used the info from it for 6 months to formulate some sort of regimen that won't destroy my life and MAYBE JUST MAYBE will maintain my hair...i won;t hold my breath though.
The point of this thread is to express my current thinking about hair loss treatments, the effect on confidence etc, and to bring perhaps a different perspective to the area than seems to get preached here a lot of the time. These are just my ideas and may be bu££%hit, but maybe they can be of value to someone.
For me the major thing to consider with my regimen and desire to regrow hair is the balance of hair vs. side effects, which include the well documented limpness, fuzzy head, lack of energy, gyno(!!) etc from taking medicines, but also and PERHAPS MORE IMPORTANTLY the lost time and energy spent on worrying about your success/failure with regimens and treatments. I've been through this, and it was terrible. The constant worrying meant i spent hours on these forums looking for answers, and missed out on a few months of my life when i was overseas in a hot country and beautiful city!
From reading thousands of posts on this and other forums, it seems obvious that the number 1 reason people want to regrow or maintain hair is to be more attractive to women.
I'd like to start by challenging the idea that you will necessarily get more women because you have more hair.
look around you and i'll guarantee you'll see a lot of balding men who still get great looking women. I'm sure it's far rarer to see men with breasts (gyno) getting great looking women, or men who can't keep or get an erection having great looking girlfriends. (p.s. i'm very sorry if you have these issues...)
From experience, women want fun, energetic, iinteresting, confident men who have a direction in life. Obviously looks are important, but they don't get you very far without anything to back it up.
Confidence is the number one thing that gets you women, mainly because the more women you speak to, the greater your chance of one liking you! And confidence in yourself generally means you speak to more women.
Now, i know people will say "but how can i be confident without hair" or "looking like i do (i.e. bald) destroys my confidence". BUT, it is entirely possible to change your own set of ideas about yourself, and any ingrained negative thinking that has been with you for a long time.
I've read thousands of posts on various forums, many of which seem to run along the theme of "when i get hair i'll be so confident and i'll get so many chicks". Rubbish. There is no miracle cure to confidence with women. The only way to really improve is to go outside, see a woman you find attractive, feel your heart pound, your head spin, and hear the voice in your head saying "i can't do it, i can't do it..." and go over to her anyway, speak to her, maybe embarrass yourself, maybe get her number, maybe just have a little chat and then walk away. Whatever the result (even if you feel like you fucked it up and embarasses yourself) it will make things easier next time.
If people on these forums spent 1/100th of the time on here out meeting and talking to women, they'd get so much practice that pretty soon it'd be second nature, and women would jump at them!
Personally i've been through all of this, and more, including incredible fear of public speaking and interviews. How did i get over this? I joined a public speaking group, went along, got so nervous that i couldn't speak the first meeting, and then just finally did it the next time and it was **OK**. NOW I LOVE IT!!! For interviews, i went to lots of interviews for jobs i never really wanted, starting low and working up, getting practice, realising that i can still go into that room and do well even though i'm sweating and my heart is beating 160 beats a minute.
As a little guide, here is a short list of what helped me with general confidence issues, meeting women, getting more out of life (i've been trying things for 3 years or more):
- NLP - intro books that taught me how to change my ways of thinking and motivation
- a paul mckenna confidence book and CD with some great exercises that built up confidence, motivation and desire
- meditation, particularly a free course at the london theosophical society.
- public speaking group - cost very little to join, and i made massive strides in giving presentations/interviews and even MEETING WOMEN because of it!
- spending more time and money on doing interesting things in my city and around the world, and less on hair products and worrying! Go to brasil, india, see the world, anything! There is so much to see and do out there.
- writing down what i really wanted from life (hair wasn't on the list!)
- taking the plunge and speaking to women at bars, on the street etc
- part time job as a waiter - met LOTS of women and cool people through this
now you may ask why i'm using minoxidil and finast if i say all this, but the bottom line is that i WILL feel slightly, but only slightly, more attractive with more hair. It's like im 95% of the way there confidence-wise and hair would add 3 or 4%.....without any of the things i listed above, i'd be down about 30%, and the hair would still only add 3 or 4 %!!
if i feel even the slighest side effects, i'll cut down to 0.5mg every 3 days, and maybe even get off finast all together.
well that's it :lol: i know it's long and many may dismiss it.
I wish everyone good luck with getting your hair back, and i thank everyone for the information that i gleaned from your posts and stories.
I've got a regimen that i'm happy with - it's not working yet but i figure i'm trying, i've got other things to do with my life and it's only been 5 months on this regimen (i used propecia and minoxidil a couple of years ago too). I'll wait 2-3 months before adding other stuff if i feel it's necessary.
all the best,
still trying
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this is my 2nd post on this forum, after having used the info from it for 6 months to formulate some sort of regimen that won't destroy my life and MAYBE JUST MAYBE will maintain my hair...i won;t hold my breath though.
The point of this thread is to express my current thinking about hair loss treatments, the effect on confidence etc, and to bring perhaps a different perspective to the area than seems to get preached here a lot of the time. These are just my ideas and may be bu££%hit, but maybe they can be of value to someone.
For me the major thing to consider with my regimen and desire to regrow hair is the balance of hair vs. side effects, which include the well documented limpness, fuzzy head, lack of energy, gyno(!!) etc from taking medicines, but also and PERHAPS MORE IMPORTANTLY the lost time and energy spent on worrying about your success/failure with regimens and treatments. I've been through this, and it was terrible. The constant worrying meant i spent hours on these forums looking for answers, and missed out on a few months of my life when i was overseas in a hot country and beautiful city!
From reading thousands of posts on this and other forums, it seems obvious that the number 1 reason people want to regrow or maintain hair is to be more attractive to women.
I'd like to start by challenging the idea that you will necessarily get more women because you have more hair.
look around you and i'll guarantee you'll see a lot of balding men who still get great looking women. I'm sure it's far rarer to see men with breasts (gyno) getting great looking women, or men who can't keep or get an erection having great looking girlfriends. (p.s. i'm very sorry if you have these issues...)
From experience, women want fun, energetic, iinteresting, confident men who have a direction in life. Obviously looks are important, but they don't get you very far without anything to back it up.
Confidence is the number one thing that gets you women, mainly because the more women you speak to, the greater your chance of one liking you! And confidence in yourself generally means you speak to more women.
Now, i know people will say "but how can i be confident without hair" or "looking like i do (i.e. bald) destroys my confidence". BUT, it is entirely possible to change your own set of ideas about yourself, and any ingrained negative thinking that has been with you for a long time.
I've read thousands of posts on various forums, many of which seem to run along the theme of "when i get hair i'll be so confident and i'll get so many chicks". Rubbish. There is no miracle cure to confidence with women. The only way to really improve is to go outside, see a woman you find attractive, feel your heart pound, your head spin, and hear the voice in your head saying "i can't do it, i can't do it..." and go over to her anyway, speak to her, maybe embarrass yourself, maybe get her number, maybe just have a little chat and then walk away. Whatever the result (even if you feel like you fucked it up and embarasses yourself) it will make things easier next time.
If people on these forums spent 1/100th of the time on here out meeting and talking to women, they'd get so much practice that pretty soon it'd be second nature, and women would jump at them!
Personally i've been through all of this, and more, including incredible fear of public speaking and interviews. How did i get over this? I joined a public speaking group, went along, got so nervous that i couldn't speak the first meeting, and then just finally did it the next time and it was **OK**. NOW I LOVE IT!!! For interviews, i went to lots of interviews for jobs i never really wanted, starting low and working up, getting practice, realising that i can still go into that room and do well even though i'm sweating and my heart is beating 160 beats a minute.
As a little guide, here is a short list of what helped me with general confidence issues, meeting women, getting more out of life (i've been trying things for 3 years or more):
- NLP - intro books that taught me how to change my ways of thinking and motivation
- a paul mckenna confidence book and CD with some great exercises that built up confidence, motivation and desire
- meditation, particularly a free course at the london theosophical society.
- public speaking group - cost very little to join, and i made massive strides in giving presentations/interviews and even MEETING WOMEN because of it!
- spending more time and money on doing interesting things in my city and around the world, and less on hair products and worrying! Go to brasil, india, see the world, anything! There is so much to see and do out there.
- writing down what i really wanted from life (hair wasn't on the list!)
- taking the plunge and speaking to women at bars, on the street etc
- part time job as a waiter - met LOTS of women and cool people through this
now you may ask why i'm using minoxidil and finast if i say all this, but the bottom line is that i WILL feel slightly, but only slightly, more attractive with more hair. It's like im 95% of the way there confidence-wise and hair would add 3 or 4%.....without any of the things i listed above, i'd be down about 30%, and the hair would still only add 3 or 4 %!!
if i feel even the slighest side effects, i'll cut down to 0.5mg every 3 days, and maybe even get off finast all together.
well that's it :lol: i know it's long and many may dismiss it.
I wish everyone good luck with getting your hair back, and i thank everyone for the information that i gleaned from your posts and stories.
I've got a regimen that i'm happy with - it's not working yet but i figure i'm trying, i've got other things to do with my life and it's only been 5 months on this regimen (i used propecia and minoxidil a couple of years ago too). I'll wait 2-3 months before adding other stuff if i feel it's necessary.
all the best,
still trying
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